Bloody stag dos

[LoopyLoopsHootyHoots]

3 x weddings (so far) to attend this summer. 2 x stag dos. One wedding is child-free - tricky with a baby and toddler but hey ho.

DH has just asked if he can go on a stag do. Undecided city in Europe for a weekend. Every year there is at least one stag do abroad and it drives me mad. UK ones I can cope with - he can do one night or even two but it doesn't cost the price of a small holiday and take up valuable family time.

We go to a lot of weddings. DD (2 1/2) has been to 14.

AIBU to ask DH not to go? He will go to the other UK one, and to all the bloody weddings.

he is exhibiting twat-like behaviour

does that sound better ?

< remembering that actions maketh the man, and woman >

I have a feeling that even if loopy asks dp not to go on stage do abroad she has a sense of inevitability that he's either going to kick up a bit of a stink or go anyway, hence her posting on here, but I don't mind being completely wrong!

is this thread going to turn into a love-in ?

I'm in no fit condition to express amour.

Tired bloated and old :)

susie, loopy assures us that when he made a similar unreasonable request last year, when she was pg, she took strength from MN and put her foot down and he didn't go

so, it's a bit sad she has to ram the point home again and he is thinking too much of what his mates will think again but loopy's common sense will prevail again

He won't kick up a stink, he certainly won't go, but I will feel bad. That's the trade-off. Hey ho, better than he go and I'm pissed off, right?

Love-in yes. And we did it all without Hully! All by our iccle selves!

Twat-like behaviour I can deal with. Criticise the behaviour not the person...

shall I just sit on your lap knee then, foglike ?

I am quite light and dainty and won't put my full weight on your old knees

But I can be a twat too. Probably more than he is tbf.

I borrowed hully's love sword

the old bat hasn't even noticed

You need those high-sided armchairs with doilies on the arms to st on and dangle your legs over hers.

It's been a long and horrible day. Why am I thinking of doilie-clad armchairs?

Hully's love sword.

grim.

Why will you feel bad? If he doesn't kick up a stink and is happy to not go and agrees with your point of view what's to feel bad about?

It's an offer that is probably the best i've had this year Anyfucker.

But I have to decline because I don't need a toygirl (Is that the term these days) :)

< hands susie the Olympic baton >

Because he won't be happy not to go. He will feel sad and left out. But not cross or sulky, just sad.

I've done my bit for Queen and country (and loopy)

And that's another thing. The fricking Olympic torch thing. Who the bloody hell cares? And where will all the traffic go when a bloody poncey sporty lighter is carried around the villages?

loopy "sadness" is silly in a grown man

it's a guilt trip

don't fall for it

Oi don't bugger off and leave me here!!

And, moreover, WHY?

What is he allowed to feel AF?

erm, susie, and where the feck where you last night ?

I can't keep up with all the threads this place way too fast for me

"sadness" is for when something bad happens

when his mum dies, when his dc are poorly, when he loses the winning lottery ticket

missing out on a skanky booze up (when he still gets to go to at least one other, as well as the weddings themselves) is what happens when you commit to be a family man

he is a committed family man, yes ? So he is prepared to prioritise family money on the family

nothing to be "sad" about

it's happy thing, unless he resents the fact his family stop him from having fun of course...but he doesn't feel like that, at all

Just finished work and still in my grotty uniform, off for a shower, hope you get it sorted loopy without too much hassle.