to be sitting here crying on Christmas day? Need hand holding, please.

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I'll try and make this as short as possible. (Sorry, this is sort of another MIL one, hope I'm not BU just for that!)

Basically, me and DP have been together since we were teenagers, and have 4 DCs together. We're not planning on getting married, neither of us are religious and we're happy as we are. DP's mum (I'll call her MIL, just easier) hasn't ever been happy with this arrangement - previous thread showing she's very strongly Christian!

Anyway, the plan was for me, DP and our DCs to go over to PIL's for Christmas dinner, and stay overnight for a walk on Boxing Day. DP has been in a lot of pain recently - the GP suspected appendicitis, but sent DP away on the warning to go straight to hospital if anything worsened. At lunch, he suddenly deteriorated and was rushed to hospital to have his appendix out. Thankfully, it was done in time and there are no problems.

I went to hospital with him, and he's now in overnight but I had to get back for the DCs (DTwins are only 4 months). I felt absolutely awful leaving him, but he's really just sleeping now so we agreed I'd go back to PIL's and then return to the hospital in the morning.

I got back to PIL's and after about 5 minutes, MIL pipes up with: "Are you off now then?" I was a bit confused because the plan was for us to stay over, but she said if DP wasn't here there was no point, because Christmas is meant to be for 'real' family. I thought she was joking a bit, so laughed and asked her if that meant we're not real family, and she said that I am certainly not, because me and DP aren't married, so perhaps I should go, but DCs could stay for the night.

Obviously, I wasn't prepared to leave my DCs there and go home by myself, so drove me and my four lovely DCs home, trying not to let them see me cry. They are now snuggled up watching Ratatouille and I've popped upstairs to have a sob.

AIBU to feel like MIL has ruined the Christmas afternoon? Or WIBU to take the DCs home with me, when I'm sure they wanted to spend time with their grandparents? Feeling so alone and worried, even though I know DP will be fine, I feel awful that I've left him. :(

Oh and THE QUEEN -the head of the C of E!- said in her Christmas message how family was much more than blood relations. Refer EvilMIL to the Queen.

I wouldn't worry about legal shite.

He can write a will (again, don't bring it up while he's in hospital) and even if he didn't the court would most likely see that you've been together years and years, have a home together and have many children.

What a horrid thing to do to you and your children, not only on Christmas Day but when you were at your most vulnerable.

One positive aspect is that you now know her true colours and you never need to go through this again in her home.

I hope your partner recovers quickly and home soon and love to you and your children. You have been remarkably dignified and deserve to be treated with respect.

You must feel exhausted now so I hope that you can get an early night and some decent rest. x

Total and utter cowface of the first order. Read your thread about the book and thought she was a loon, but she's clearly horrible. Your FIL must know what she is like, and by not standing up for you he is complicit, so you shouldn't waste emotional energy on him either.

Hope your DP makes a speedy recovery and she get piles. Or the clap.

What an utter fucking bitch.Cut her from your life and at least you now know her true colours. Please enjoy the rest of your holidays with your kids, happy Xmas to you all.

On re-reading this I've just realised I keep calling your DP DH instead - sorry. I'm an idiot - I can only blame the Baileys!

That's a horrible thing for her to do and so completely unchristian. I wouldn't have anything more to do with her and I wouldn't want her to inflict her nasty small-minded opinions on my children either.

I'd speak with your partner about this when he's out of hospital and not wait a couple of weeks.

Hope you have a relaxing evening at home with the children.

What an awful awful woman. Poor you and your DP and all the LOs. :( dont ive her a second thought. What a bitch.

Oh is this the loon MIL who glued non Christian pages of books together?

You need to protect your children from her. Seriously. She's a total fruit and nut case.

Horrible old bag. She is not Christian, she's as uptight as a nun's chuff.
Hope your DP is home with you tomorrow.

What a horrible woman. She should be ashamed to call herself a Christian. Exactly which bit of the bible says thou shalt act like a complete cunt?

Sorry but Mildly ROFLMAO.

Oh, this is awful.

I wish I could drag you to ours for Christmas, we would welcome you with open arms. I just can't believe with your partner ill in hospital she would expect you to go back alone to a cold house on Christmas Day. Not Christian and I'm sure after your DP is better he will be having a sad and angry talk with her.

I wish I could do something to make you feel better.

What a horrible biggotted bitch. I would never set foot in her house again, or allow her into mine. And I would certainly not allow my children to stay with her. You can't know what ideas she might be putting in their heads or what she's telling them about you.

What a fucking twat. How awful. Totally cut her off and let dp deal with her when he's better. I'm sorry your dp is in hospital Xmas day, how rubbish x

What an awful vile bitch she wouldn't see me or my DCs again!

Hopefully DFinL will step in and show her the error of her ways. What a witch. YASNBU!

I agree with what everyone has said, but at least she has shown her true colours.

You need to make sure that you are protected in every way by a living will because under some circumstances she is his next of kin.

Someone had better tell the old boot that Mary wasn't married when she gave birth to baby Jesus, would she kick her out too? Mary Magdeleine if I remember correctly was the one who was a hooker but made sainthood when she repented and did good deeds or similar, can't remember exactly now but I'm sure you get my gist.

Oooo, is this the page-glued-together lady???

I said back then that she was a fruitloop.

I was right!!!

She doesn't deserve to have you in her family, or your gorgeous children.

Oh you poor thing! What a horrid thing for her to have done! Cuddle you precious children, and concentrate on your dp getting better. When he is home you can both have a talk about where to go from here. I would suggest never near her again.

Well done for makin I home. I hope the silly old cow gets her rewards in heaven.

Not being married doesn't necessarily mean you can't be next of kin. Maybe you should print out a couple of copies of this Next of Kin form for you and DP and make sure you both carry them?