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Am I wrong to think I'm living a Family Nirvana...

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smiledotcom · 10/12/2011 00:24

I've just got one kid. People often say to me "couldnt you have any more?" or "are you planning for another?" or "don't you want a brother or sister for..."

NO!

I have one kid. I absolutely love the fact that I don't have to dilute my attention between more than one kid; I love that I don't have to resolve repetitive minor sibling disputes, that I don't have siblings competition for my attention/affection; that I'm not doing a multitude of "taxi jobs" between xtra curricular activites; that my disposable income stretches further with just one kid;

that actually, parenting of just one kid can be really difficult and parenting of more than one must be (...

I LOVE the fact that I have (kinda) bucked the trend.

I look at people with more than one kid and I think WTF are you doing! Why on earth would you do that!

I've created a family Nirvana!

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MudAndGlitter · 10/12/2011 00:27

I have 2 kids. I must be in hell

cory · 10/12/2011 00:29

I never thought Nirvana sounded much fun: isn't that "the total absence of desire" rather than "getting all your desires fulfilled"?

but as for one child families they are hardly very unusual

RosemaryandThyme · 10/12/2011 00:30

I have 3 - 'tis terrible Mud !

cory · 10/12/2011 00:31

Though to answer your question, one reason I had two children is so they could enjoy each other's company. Which they do and have been doing for the last 11 years. And so I don't have to go round clothes' shops.

DizzyDummy · 10/12/2011 00:32

I have one and am very happy with just one but if I could go back a few years I think I might have had another but as I said I am very happy with just the one (he is gorgeous)

VelcroFanjo · 10/12/2011 00:32

I have 4! Love them all to bits. They can be a nightmare at times but the house is often full of laughter and kids playing together. I would not change things for the world, it may he hard at times but watching the kids grow together and form bonds with each other is worth the hell that can be created by squbbling sibs!
I hated being the only girl, youngest..all of it! I have 2 girls and 2 boys..my only problem is that my youngest wants a little sister..no way will that happen!

tethersjinglebellend · 10/12/2011 00:33

Are the three of you a late 80s/early90s grunge band?

RosemaryandThyme · 10/12/2011 00:34

Some single children came seem a bit odd to me. Not sure why.

teenswhodhavethem · 10/12/2011 00:34

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VelcroFanjo · 10/12/2011 00:34

Grin at Tethers.

effingwotsits · 10/12/2011 00:35

I have 5 and could just wrap myself up in the gorgeous little creatures Grin

cory · 10/12/2011 00:35

"that actually, parenting of just one kid can be really difficult and parenting of more than one must be (..."

that's why I had the second...to spread the hard work around a little Wink

TheSecondComing · 10/12/2011 00:37

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tethersjinglebellend · 10/12/2011 00:37

I'm just saying, keep an eye on the lead singer, that's all.

RosemaryandThyme · 10/12/2011 00:37

Do you think your child might like to have a sibling ?

habbibu · 10/12/2011 00:38

Stop the presses - there are pros and cons to different-sized families. Well I never.

Obviously you're reasonable for yourself, if that's what makes you happy, but you are equally obviously being unreasonable to assume that would be best for everyone else.

habbibu · 10/12/2011 00:39

I don't know what (... means. Is it code?

WorraLiberty · 10/12/2011 00:40

You sound like you're trying to convince everyone that your personal choice is making you happy OP.

Why do that?

I couldn't give a shite how many kids you have and I doubt anyone else here does either Grin

If you're happy that's all that matters...who cares what others think?

MeMySonAndI · 10/12/2011 00:41

I have one, I would rather have 4.

teenswhodhavethem · 10/12/2011 00:41

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cory · 10/12/2011 00:43

Basically what Worra said. Why would anyone who is happy with their choice need to start a thread like this? You are happy, we are happy, your decision is not exactly controversial or unusual.

AlfalfaMum · 10/12/2011 00:45

tethers :o

Swings and roundabouts, OP.. there are advantages and disadvantages to having one, or having 3 (or more).. perhaps you have found the right way for you, but that doesn't mean it's the right way for everyone. You sound like you think your's is the only right way, and you're fucking people off a tad.
Personally, I think you protest too much Wink

Moominsarescary · 10/12/2011 00:47

I have 4 and will have at least one more

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FunkyChicken · 10/12/2011 00:53

One of main reasons we had more than one was for THEM rather than us. When we are old and maybe ill or needing lots of care, or when we die and they face that loss and other trials life will throw at them when we are no longer around, they will have each other to support, help and be there for each other - not face those things alone as a single child. Even if they don't get on in later life, the odds are still better than just being 'one'.