to feel awkward about lesbian nanny

[WhatTheNannySaw]

I have name changed, for obvious reasons really as I am well prepared to get a flaming and would prefer that particular spectre not to follow me round MN.

I am also fairly ashamed/embarassed that I feel like this, it doesn't square with how I have previously viewed myself as pretty liberal and relaxed about everything and as such I have got myself fairly stressed about the situation and would really welcome some brutal honesty.

About a month ago I employed a new live in nanny, lets call her Sara. I wasn't aware that she was gay when I employed her. She is great with the children and I have absolutely no issue with that side of things, I should also stress that there is no question of her losing her job because of her sexuality, I realise that this is my problem not hers.

The problem is I just can't relax, it is not that I imagine that she fancies me but I suppose I feel the same as if there was another man in the house - I would be concious of the way that I dress, be more covered up etc and so I am with her around and as a result I am not doing the things I usually would.

DC4 has a room off mine, which means Sara sometimes sees me getting dressed or with a towel wrapped round me. In the morning I would come down a breakfast time in shorts and a cami PJ's but now feel uncomfortable. I am also more concious of getting my boobs out when I BF DC4.

I am being ridiculous aren't I? And I know I am behaving like a twat but I can't help but feel all wrong in my own house.

Yes you are being ridicolous, do you really think everyone fancies you???

Tries one more time

Your problem seems to be nudity in the home around others. I get why you might not feel comfortable being nude around others. But did u not consider this when getting a live in nanny? Why is her being lesbian compounding the issue? Seriously, why?

Ffs sake zombie thread

Fucking zombie thread

Why do some people care so much that it's an old thread

Because it's probably been resurrected for the wrong reasons!

It's not actually affecting anybody in any way, i couldn't bring myself to get all sweary and worked up over something as small as seeing a resurrected thread

And people speak to the op, offer solutions and comments to a long dead and buried question. It's a waste of everybody's time.

What SOH and BIWI said.

They are always really long threads too so nobody bothers to RTFT .

Zombie threads are brought back to life by 'new users', we have yet to realize their motive... (imagine those ellipsis as 'Duh, Duh, Duh!')

Do zombies breastfeed? And if so, how are they about other zombies watching?

I think that it's slightly unfair to liken a lesbian woman, to a strait man. They are totally different :P

Has she done anything to warrant this kind of behaviour from you? Like perhaps make a move on you or stare at you lewdly, or something? No. I suppose if that had happened, then you could safely feel justified in your assessment. At the end of the day OP, she's just another human, just like you.

I've got a lesbian sister who would lol at this thread.

Her argument is that just because she can fancy another woman, it certainly doesn't mean that she fancies every woman who walks by. In fact, like most women, she needs to feel an emotional connection first.
Because there is still a bit of a stigma in society regarding homosexuality, it takes her ages to even come out to another person, let alone make a move on one and she would certainly never bother with a strait woman.

So, you know what? You're entitled to feel how you feel, but be aware that you're turning it into a negative thing needlessly.

The way you are feeling is one of the reasons why I think that your nanny is quite brave for making her orientation clear to you.

Ah really? Zombie thread? I put effort into that response.

A good reason to RTFT!!!!

YABVU. Would you assume that every bloke you met fancied you? Don't flatter yourself. You say she's good at her job, so stop being so judgmental and let her get on with it.

Boop! IT was 4 feckin years ago!

And again. RTFT!

Yes I see that now, and feel suitable chastened