AIBU to not want friends to change nappies in my living room?

[Nappiessmellbad]

I have name changed for this as I don't want friends to recognise me and it's my first post in AIBU and I'm a wimp.

About six months ago, we had about 10 friends round for dinner. One couple had a toddler. I was in the kitchen serving up and returned to the dining table in the living room with the food. The parents of the toddler were changing their nappy at the other end of the room and I must admit I blanched - there was poo everywhere and it stunk. The smell lasted through the first course and when they left, my DH and I both said how rude it was.

Last week we had a different set of friends round for a meal on boxing day and again, one set of parents had a toddler. When we finished our meal, the toddler announced he'd done a poo. The parents started changing the child on our carpet with no changing mat and leaving the rolled dirty nappy on our floor.

As this has happened with two different sets of parents, are we the uptight ones or is this gross? We have a perfectly functional bathroom.

(I promise I'm not the poo troll)

Op was offering soft towels not a cold hard floor. Yes it is rude. Are toddlers not changed standing up as they are normally in pull ups.

OP, you are so not being unreasonable.

A friend of mine recently found poo stuck in between the floorboards of her sitting room after a friend had changed her toddler's nappy on the floor without a changing mat. Tsk. Didn't help that my friend is as OCD as... well, I am.

You should always take a stinker out to the loo for changing.

i have a folding mat that is padded and big enough to change a toddler on, his head would be on the floor but i would just put a rolled up towel under his head! if you dont want to change your child on the bathroom floor and the host doesnt want you to do it in the living rm then go and change it in your car, our boot has space to lay down a mat and change a nappy or one of the seats, whatever but you dont change it where the host doesnt want you to!

Well why don't you invest in a better one, I have a lovely one which is the full length of a baby which us nice and cushioned.

I have no problem at all with friends changing the baby on my sitting room floor, but my friend did learn a lesson when she tossed the pooey nappy on the open fire.

People three streets away threw up on the smell!

Toddler or indeed baby poo is not OK unless NCT group or some such, eve nthen, changing mat please. I recall a frined changing her 2 year old and it smelled just like adult shit

I either offer up the spare bedroom or bathroom

redrubyshoes. I am really, really gobsmacked at that

piglet I have never ever seen a particularly cushioned folding one, how would a cushioned one fit in a standard change bag? Mine are standard folding change mats that look the same as all other folding change mats I've seen.

its not an issue anyway, noone has ever suggested the bathroom floor to me so I don't need to switch my change bag for a rucksack to carry full padded change mats and towels

I never see the need for changing a child in public. Not even for a wet nappy. Other than what the contents of the nappy are, I also like to respect his privacy and don't think it's appropriate for everyone having his willy flashed in front of them.

A few weeks ago at a toddler music group a mother sat next to me in the circle we were sitting in asked me to hold her baby (about 5 months old I think) and she went off, came back with nappy and wipes and changed a dirty nappy there and then. Other than the stink, I was a bit horrified that she thought it OK to allow him to kick around in the buff for a few minutes infront of a load of strangers while she faffed around with folding up the dirty nappy and getting the clean one ready.

Christine

She had never had a real fire and I think she just assumed that it would burn anything. Nappies are plastic and a poo filled plastic nappy is not the best thing to burn on an open fire.

well i just googled and loads came up, plenty of them padded, not as much as the big mats you have at home but padded enough, vaude do one that comes with their ruck sacks and it folds into 4, basically in half and then half again, nice and padded and big enough to change a baby/toddler and fits into a change bag or back carrier etc. cheap as well.

Tigerlilly, babys bottoms are perfectly innocent, and everyone at a baby group has seen one

ReduceRecycleRegift - Everyone has seen an adult bottom too. Doesn't mean we all go to the toilet infront of others.

adult bottoms are less innocent.

that vaude one has little or no padding it is thin like my change mat.

yes but it wouldnt be ideal if a baby weed/pooed all over the floor at the music group would it? i am all for letting my kids have some bare bum time at home or in my own garden but not when out at a bloody toddler group, its not ok, i dont give a dam about the nudity issue but i dont think the organiser of the group would appreciate the mess on the floor!

what vaude one did you get, my one is at least a cm thick so plenty of padding, bloody hell they are going to be fine on a laminate wood or vinyl floor anyway with or without padding!

babies lay on the floor anyway when playing the sit on the floor and crawl on the floor as long as they off the floor WHY do they need to lay on a padded mat?!!

redruby - Well she'll know next time won't she? :o

Havent managed the whole thread but hopefully someone has said that next time you have friend including a kid in nappies over, when they arrive tell them straight away that you've put an old towel out in the bathroom for then to lie on, along with a carrier bag for them to put their nappy bag in ready to go into the bin.

That way you set expectations and if they say that it's no trouble for them to change in the lounge or anywhere but the bathroom, you can just tell them that some other guests had an unfortunate incident when they did that and you're not prepared to risk it again so please use the bathroom.

Should be possible to say this perfectly nicely and not cause any offence but still get the nappy changed in the bathroom.

Yes it is gross to change a dirty nappy where food is being served, also to leave shitty nappy on the floor.

However do your pals know how unwelcoming you are?

YANBU at all, it really annoys me when people do this is my house.

Whats worse is when they don't wash their hands afterwards (puke). As soon as friends start towards their nappy bags I suggest they take themselves and toddler to the bathroom.

I wouldn't invite anyone to change a nappy on my bed either.

Nappies smell bad....but dont you like going out in non mummy clothes,without kids,just the 2 of you? im long past the small kid stage,but i certainly would not welcome toddlers,small kids,babies at dinner parties..small babies can come a tlunchtime ,and I certainly would not be making a different meal for them...Its nice to have non child time.

Reduce - actually I didn't offer a hard floor at all. With the first couple, if I'd seen in time, I would have asked them if they minded going elsewhere while the food was being served (into the hallway with equivalent flooring perhaps) but with the second couple I had a 10 second window to ask them not to change there and I didn't. They're very sweet and usually very thoughtful so I was wondering whether I was being unreasonable. I let them change in the living room and decided to ask here so I'm prepared in future. Now I know some parents are worried about a cold hard floor or bending I can make sure I have somewhere comfortable and waist height.

Goldbow - I'm definitely not unwelcoming, occasionally fussy yes, but not unwelcoming. :)

Redruby - I nearly laughed the baby out at that story - ick!