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My husband has just rung me to say he's spent £30k on a car....

291 replies

Openmouthedshock · 27/01/2012 20:07

I am still trying to pick my jaw off the floor...

Who the fuck does this?

Why would you do this without consulting your wife?

What the fuck do I do?

He's home in 20 minutes.

I've namchanged!

Fucking bastard...

OP posts:
LowRegNumber · 28/01/2012 18:54

I love these threads, people get all wound up because op has the audacity to not be poor! Also get knickers knotted because op has the bad grace to actually see the funny/lighter side of an argument and refuse to understand that discussing things outside someone else's price range is not always boasting!

Goodness me, op dh spent extra money without asking, op was cross but gradually realised it was not such a big deal and there was a solution to the problem. End Of Thread.

I am sure people sometimes just can't bear to lose out on a juicy argument so decide to turn in the op so they have something to fight about!

Good luck op, hope you manage to get plenty of mileage out of this one Grin

RabidEchidna · 28/01/2012 19:02

My first husband went to the supermarket to get some steak and came home with a ford Sierra, its a bloke thing

Avantia · 28/01/2012 19:11

Before we were married but living together ( no Dc at that time either ) I went out and traded in my car for a sports car - didn't tell DH and turned up at is work one day to pick him up in it - he didn't know a thing about it - had to trade it on about 18 months alter for something far more sensible as was just about to give birth to DS1.

Looking forward to my DH's mid life crisis so we can have a sporty car in the family again ! Grin

LaurieFairyCake · 28/01/2012 19:15

It was an impulse buy.

Near the checkouts.

AngiBolen · 28/01/2012 20:01

I told DH about this thread. He laughed and said "Good man!".

AngiBolen · 28/01/2012 20:05

In the cold light of day, if DH spent all our savings on a car when I was planning a new kitchen extension and bathroom, I would be a bit peeved.

More than a bit, actually.

But he would pay. Which is why he wouldn't dare.

TattyDevine · 28/01/2012 20:19

I don't get how someone can "stealth boast" when they have namechanged. Okay, so if you are well known on here and have built up a profile, and did a thread like this in your normal name, fine, you could be accused of it because now everyone knows that Getorf/Tatty/LadyEvenstar/Fabby or whoever has 35k here or there to spend. But she namechanged. So she's just a random anybody.

So if you namechange and are a random anybody, if you wanted to "boast", and the boast means nothing really because nobody knows who you are, surely you'd just say "I am so glad we have various incomes and nest eggs and whatnot put away, damn its good being financially comfortable!"

But the stealth boast thing always gets brought out by somebody. Why? There's no way to have the discussion without mentioning the amounts.

But its a simple fact of life that some people do have more cash than others. What's the problem with that? If you don't like your own financial position, fine, but accept that others will have more. No matter how loaded you are there's always someone more loaded than you.

Sure the OP may have been a bit melodramatic considering its all fine really, but I just don't get the stealth boast thing when a person has namechanged - it means nothing if you don't know who they are and as such they can't really be boasting can they?

EdlessAllenPoe · 28/01/2012 20:27

how is 'my DH is a raging tit who did something without consulting me' a stealth boast?

my DH loves hearing these threads because they make him think he is a really great husband in comparison.

AngiBolen · 28/01/2012 20:28

DH has now said "That is unbelievably selfish!"can you imagine me spending money we have to spend on the house on my car?"

And that's coming from a petrol head.

AngiBolen · 28/01/2012 20:30

Yes, my DH is sitting on the sofa feeling like a responsible but also a bit jealous.

HarrietSchulenberg · 28/01/2012 20:32

Lordy - I was cross when ex-H spent £3k on a second hand Focus while I was working part time nights and FT days with the dses for shit money to pay half the bills. But £30k? Time to re-lay that patio, methinks.

happyrf · 28/01/2012 21:41

My dh says well done to your dh...yes I have just slapped him and told him that he is a tit

BumFunHun · 28/01/2012 21:42

Blimey - it all went a bit mental since yesterday evening when I was thinking hitman hire might be a viable option...

Am I right in thinking that when OP's DH returned home, they had a chat about it, and as it turned out, it wasn't quite so much as an issue as it first appeared to be, her DH can replenish the house funds with some of his own cash, and actually, she quite likes the car, so his balls didn't get crushed after all?

If so, fair enough - enjoy it OP...hope he had the decency to put you on the insurance so you can have some fun in it too though :)

BumFunHun · 28/01/2012 21:43

I'm not showing my DH this thread though...he's been after a new car for months, but the shit pit house needs doing up first!

Morloth · 28/01/2012 21:54

Luckily DH is even tighter than I am, so getting to buy any car was like pulling teeth.

BMW

BarkisIsWilling · 29/01/2012 14:23

yy to what you say TattyDevine, plus she was posting while under the influence. Which waxed and waned.

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