To find DPs behaviour last night really mean?!

[shouldIbecrossaboutthis]

Ok ladies, I am after a bit of perspective; I am a regular but have name changed in case I get a thrashing!

I am 10 weeks pregnant. Every evening I get really bad nausea, not actually sick, but feeling like I might be sick. The only thing that makes it go away is eating crappy food, but sometimes I feel so sick I can't stand to cook.

Last night was a bit like that. DP offered to go to the supermarket to get some super noodles [shame] but they really help with the sickness. He then cooked them for me, which I was very thankful for, said thanks etc. He also made his own dinner from leftovers. I cleaned everything up.

I then had a bath and went to bed @ 10pm. Fell asleep in bed with the light on waiting for DP to come up. He came up 10.30ish, woke me up, got into bed and then refused to turn of the bedroom light!

I also refused to turn it off as we have the rule the last one in turns it off. It's not like he even politely asked if I would turn it off. He just point blank refused to do it!

AIBU in thinking this was mean? The only thing I can think is he felt hard done by getting me some super noodles and cooking them. Should I be more understanding? Was I as bad as him by not turning it off?

upahill we have one! Sadly it's not over the bed, as it was put in before we bought the house. It's on his side of the bed but he has to stretch to reach it TBH.

If you are both 4 years old this thread would make sense.

How about a bedside lamp on each side of the bed? That's what we have - don't most people have them? I like to read, hubbie prefers to go straight to sleep, I have my light turned low to read, then reach over about 8 inches and turn it off all by myself!

Anyway, if he was last in the room then he's the one who should have turned it off.

YANBU he was being an arse for no good reason! Why on earth would he not turn it off when he was next to it and he's definitely BU expecting you to get out of bed to do it after you'd been asleep. I'd have just done it myself in that situation but he would seriously have gone down in my estimation. What an idiotic way to behave. Was he pissed off about something else?

shouldibecross They are fab ours is above us, right in the centre so no auguments about reaching over and pulling the switch.

Get a catapult.

Hey presto! Problem solved.

Last one in bed should always turn the light off it's just good manners really. Next time don't leave the light on.

No he was being an arse for some reason. Get bedside lamps.

Good one bloodymofo haha

Now THAT makes sense!

Night vision goggles. Then you wouldn't need to be turning the light on at all.

Tether, catapults in the bedroom could lead down a path no one wants to go down ...

yeah....maybe he did want to sleep with the light on too!

Can't wait for the next question....

We have a 'last one to bed puts the remote in front of the SKY box so the light doesn't wake me us up'

We have bedside lamps but last one to bed should turn the light off imo.

Given he had fetched your food, then cooked it i'm sure you could have managed to turn out a light!

You're pregnany not incapable of doing things for yourself, perhaps he's getting fed up of you playing the pregnancy card alreaady.

He should have done it.

Does he often behave like a 9 year old or was this a one off?

Yes it is a silly thing to argue but it is the principle of the thing the OP is arguing about.
I can't believe how many people see it as a non issue. It was rude and lacks respect. Surely most people would have this as an unwritten, probably unspoken rule. It is decent manners and consideration for others.
Yes the Op could have turned it off herself, yes they could prevent that particular issue arising by buying lamps/remote controls etc but that ISN'T THE POINT. She had been asleep, was feeling ill, was woken up and HE WAS VERY INCONSIDERATE. I would be upset too. NOT a truly huge issue but I would expect an apology and an acknowledgement that he was in the wrong.

bluddymofo at 4am this morning I was bloody furious to have to get out of the bed to turn it off, I can see how to tohers it might seem funny and pathetic, but at a freezing cold 4am, it was v v serious indeed . I left the light on because he said he was coming up, I accidentally fell asleep waiting for him.

HenriettaFarthingay DP hates reading by bedside lamp, so we don't have any. "Anyway, if he was last in the room then he's the one who should have turned it off." Thanks, nice to know I'm not going mad!

OP comes across as being a bit 'precious' IMO

OP goes to bed leaving light on. Why??
Her OH is perfectly capable (as someone else said) of switching the light on when he comes to bed.

OP says she also refused to turn light off...

How childish. They are expecting a baby and are going to have to be really REALLY grown up. If they are squabbling about such PETTY things...how are they going to cope with the responsibility of looking after a baby?

You shouldn't need to contact a bunch of strangers on an internet site about something so trivial

Does it matter?? Really? YABU

*Waves to Mofo - Hi Mofs!

You are right, OP. The last one in the room should turn the light off.

In future, don't bother leaving it on for him, just turn it off and go to sleep.

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