to just be a bit shocked by what I found on our computer today?

[MrsJangleBalls]

Disclaimer - I was not bloody snooping!

Well only a little bit. Long story but bear with me...

I am currently trying to download iCloud. It says to go to Networks and Sharing. Well it wasn't there, but access to my dh's files was. His pictures file. Now I know he collects pictures of nude wimmin because I've seen him looking at them before. So I thought I'd take a peek at the kind of thing he was looking at. It was pretty harmless, just lots of posed pictures of naked women, etc. That wasn't what shocked me.

There were over 13,000 pictures.

It was like a fucking library. There were folders, sub-folders, categories, sub-categories, different fetishes, a whole folder full of folders of different women with hundreds of pictures of them in each one (and each one was named!) not to mention folders of lingerie, etc.

Now I know I probably got what I deserved, but 13,000? That's bloody years of collecting it. There's no way I'm going to tell him I've seen it. I didn't touch it, just looked through it. He obviously doesn't know I can find it.

I feel like I ought to be impressed at the sheer scale of it. I'm tempted to move it and wait for him to start asking panicky questions about whether the computer has gone wrong or not.

Peanutbutter; Sorry,you are right,but I'm assuming he's not ' shit in bed'.

OP still hasn't explained why she is unable to articulate her concerns to her husband

Several more posts I see, that take no account whatsoever of that, but rather appear to be reinforcing to her that she should be ok with it, and that anyone who isn't is not with the programme

how depressing

AF - yes I do like you that's why I keep coming back!

< ignores everything else on thread >

< puts blinkers on and cosies up to RJ >

ahhh, Dick Emery, that brings back some memories < reminisces >

I also watched a very old Parkinson interview with Morecambe and Wise the other night. That was lovely. I even ate some bonbons as I viewed. Life-affirming stuff, not remotely depressing or designed to make women feel like shit, no sirree.

What was wrong with my post to get it deleted?

Is it because I mentioned the T word?
Yet lolly's inane ramblings stay put, marvellous.

That's democracy.

i tell you what i want to hear from the men on this thread... not the tired old 'all men use porn' line...

i want to know how they think their partners really feel about their collections, in light of what they have read here, which is imo broadly negative about porn and porn-users.

is it a bit like this?

all men use porn.

all women do not know this.

even if women find out, and we know that it makes them unhappy when they do, which is why we hide it, they just have to roll over on this one because A MAN'S RIGHT TO WANK MUST BE PARAMOUNT.

A Man's Right To Wank Must Be Paramount.I think Abraham Lincoln had that down in the first draft of the Gettysburg Address.

AitchTwoOHoHoHo - My partner is largely disinterested in my porn collection as it's too vanilla and soft for her tastes.
Next question.

I'm not a man so cannot speak for them but I would not want a man who wasn't into erotica and porn at least to some extent. If most men find their wives aren't that's great news for me. It means there are heaps of men out there for me. Lucky me.

Also surely most women masturbate too? I feel sometimes I am in a parallel universe on here.

All men wank where medically well. Very religious men wank the most. If a man attempts not to wank he will have wet dreams, rige erections.

Men are well aware some women disapprove and hide it which is super easy to do now will tube sites and internet in phones

No they don't.
Ignorance is bliss eh?

Ok, I have to ask, WTF are rige erections?

Wanking does not have to involve looking at porn. I've known quite a few men who have evolved sufficiently to just use their imagination.

Are you typing one-handed, UR?

Quick question for the porn wankers - how do you check if the women in the porn you watch are freely consenting?

I think some people like drawn pornography, in order to side-step issues of exploitation.

three people have 'recommended' this thread... wonder which three?

swb, how would you feel if your partner didn't like your porn collection, or just decided to tell you that she didn't feel comfortable with it? would you delete it?

I have to take issue with the fact that idiot boy thinks that women disapprove of masturbation.
People are (yet again) confusing porn use with masturbation, just because a man or woman has objections to porn, that does not mean they have issues with their partner masturbating (or not).

v true about the wanking, bof. we should not get wanking and wanking over porn mixed up. plenty of people manage to masturbate using their imagination rather than a pic.

x-post. yy mal

URall - I wank, have done since I was about 15. But there have been times I've stopped, for one reason or another. My longest period of abstinence has been three months. I've never in my life had a wet dream that wasn't preceded by an unfinished wank, and aided by tight underwear. I can count them on the fingers of one hand, and none of them occurred during any of my periods of abstinence.
Please cite data that supports your claims.

Can I ask the people who do not approve of porn a question?
Is it the fact that your other half is watching other naked ladies acting in a sexual manner therefore you are jealous?
Or is it that you see porn as an explotation of women?

I think we should get back to the topic in hand.

I would photoshop a picture of my stern face onto all of them or replace them with 13000 pictures of men .

I think that some of the men do have the topic in hand