My husband has just rung me to say he's spent £30k on a car....

[Openmouthedshock]

I am still trying to pick my jaw off the floor...

Who the fuck does this?

Why would you do this without consulting your wife?

What the fuck do I do?

He's home in 20 minutes.

I've namchanged!

Fucking bastard...

Why is it that the sensible child carrying vehicle is automatically the woman´s?

It IS dripfeeding because it starts off giving impression that husband has bought a car without consulting AND blown the DIY money in the process.
Then we find out that the car had been discussed and he'd just gone over budget, and there was money about to pay for it.
Who knows whether the overspend was really that much?

Try rephrasing the AIBU...

AIBU - my H spent £5k more than agreed on car, WIBU to say that as that £5k was ear marked for home improvement he'll need to sub it from his personal account not our joint account?

See - far less dramatic. Storm in a tea cup, and I'm not sympathetic when OP can move from drama queen 'fucking bastard' to saying well it's a nice car in a short space of time. People waste time replying in support of a dramatic OP that turns out to really not be so big a deal!

Now he's got a nice car tell him he's on school run duty for the next 10 years.

diddli - in our house it is DH who has the bigger "family" car, although it is a nice one tbf. I have a little Fiat 500 through choice. I love it, but it woud be impractical as a family car. I have to "borrow" the bigger car is I am needing to take more people about.

As for resale value, my H returned his 645 (2005) 18 months ago at end of finance period - instead of paying balloon payment to keep it. The dealership sent it straight to auction, the collection company said the Market was awful in this type of car. Think this one is a diesel so that might help. But I'm LOL at someone saying it's a good price whatever the age! Nonsense.

Cabrinha

Because that's what mnetters do best ;-)

what colour is it?

i bet it's silver. so boring.

With 30k to spend, your PD was an utter idiot to buy a boring old BMW. He could have at least bought a car worthy of that sort of money.

If DP bought a new car wihtout consulting me first I wouldn't care, tbh, because I trust his judgement when it comes to spending money, and because I know it would be a car worthy of driving and being driven in.

devere i would have been livid...

a Manta?

FFS. i thought they were 'pretty cars' when i was small. never considered buying sth like when an adult though... similar to the Capri in the 'likely to wrap itself round a lampost' stakes...

does that make me boring?

whoever said that you should be able to buy without consulting because you should 'trust' each other..that trust comes from consulting each other and not buying stupid things!!

the op said they had 'agreed a reasonable sum'..not that they had agreed on this car..

having bought this car, he now isn't going to get another, more practical one, see?

the choice is made. Aside from anything else, i'd rather enjoy going round dealerships trying cars out and would be annoyed to be removed from the decision.

oh

this is a knickers in a twist over eff all then isn't it??

so the only quibble really is that the car was over budget, and he has private funds to cover this?

I'm just imagining what it'd be like to have lots of different 'pots' of money with at least 30 grand in them. Must be nice.

I can top this. My husband bought a house without asking me. Bloody hated that house.

Eddless I showed that to OH and he said 'yeah but mine was black'

Like that makes a difference

A red BMW. Gauche.

My husband bought a house without asking me.

Out of curiosity, what was your reaction?

That was to northwestnutrition BTW.

I was not happy. It was an odd circumstance though. We had a sale fall through and had just left our sold property so needed somewhere to live. He convinced me it was temporary.

I have some MAJOR "I told you so" mileage now though as he admits it was a mistake.

In return, I bought the house we are now in without him seeing it. He didnt see it until the day we moved in.

(That is a very understated "i was not happy" by the way)

Gauche is now my word of the week.

well it could have been worse - he could have brought a car that he could drive like this idiot

Oh well, I suppose at least it's given you the moral high ground in every argument since.

The most important question hasn't been asked yet: do the indicators work?

Do the indicators work? Probably not - BMW's don't appear to need them. No car seems to cut me up more.