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.....to be upset and pissed off with DH's reaction over sexy dress up

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homealone1 · 31/12/2011 21:18

So.....pre kids we were at it like rabbits, lots of role play, lots of dress up.

3 kids in 5 years later and it's all about poo and sleep habits.

I thought...we're staying in new year's eve so wht not make the most of it. I put all the kids to bed and came down for dinner in a school girl's outfit, fishnets and heels.....and he just laughed! I didn't feel sexy - just felt like an idiot.

We had a row over dinner about something else but no doubt triggered by how I felt about his reaction.

AIBU?

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RomanChristingle · 31/12/2011 22:58

All the people on here who think it's fine/normal etc would you feel the same if the dh was your teenage dd's teacher?

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homealone1 · 31/12/2011 23:01

roman yes because as i stated earlier its all about behaviour and not feeling

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squeakytoy · 31/12/2011 23:01

It is all about having FUN... you know, fun.. that thing where people have a good time... in a healthy relationship.. with each other.

Role play is harmless no matter what you dress up as, so long as both partners are happy with it.

A grown woman, with breasts, and an adult body, is not a child, even if she were wearing a babygro!

Being a teenager at school is when most people first experiment with sex, with someone their own age.. all perfectly natural. Reliving that a little with the person you love is completely and absolutely harmless fun.

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homealone1 · 31/12/2011 23:02

thankyou squeaky

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squeakytoy · 31/12/2011 23:03

All the people on here who think it's fine/normal etc would you feel the same if the dh was your teenage dd's teacher?

Why not? he isnt sleeping with a teenage girl, he is having sex with his adult partner. If I got my husband to dress up as a pirate, he still wouldnt be Johnny Depp. It is about looking at the person in the clothes, not imagining it is a different person.

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homealone1 · 31/12/2011 23:04

DOG its about being naughty, breaking the rules, being saucy, being punished....do you wish me to go on?

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Backtobedlam · 31/12/2011 23:05

I'd just like to add we had loads of fancy dress nights at uni and I essentially wore the same outfit. Short black skirt, tight white shirt, fishnets and high heels, but just changed accessories. This covered me for back to school, 999 (as a policewoman), secretary, witch at haloween, and probably others that I can't recal. I think it's the outfit that turns guys on, not the thought that it's a school girl. I can see why you are hurt and I would be to OP, but don't let it put you off. Could you get away for a night in a hotel? Away from home, no washing up, no jobs, no kids upstairs in bed...I'm sure his reactions would be completely different then.

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abbierhodes · 31/12/2011 23:06

Lots of couples met at school, and the schoolgirl fantasy is just a reminiscence sort of thing. Just sayin.

LineRunner · 31/12/2011 23:09

A lot of judges have been notoriously dismissive of sexual assaults on school girls on the grounds that the men were 'understandably' aroused and tempted.

Defence lawyers still try to peddle it to juries.

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homealone1 · 31/12/2011 23:09

DOG id love to meet you.

ok,time for bed me thinks - put the babba to bed and see if i can entice DH with said outfit again....only kidding!

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squeakytoy · 31/12/2011 23:10

You arent imagining you are fucking a schoolgirl. You are imagining your partner as a schoolgirl, which is a completely different thing.

Most 15/16yo girls spend half their days hoiking their skirts up at the boys in school, and flirting.... and most 15/16yo boys lap it up! All perfectly natural and has been that way for years and will continue to be so.

For an adult couple to engage in a bit of fun with the woman dressed up in a school uniform is not sinister, perverted, or even unusual. Its just a laugh, nothing more.

ZXEightyMum · 31/12/2011 23:10

I suppose I am a bit innocent. I'm thinking of he St Trin's Carry-on films which though horrible in retrospect were sort of better than this awful barely-legal internet stuff.

The thing is though about naughty "schoolgirls"; in days gone by school uniform was worn by teenagers WELL PAST puberty. So not noncy for the time. My own mother was an old maid at sodding nineteen and she was extremely pretty and petite and young-looking.

I am now haunted my visions of myself in DD's polo-shirt and mittens on a string. Time to leave this and have more wine Hmm Grin

LittleGnu · 31/12/2011 23:11

What a ridiculous thread....really made me laugh!

BandOMothers · 31/12/2011 23:11

Oh whatever abbierhodes a lot of women on here are SO naive!

Listen...if the average scholgirl uniform was a potato sack then some men would want their wives or other halves to dress in them...because it's the IDEA of fucking a minor that gets some men going.
Yak once again!

RomanChristingle · 31/12/2011 23:11

Well I wouldn't be happy if I knew dd's teacher was sat there becoming aroused by her (of course I likely wouldn't know) but in principle feelings would definitely matter to me and if I had the choice I would prefer her to be taught by someone who didn't have a thing for young girls.
Whether any harm comes of it isn't the issue to me. Of course people who ONLY fantasise about schoolgirls are less bad than people who groom and assault schoolgirls. Are paedophiles who whack off to the Mothercare catalogue not doing any harm because they aren't abusing kids? Whether anyone is harmed is irrelevant as to whether someone would want to be with the type of person who fantasises about schoolgirls, animals, babies, rape or whatever.

abbierhodes · 31/12/2011 23:14

BandOMothers Sat 31-Dec-11 23:11:38

Oh whatever abbierhodes a lot of women on here are SO naive!

Sorry, what? Because I don't agree with you?

RomanChristingle · 31/12/2011 23:15

Most 15/16yo girls spend half their days hoiking their skirts up at the boys in school, and flirting.... and most 15/16yo boys lap it up! All perfectly natural and has been that way for years and will continue to be so.

I agree that that is natural Squeaky. It is when you're still perving at 15 yo girls into your 20's/30's/40's that you become a perv.

squeakytoy · 31/12/2011 23:15

Listen...if the average scholgirl uniform was a potato sack then some men would want their wives or other halves to dress in them...because it's the IDEA of fucking a minor that gets some men going

I would say that was a very very small minority of men. Hmm

RomanChristingle · 31/12/2011 23:17

I agree that women on here are being naive if they think that men who want them to dress specifically as a schoolgirl aren't fantasising about a teenager. There are plenty of outfits to choose from that aren't worn by girls aged 16 and under.

LittleGnu · 31/12/2011 23:18

BandOMothers Sorry, you're the naive one here..! If you look at Wikipedia's article, it may help you a bit!

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Uniform_fetishism

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