To be annoyed after visiting the Feminism section?

[Laquitar]

Sorry, i know its Christmas but i got annoyed.

I really dislike threads of this nature because they always bring out people who can't wait to pile in and have a go.

It's a bit to early for me to post anything particularly coherent but I will say I like the feminist section and don't recognise the characterisation of it as being populated by extremist bullies. That's unfair and a misrepresentation, IMO.

They bring in people who have had bad experiences on feminist threads and want chance to say so.

Not that it ever does them any good!

"I expect that she wanted a full range of views and saw the pointlessness of posting on the feminist thread."

Whereas AIBU is a bastion of objectivity and thoughtfulness!

Any maybe you haven't been bullied and taunted with 'report it then' or ridiculed for thinking that you were being bullied, or had everyone else appealed to as in 'silly exotic-where on earth did she get the idea she was bullied'

At least on AIBU you can have remarkably silly views and someone will agree with you!!!

In all seriousness, exotic if you think that is happening you should report it.

FWIW I've reported bullying scenarios myself. Its completely unacceptable IMO.

"At least on AIBU you can have remarkably silly views and someone will agree with you!!!"

Can't disagree with that one - I've seen some shocking stuff posted on here.

If feminist analysis is putting people off the feminist section, it's possibly for the best

I see that this is the sort of response OP got when she did post!! Why is it for the best? (because we don't have the right credentials for the club?)

It was said in the way the playground bully says 'tell the teacher then'. They know that they are bullying, but it all sounds silly when reported. It only succeeds in the victim sounding wet, and I never want to be a victim anyway.

As far as I can see the MN Feminist board members mainly cleave to a very hardline interpretation of Radical Feminism, and seem to be mainly interested in rape/abuse.

I find them in the main impossible to have a rational discussion with, that they hunt in a flock on any one thread and will harangue, Hector and harass, and many have finessed being rude to just that point where the post isn't reportable.

That said, I think the pov is often a useful challenge, it always makes me think even though I usually disagree, and I think the board absolutely should exist.

There you go-time for me to leave. You have my sympathy Laquitar-banging your head against a brick wall is simpler! Happy Christmas to all.

The phrase there is 'gaslighting', where one notes a practice of rounding on people if they disagree with the 'party' line, or insist there isn't a 'party' line, or hand out the tiresome accusation of 'rape apologist!!' as a first and last line of argument. The gaslighting bit comes in when a number of posters insist non of that happens, when you have just witnessed, and experienced, it all.

I like the FS a lot. But can see why a thread like this isn't commenced there. It would be gaslit to death.

It is interesting that my name was remembered and the thread, and yet I have forgotten what it was about and don't recognise HandDivedScollopsrGreat (maybe a name change thought)

sorry -though not thought.

NICEy - waaay too far re drownings. Reports for that one.

( you're also losing perspective butthat's another issue imo)

very amused at OP being annoyed at Feminist section, and then coming to AIBU to bitch about it .

To me the F section is saner....if a bit less fun than aibu

No name change exotic. Maybe you don't remember me because I wasn't rude to you and you just ignored my posts. The OP barges onto a thread, was rude and we are expected to be sweetness and light. Nice.

'I am more amazed by the posters keen to line up to declare their anti feminist credentials.'

And there we are, you see? To not agree with the the 'hardline Radical Feminist' slant, as Whatme put it, to shrug your shoulders and go 'meh' to or 'actually I see a few shades of grey in there' on some of the more hair-splitting feminism threads, makes you 'anti-feminist'. It's a criticism that is levelled at women again and again.

I am not a bird-watcher, ergo I must be seething with deeply unpleasant anti-bird watching feeling.