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To have taken most of my nearly 4 year old'sDD's Christmas presents away

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Pinkiemum · 26/12/2011 19:49

And some of her other toys as she scribbled all over a mouse mat we had made to send to my father for his birthday. It had a photo of her and her baby brother on it and now I have had to order another and hope it arrives in time so I can send it to Australia for his birthday.

She was actually being punished at the time for being naughty and should not have been doing anything apart from sitting on the naughty chair in the study. (The reason we took the other toys is we don't think she will really notice the loss of her Christmas presents having only had them for one day)

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MamaMaiasaura · 27/12/2011 21:45

You can start a fight with you dh so she gets her toys. What sort of controlling arsehole wouldn't let a toddler/preschooler have their toys. All fucking sympathy gone AngryAngrySadSad

smackapacca · 27/12/2011 22:16

I have just PMd you. I think people have grossly over reacted to your query. no-one is perfect; you're doing the best you can. I have a nearly 4yo and I can completely identify your predicament. Good luck to you.

festi · 27/12/2011 22:32

Have not read the whole thread as its 8 pages so imagine its a bit of an YABU bung fight but I dont think YABU Op. a 4 or nearly 4 year old knows better I elive your dd done that out of spite, albeit a 4 year old spite and so does not truelly understand her own feelings or behaviour and so that is what discipline is for, let her know/understand it is wrongf, im sure she can earn her toys back in the space of a week and so she will understand and aknowledge positive behaviour and reinforcement and so her behavoiur will improve.

I have a friend who sets no discipline or expectations and so hers dcs behave appalingly, this is a doese of what they needf in my opinion and will do no harm.

If 1 yr old 18 months old. but, honestly they should know better at 3 or 4 and I dont think you have done wrong OP .

simpson · 27/12/2011 22:37

My DD is nearly 4 and a real handful and tbh if she did the same thing there is no way I would take away her Xmas pressies Sad

I would blame myself a bit and wonder how she got a pen (a) unsupervised and (b) that she was able to find a pen in the first place.

Naughty step enough IMO (and I am pretty strict)

redglow · 27/12/2011 22:39

I am really glad you had a nice day pinky, it shows that today your daughter got lots of good attention and you all had a better day.

SantaIsAnAnagramOfSatan · 27/12/2011 22:42

was this for real?

hohohoshedittant · 27/12/2011 22:45

A three year old should be able to be left to sit unsupervised. A three year old should be able to be left with pens and trusted not to draw on anything other then paper. A three year old should know the difference between a piece of paper for drawing and a mouse mat.

A three year old who damages something in temper should be punished. Confiscating everything seems a bit harsh, maybe a favourite taken and earnt back with good behaviour.

SantaIsAnAnagramOfSatan · 27/12/2011 22:47

a 3yo with a parent who believes taking away all presents on boxing day is a form of parenting is more than likely to have some odd quirks behaviour wise because funnily enough they are products of their parenting.

redglow · 27/12/2011 22:50

I doubt if the three year old missed the toys today, she probably had a niceday getting attention from her parents.

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