to ask SiL to pay kennel fees for our dog over Xmas?

[bex2011]

We have been invited to my PiL over Xmas along with DH's brother and his family. They have said they will only go if our dog goes into kennels. SiL has a real problem with the dog and her children being in the same house. We have FiL has said he will put a baby gate at the kitchen door and the dog can stay behind that. Dog and children wouldn't need to be in the same room at all. This isn't good enough. Dog shows no signs at all of agression. She is fine with my niece and nephew and has adapted really well to having a baby in the house. Everyone who knows the dog and the situation thinks it's ridiculous and there is no reason why dog and children can't be together.

They will be at inlaws from Xmas day lunchtime until boxing day evening. The kennels have said that dog would need to go in Xmas eve before lunch until day after boxing day, totalling 4 days of kennel fees.

AIBU to ask them to foot the bill for this? Part of me knows that I am, but they show no degree of compromise to find a situation that works.

Dogs in the kitchen is disgusting. My mum does that.

The last (and it is the last) time I ate there, I found dog hairs in my lasagne.

This is true. No pants, you see

I had to remind dd2 not to lick the cat earlier. Obviously she will not be allowed to sit at the table while we are all eating xmas lunch. God only knows what she could have been licking. My sister's baby eats her own snot, she also will not be allowed to sit at my table and she most definately will not be allowed to use my cutlery. Can you imagine? Ewww.

My nephew bites, he will muzzled and crated for the duration of his visit, if I allow him to come at all. Last time he was here he bit my dog .

and of course the no pants issue raises privacy issues which it turn can have a knock to confidence

Hygiene issue? What issue? Dog-germs jumping on the turkey? Most dogs are housetrained and don't shit on the kitchen floor. If they do, people generally wash their hands after picking up shit. Or are you worried about eating in a house with a baby? Change diaper, prepare food, yuck..

And most dogs are regularly de-wormed and have fleacollars, more than you can say about most humans.

Dogs might not know it's xmas, neither do newborns, we rarely leave them in kennels over the holidays though.

I regularly shed in to my family's meals. It's like hunting for the lucky sixpence at Christmas.

CTYCGStuffed, by issues I mean parasites, such as worms, which can cause blindness in humans. According to the first link I found when I googled this, this happens (at least partial blindness) 100 times a year: www.netdoctor.co.uk/ate/childrenshealth/200336.html.

OK, so where is the compromise TBJP?
Or is it just to be that SIL gets everything her own way? As in, OP cannot have the dog with her and must pay a small fortune for the privildge?

Essentially, you are saying you would not be prepared to compromise at all then? The giving way must all be done by the OP? Not something I'd be happy with - I'm happy to be reasonable but I kind of expect it to be give and take, and to be met halfway. If someone tries to force their (over-generalised and extreme) opinions on me, then I too will be stubborn...!!

Sil not silence - bloody autocorrect :(

Dooin, your nephew bites your dog? Have you tried a halti?

I love a good dog thread!

[grin]@chickens and shedding

I wouldn't go personally. I don't go anywhere overnight where my dog isn't allowed to come too.

well would you look at that it's only a festive dog crate.

There's a picture of everything on the Internet these days.

The dog let out an almighty yelp and scared the crap out of him. I doubt he'd do it again. Luckily it was my most friendly dog.

He quite regularly bites. He savagely attacked a little girl on the beach on holiday because she had a bigger bucket than him. He drew blood . He needs a rabies shot imo. And a behaviouralist.

Yet somehow we managed to survive.
Your SIL is being a difficult cow.

bex2011's dog

www.doggy-b-good.com/attachments/Image/dog_cooking.jpg

how unhygenic

FWIW, we have a dog and she's not allowed in PIL house. That's fine by me.

If they want us to visit them we stay in a rental with the dog.

I don't think YABU necessarily but there are a lot of dog phobics about (see this thread for details) and, generally, I find it easier to keep dogs out of their way than to listen to their frothing rants.

Don't feel guilty if you can't go though, you're only doing it to keep SIL happy after all.

oops

Fidgety have never heard of a dog jumping over a gate or anything to attack a child. A cat maybe..

Attacks on children usually happen when the dog and the children are right next to each other. Dogs don't go all out to attack children. AFAIK.

"He needs a rabies shot imo. And a behaviouralist."

I honestly cannot remember i had so much fun reading a dog thread.

And Btw dogs neither know or care that it is christmas fgs

Mine does. He may not be able to sing O Come All Ye Faithful but he faithfully guards all the presents under the tree that belong to him and practically bursting with excitement when he realises it's the day he gets to open them. The other one couldn't care less apart from seizing on the opportunity to lick the turkey.

'costs and situations like this are what you should consider before taking on a dog'

Hmm, I don't agree. I have had a dog all my life and certainly wouldn't base a decision on whether I may end up with a relative who wouldn't compromise about the dog being around. I knew I would never kennel her (and couldn't afford to at the moment anyhow), and I knew that it didn't matter because my family are all doggy people and so it isn't an issue.

OP has PIL's who like the dog and are happy to have it. This situation is not one I would have thought about (relative refusing to compromise) and suddenly being hit with kennel fees now wouldn't be doable - so if SIL wouldn't help with finding a solution, I wouldn't be going.

I take our mutt to visit my parents for the weekend, but they like dogs. I wouldn't dream of taking him with me everywhere. So I can't really decide if the OP is BU or not. I suppose I'd bounce this back to the PIL and ask them to make a decision, and respect whatever they decided. I wouldn't fall out with anyone over it