The relationship section of MN makes my blood boil.

[aaaaaaaaargh]

I will never set virtual foot in there again. I have imprints on my forehead of the keyboard from where I have been banging my head against it. It makes no SENSE!!! I have a jaw like Jacob Marley. There are so many threads like this:

OP: The other day I was a miserable cow, kids were stressing me. He came home to a complete shithole and then proceeded to clean up. I could sense he was a bit miffed at the state of the house so I told him to cook his own fucking dinner. He wanted to tell me about a problem with work, but I was pissed off and told him I wasn't interested, tell someone who gives a shit. He then shouted that I didn't give a toss about him and stomped upstairs. I can't live like this anymore.

Reply: He cleaned up?? How controlling is he? He then tried to make you listen to his work problems? What about YOUR problems?

Reply: He's emotionally abusive, but you know this don't you.

Reply: Definitely controlling, he doesn't care about what you want. He wanted to make you clean up and listen to his problems. Why the fuck are you cooking his dinner?

Reply: He shouted at you? This is abusive behaviour. You don't have to put up with this, you need to really think about how to proceed. Has he shouted before? This isn't normal.

Reply: Well actually, you weren't too pleasant to him. Perhaps you should look at YOUR behaviour.

Reply (to above poster): Great support there, this woman lives with an emotional abuser. Don't speak if you haven't got anything constructive to say. Don't listen to that poster OP.

Etc, etc....

I know that a lot of people in seriously abusive or violent situations have been helped in this section, and that that is an extremely good thing, before you point that out to me.

But some of the replies on other threads!!! Madness.

getting easier - I bet it was your 'charming personality' that got you through

I've seen some slightly OPs on relationships, but seen (and received) some great advice too, so think on balance YAPBU. Gettingeasier I've reported your post, there's no need at all for that kind of nonsense.

Bollocks.

YABVU.

HTH

I skip over some of the indulgent threads (there aren't many) and read some of the long-standing threads written by some truly fantastic women who have come through whole heap and out the other side. They really are inspiring and even if I can't equate to the experience I find myself mentally cheering them on, they're amazing.

Rubbish. I'd say that, of the whole of MN, Relationships board is the one where the most serious stuff goes down, there are very few trivial whines and reading it quite frankly makes me cry sometimes, in sadness at the horrible times people are going through and at their courage. I would love you to show us one or two threads which have made your blood boil...

That would make it into classics, surely.

Not brave enough to post that under your usual name?? Just because you think you are right, doesn't make you right - or 'enlightened' or whatever.

You just made that up, didn't you OP ?

Your pants are on fire

Sorry the Relationships section of MN makes the OPs "blood boil" ? With a little disclaiming sentence athe end that she knows some of it is valuable ?

OK I retract my post if it hasnt been deleted . OP YABU OK ?

Smells like shite to me

10p says OP comes back and says "I'm not linking, go and look for yourself" or some such. Or doesn't come back at all.

My pants are crawling up my arse

Why the reference to 'handmaidens'? It's a really offensive term to use about another woman.

I remember once where
An OP had sunk her nails into her husband and drawn blood for the 4th time and one had had to be looked at as it was quite messed up.

I read it like this because lots
Of people were saying it was ok and he was emotionally abusing her. I just read it as a they had an argument...

But those are few and far between! On the whole relationships is a great section with sound advice although sometimes I feel people are very quick to shout EA after one argument or label people as toxic

Iyswim

And the point of this thread is what, exactly?

If it bothers you that much, simply hide it. And then you can leave those who post on that part of the site to help others in very distressing situations to get on with their invaluable work.

Oh, and don't bother posting when you find you have a problem, will you? Just in case you get some useful advice from other posters.

you see, I have hidden that Topic because I am single and having recently come out of an upsetting (but not abusive) relationship, I would wince every time a thread came up (my problem, obviously).

Instead of ranting and raving about it on AIBU though, I just hid the topic.

I don't get why so much angst at what other people say/do/ask advice on. If you don't like, don't read - but keep away from stirring up trouble and definitely no personal insults (quite shocked by the vitriol of gettingeasier 2 wrongs and all that)

xpost getting

Post under my usual name???? My blood might be boiling, but I'm not insane!!

This is my opinion, I don't have to justify it.

I will not be linking as I'm not going to highlight individual posts out of respect for the OP's. Just go read the section.

I did point out that not all posts were like this, don't conveniently forget that.

I would love to see this thread the OP is banging on about. As I haven't seen anything like that. The Relationships section on MN is one of the best parts of this site. Some wonderful posters give amazing advice to a lot of us that need it.

YABVU but you knew that hence the name change!

Right, you all owe me 10p now

Well if it is just your opinion and you aren't going to back it up then nobody can say whether YABU or not. So what is the point of starting this thread?

I have been and looked at the relationships section and I can't see any threads that resemble what you are describing.

This is my opinion, I don't have to justify it.

Maybe not, but in posting in AIBU you are asking others to judge and justify your opinion.

Or am I missing the point of AIBU.

Should it be renamed I Am Right, Just Agree, There's A Dear?