to be sitting here crying on Christmas day? Need hand holding, please.

[JaneFonda]

I'll try and make this as short as possible. (Sorry, this is sort of another MIL one, hope I'm not BU just for that!)

Basically, me and DP have been together since we were teenagers, and have 4 DCs together. We're not planning on getting married, neither of us are religious and we're happy as we are. DP's mum (I'll call her MIL, just easier) hasn't ever been happy with this arrangement - previous thread showing she's very strongly Christian!

Anyway, the plan was for me, DP and our DCs to go over to PIL's for Christmas dinner, and stay overnight for a walk on Boxing Day. DP has been in a lot of pain recently - the GP suspected appendicitis, but sent DP away on the warning to go straight to hospital if anything worsened. At lunch, he suddenly deteriorated and was rushed to hospital to have his appendix out. Thankfully, it was done in time and there are no problems.

I went to hospital with him, and he's now in overnight but I had to get back for the DCs (DTwins are only 4 months). I felt absolutely awful leaving him, but he's really just sleeping now so we agreed I'd go back to PIL's and then return to the hospital in the morning.

I got back to PIL's and after about 5 minutes, MIL pipes up with: "Are you off now then?" I was a bit confused because the plan was for us to stay over, but she said if DP wasn't here there was no point, because Christmas is meant to be for 'real' family. I thought she was joking a bit, so laughed and asked her if that meant we're not real family, and she said that I am certainly not, because me and DP aren't married, so perhaps I should go, but DCs could stay for the night.

Obviously, I wasn't prepared to leave my DCs there and go home by myself, so drove me and my four lovely DCs home, trying not to let them see me cry. They are now snuggled up watching Ratatouille and I've popped upstairs to have a sob.

AIBU to feel like MIL has ruined the Christmas afternoon? Or WIBU to take the DCs home with me, when I'm sure they wanted to spend time with their grandparents? Feeling so alone and worried, even though I know DP will be fine, I feel awful that I've left him. :(

Berry op did not give a time when she had dinner, don't know where you got that from

One post Berrycard?

What a specific post on a specific thread to make

meant lunch sorry, I tend to call everything dinner. Hope you are feeling better today, you need to take no shit from that woman.

One has to start somewhere, doesnt one. Brush. What specifically do you mean, specifically.

Welcome Berry pull up and chair and explain your complaints with the OP because I suspect your BS radar has had too much Christmas sherry.

Sit. No that was clearly you !

OP you have behaved with utmost dignity in the face of appalling behaviour. Your MIL is a Witch. You have not caused anything, she has. I think it might be an idea to have a word with your FIL as he is probably fully aware of what she can be like. If not, no harm in letting him know why you left yesterday.

This woman is toxic, quite apart from the way she treats you, she is not fit to influence your DCs. Obviously, you and DP can decide what to do about all this once he is better.

I know, I would not be so dignified towards your MIL if I were in your position. I would have given her a few home truths before going home.

Berry , reign it in love , .

Op hope your dp is ok and home soon . I know how hard it is with young twins and other kids and a sick dp . My dh was taken into hospital when my dc were that little and it's very hard. Your mil is an utter cunt btw.

Berry just because you couldn't manage it, now don't let the door smack you on the way out.

Droves, you rein it in love.There is no need to use a repulsive word like that.

I think droves uses the word cunt well.

She could have said, Berry stop being and cunt and go back to netmums but no she did not.

Not sure they have doors on Bridges Sweet.

at sit

I dont understand the random and bizarre comments, ill leave you to enjoy an epic 9 page rant about MILs. which im sure you will all love.

Cheerio Berry.

In a way, droves, Berrycard is right. You shouldn't call the MIL a cunt. As another MNer said once, she lacks the warmth and the depth!

JAneFonda I hope you and your dc never have to see the old cow again. She is not a Christian. Jesus was quite a nice guy!

Im not the MIL, i just dont see how this all adds up given the time frame.

Berry if you got a CSI game for Xmas, I'd ask for a refund.

Berry, have you read the rules? tut tut. No calling troll. Janefonda is for real.

How are you janefonda? and how is DH? My DH had his out a few months ago, its scary even though it is routine.

Though you were leaving Berry?

Well that tells you all you need to know about her 'christianity'. Throw that back at her next time she even dares to mention it. Oh, and tell her you broke down and had to stay in a stable overnight - maybe she'll be nice then. Hope DP's ok.

Anyone else really want to point out mary and joseph werent married when mary got pregnant? Just saying