To not care what DH thinks of my appearance.

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This is a long running argument between DH and I.

I have changed hairstyles a few times since we met, when I had long jet black hair.

He hates short hair, and he doesn't like my hair colour(white, almost grey).
So although my hair isn't that short, I did cut it(myself) into a bob last week. He got a bit moody and said why would I do things to make myself deliberately unattractive to him.

The thing is I could never imagine myself not experimenting and trying new
Looks, it's part of what I do. And no, I don't really take into account what he thinks.

Should I?

af i didn't feel targeted :) but you are right that a lot of people, myself icluded, often go............well my DH or my life or my whatever which doesnt help

my dh has a beard and drinks gin. :) i dont mind that but am thinkng of pointing out to him that his t shirts dont cover his tum and shopping or a diet seem like a good idea :)

I dont like it when OH grows stubble because it really hurts when he kisses me. So I tell him that. If he really wanted to remain stubbly that would be ok but he would have keep his face away from mine

I would expect him to try and keep himself as healthy as he could because we both have a responsiblity as parents and partners.

But dear God dont tell me what to do with my hair.

I have been going my own merry way since I was 14. Buggered if I have got to nearly 45 for someone to sulk me into having a certain hair do

I don't think my DH really likes my hair

When he met me, it was blonde and shoulder length

it is now cut very short and allowed to go dark

if I tried to maintain my 20's self I would look like a ridiculous person

as would he

especially since massive shoulder pads and shiny jackets were all the rage back then

time, and life, moves on

my time, my life, my hair end of

Unless you are a hairdresser never cut your kids or your own hair only expetion if your homelss and have no money

It's nice to do as you please but nice to be attractive to your oh to

maypole you are a one off

Well I mean it might be it just looks shit if your not a hairdresser then it might be a bodge job

anyfucker I wrote a post along those lines but it got all long and waffly so i deleted it.

Can you imagine

When I met OH I was wearing a platinum blonde wig and silver lame marilyn dress and silver glitter 6 inch heels.

Not that practical on the school run and what would my families think if I turned up on their doorstep and introduced myself as their Portage Worker

I like a lot of honesty in my relationships but NOBODY tells me what to do with my hair

And I work with a woman who is a grandmother and near retirement age. She has short spikey Purple hair, and looks bloody fantastic.

hehe MrsDV

Regularly putting yourself out to please your partner above yourself seems a bit to me. Yes, you want your oh to fancy you, but shouldn't that mean you, not any specific physical trait. Shouldn't relationships be between people who like each other, not people who change themselves into what their partner prefers?

In conclusion, OP, I think your dh is being a twasoc.

Omg is this thread on planet Stepford!