to not want to lie about the fact that DP shagged a prostitute?

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I've thrown him out. He still denies it though.

People are asking me why I threw him out. Obviously DP would like me to keep to stum. Should I keep it to myself for the sake of a quiet life? I haven't told anyone yet.

I would ask for his test results in writing tbh. It's not like you can trust him not to lie.

So sorry you have to go through this

The sort of arseholes who would tarnish your reputation because of this creep's behaviour, are the sort of arseholes who will already be doing so because you've thrown him out and are therefore probably an hysterical, unreasonable bitch.

I feel incredibly sorry for all those women out there who feel dependent on the good opinion of people with such a lack of integrity, that they would ostracise a woman who was open about her refusal to tolerate such disgusting behaviour from a partner.

It must be like living in a cage.

OP, you rock.

Clinic would never give tests results out to a dp,so tbh I wouldn't hold breath for that. Unless he consents to showing you results documentation and any treatment plan

As OP has slung him out and won't be having him back, then unless he's got something like syphilis, where he would have to tell all his sexual partners from quite a long time back, his results are pretty irrelevant to her; I do see she might want to know just for closure though.

Concentrate on yourself OP, don't worry about him.

OP, you said he claims he didn't go through with it and he's claiming he met your from work instead.

So, when he told you he visited a prostitute to try to cure is ED, when was that?

Was that before you met him or while he was with you?

Telling people who asked is fine.

Putting out an announcement is bordering on neurotic paranoia.

He slept with a prossie and it stinks to high heaven.

Just don't do anything **JUST out of revenge because revenge really doesn't feel that good in the cold light of the metaphorical day.

I think you're being quite dignified about all this OP. It's your decision. Don't let other people tell you what you should do.

In your shoes I wouldn't like to think that people were being sympathetic towards him. I'd be tempted to make it clear he crossed a line, even if you don't wish to disclose details

Curing his ED was why he 'considered' going to a prostitute. It's all so sordid and pathetic now I see it written down.

I've only read half the thread, sorry.

OP, I wish I had told people when something awful happened to me. I didn't and there were terrible consequences which I couldn't foresee. Because I hadn't said anything at the time, I felt I couldn't say anything when the shit hit the fan. I kept quiet. I shouldn't have, but I thought I was protecting my kids (like someone else mentioned earlier). I wouldn't have broadcast it, but I definitely would've let my friends and the people it ended up involving know (iyswim).

Let the supportive family and friends know. Put people right if it happens to come up. And you'll probably find that you won't need to exact any revenge - that will all be taken care for you. And to hell with anyone that wants to make gossip of it, they're the ones not worth bothering about.

Be careful what you say OP. A friend of ours found out her husband was a sex addict who had been contacting strangers for sex, meeting 50 women in the time they had been going through ivf and while she was pregnant with twins etc... made us all sick to know all the details, then watch as she took him back and repaired the marriage. As her friend I had to support her decision and treat him with kindness too... others couldn't do it so she lost friends over it.