Is the school being unreasonable to leave my ds out because he lost his ticket?

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Ds is 5 in reception. The school did a father christmas today, people dressed as elves came to the classroom to take the children to see father christmas who had come to see them in school and give them a small present. We paid for the tickets £2.
Ds lost his ticket today althoguh they did take a name list when we bought the ticket so they did know we had paid. So when it came to go all the other chikdren went and they kept my ds behind in he classroom so he didnt get to gi and didnt get his present, he still very much believes in father christmas and he was pretty upset about it - luckily when dh heard he suddenly found that father christmas had been to the house and left a present there (luckily i have shopped and wrapped already!). So ds is a little consoled but aibu to think thats a pretty shitty thing to do on behalf of he school. Yes he lost his ticket - but he is only in reception im sure they could have checked the list.

YANBU the whole thing is wrong in the first place, children being excluded if they don't pay, never mind if they did! Poor boy :(. I'd be so cross if it was my DS.

That's awful . Give the teacher a bollocking tomorrow.

i would go through the teacher like a tonne of bricks and then I would do the same to the head teacher!

Poor mite :-( i would demand the money back too xx

I can't believe a school would do this sort of thing-make DC pay to see FC, during school time, then leave out anyone who didn't have a ticket?

I am frothing!!!!

Wow, that is so awful and mean of them.

If just one child in my class was being left out of something like that they'd come whether they had paid or not. And my class are Y5 not AGE 5. So nasty. I don't often think it's right to complain tot he school but in this case it very definitely is.

They shouldn't be doing a "paid only" thing during school time anyway. And if for some obscure reason they do then excluding a Reception-aged child for losing a ticket when they have a clear record that he has paid is totally unreasonable.

i would complain to the teacher and head, that is so mean, and why are they charging and handing out tickets, if fc comes to school it should be for everyone or he don't come, that is so unfair.

Nasty people like this have no place near children, never mind teaching them! Give them hell tomorrow.

If your ds was the only child left out and his story stacks up, then this really has to be taken up with the school.

I know that, in the greater educational scheme of things, missing the chance to see Father Christmas will not blight his future but at 5 years old, these things are magical. To leave him out because he lost his ticket is awfully mean. Also, you have paid for this non-event.

They do quite alot of paid things in school hours, we do live in a very poor area and for most things they DONT seem to exclude people who cant pay. I have no idea why this has happened so i have told dh to be pleasant and calm until he knows the whole story. I cant quite imagine anything that would make it not seem so bad but im actually really hoping there is something because i feel sort of soured towards then at the moment !

That is horrible.

Some people could do with learning about the spirit of Christmas.

Goodwill to all.

That asking a lot for a five-year-old to take responsibilty for the ticket. Why didn't the teacher keep hold of them?

How absolutely mean. Poor little thing.

I don't recall my (now ancient) children ever, at the age of 5, being left in charge of something so valuable that the loss of it would preclude going somewhere exciting. Why on earth they didn't work from the list and, if necessary, only hand out tickets to the elves, I don't know. Because I'm amazed that only one child in this class lost their ticket, tbh.

Never heard of Santa visiting a school!

Terrible, though.

I can see how tickets would have made it easier-but oh to not check whether or not he had paid-well, that´s just lazy imo.

That is really cruel

I would play holy hell.

That is disgraceful and made even worse by the fact he was the only one left behind.

They must have kept a list so they knew the number of gifts to buy and I'm assuming one would have been left over.

That is unbelievably cruel - my eldest DC would have been inconsolable at that age if he'd been left out.

I work in a school and I'm shocked that no one in that staff team double checked the list. Or insisted that he be allowed to join in anyway.

The list is a stupid idea, they shouldn't be doing something that has the potential to exclude children, especially those in reception. If they are going to give the children that sort of treat, they should pay for it out of PTA funds.

Definitely speak to the head or the teacher, this is totally unacceptable. If you give a ticket to a 5 year old most chances are that they will probably loose it. They had a list of names, and even though, to leave one or two children out is disgusting.

I dont know why they did this this year actually they didnt have it last year at all so im not sure what it was all about. I didnt really think about it at the time it was just ine of the dates in the list we sent the money in and that was it!

OP my jaw dropped when I read your post. What mean, cruel, inconsiderate, nasty people. What a vile way to treat a 5 year old.

Don't let this go. Get yourself into school tomorrow and make your view abundantly and crystal clear.

Scrooge lives on.

Your poor little boy. DD is 6 and keeps talking about the fact FC is coming to school next week. I know she'd be so upset if she was kept away from him like that.

Feel like coming into school with you to say what I think of them