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My husband has just rung me to say he's spent £30k on a car....

291 replies

Openmouthedshock · 27/01/2012 20:07

I am still trying to pick my jaw off the floor...

Who the fuck does this?

Why would you do this without consulting your wife?

What the fuck do I do?

He's home in 20 minutes.

I've namchanged!

Fucking bastard...

OP posts:
thisisyesterday · 28/01/2012 13:23

can I just say... i bought a new car and drove it away there and then

so it IS possible.

jus sayin

Sparklingbrook · 28/01/2012 13:24

Was it 30k thisis? Grin

catinboots · 28/01/2012 13:26

Has there sparkling?

Sorry not read whole thead Blush

thisisyesterday · 28/01/2012 13:27

no lol
don't think i've ever had that much money in my life!

methodsandmaterials · 28/01/2012 13:28

So the real issue is that he used the wrong stash of £35K?
I love this kind of ridiculous thread.
Grin

methodsandmaterials · 28/01/2012 13:29

Hasn't anyone said "leave the bastard"?

LtEveDallas · 28/01/2012 13:33

Haven't seen any venom from the OP, but certainly a lot of back biting at her.

I'm also confused by the amount of posters saying he'd spent 'a bit more' than he should, so what's the problem etc. OP says We had talked about and had agreed on a reasonable sum, but this was a lot more than planned

agreed on a reasonable sum but this was a lot* more.

We don't know the figures involved. Could be that he was supposed to spend 10K - but has spent 3x as much. Yep, I'd be pissed off too.

As for the 'pots'. We have pots. One for the 'buying a house' fund. One for the 'holiday' fund, one for 'children' fund and one for 'general expenses'. We also have DH fun money and Eve fun money. They are there for present buying and to spend on ourselves. I really don't see what is wrong with that?

TheSecondComing · 28/01/2012 13:36

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Sparklingbrook · 28/01/2012 13:38

I think telling someone to 'fuck right off' is fairly venomous Dallas.

Thingumy · 28/01/2012 13:41

Bit of a non problem if you have the money.

LtEveDallas · 28/01/2012 13:42

Well, you know, maybe the OP said that because she ummm, wasn't. Why think the worst of her straight away? Very negative reaction.

MN is pretty horrible today. It's gotta be all the shitty 'benefits cap' threads. People are hurting and worried and it's all coming out in a horrible way.

Look, I hope the OP was just an honest rant. I'm happy to think it was. People still get hurt no matter how much money they have.

Sparklingbrook · 28/01/2012 13:44

I don't know what to think TBH.

LtEveDallas · 28/01/2012 13:44

Ahh but the fuck right off was a someone being horrible to her was it not? Someone dig dig digging...

Morloth · 28/01/2012 13:55

We have enough money for DH to do this. It wouldn't be a 'non problem'.

It would be a great big fucking problem for me if he just blew that amount on a car without at least running it by me.

For your average person you don't get to have pots of money if you don't think carefully about purchases.

KirstiesHomeMadeCrap · 28/01/2012 14:01

I have decided few pages ago and was called a cunt, jealous bitch and all sort. If you have a money you don't shout about it...yeah and great holiday, lovely house....suddenly dh wasn't a dick, car was nice and it wasn't a big issue

MrGin · 28/01/2012 14:21

Thing is, OP said he'd spent the money earmarked for doing the house up and due to this expensive car and his 'idiocy' they wouldn't be able to do so.

She was going to 'chop his head off and piss down his tubes' , 'give him an upper cut' and crush his balls.

As it transpires, he is able to replenish the house fund from one of his pots of money.

So his only sin is to be impulsive with his own money.

I've yet to see a thread on MN that suggests women should ask their DP how they can spend their own money.

I have a picture of the OP and her DP happilly cruising around in a nice shiny Beemer discussing colour schemes and fittings.

And good on them. As said, bit of a storm in a tea cup with a bit of a 'aren't men awful' slant.

loopylou6 · 28/01/2012 14:21

Yeah, deffo stealth boasting. A bit like...

omg I've just accidently on purpose pressed buy it now on a 10 thousand pound sofa. What am I gonna do? I was only supposed to spend £9,99.99. Oh but its so beautiful, it has wine glass holders and electronic reclining and a self cleaning fabric

< wrings hands >

Grin
wahwahwah · 28/01/2012 14:23

DBIL came home with a new pick up truck. It had 2 seats. Dsis made him take it back, as where would they put the three kids and dog?

Garliccheesechips · 28/01/2012 14:27

#firstworldproblems

Lizzylou · 28/01/2012 14:35

He shouldn't have just bought the car without talking things through with you, the fact that he did shows that he knew you'd try and talk him out of it.

Hope you get your house sorted, can understand why you're unimpressed.

Those big BMWs are rather, ahem, flashy and large and you know what they say about men and big cars. So I have to ask...
Does he have a very small penis? Wink Grin

hellokittyrules · 28/01/2012 16:49

agree various pots Hmm i wish we had 1 pot let alone various

TheCokeMachine · 28/01/2012 17:27

If he could afford it and this has not impacted your family funds then why not?

If I want a new car I would just buy one, I don't need to ask my husbands permission and the same goes for him (not that we have £30k kicking about in a pot, but if we did...), it would be a non-issue in our house.

lockets · 28/01/2012 17:38

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Garliccheesechips · 28/01/2012 17:57

nonwithstanding, it's a really boring thread.
Can't we stick to sandpaper wanking hedgehog cam threads from now on?

EdlessAllenPoe · 28/01/2012 18:00

rally? so if over your cider one evening, you agreed your dh could get a car for £500 to run about in, in principle, and he came home having spent £1000 on a car (and a sporty one that costs more on insurance even if it is a knackered out piece of crap) without asking you, the fact he could make up the difference of £500 from his hobby fund would make that fine?

It is the Not Being Asked that is the problem, surely?