to ask SiL to pay kennel fees for our dog over Xmas?

[bex2011]

We have been invited to my PiL over Xmas along with DH's brother and his family. They have said they will only go if our dog goes into kennels. SiL has a real problem with the dog and her children being in the same house. We have FiL has said he will put a baby gate at the kitchen door and the dog can stay behind that. Dog and children wouldn't need to be in the same room at all. This isn't good enough. Dog shows no signs at all of agression. She is fine with my niece and nephew and has adapted really well to having a baby in the house. Everyone who knows the dog and the situation thinks it's ridiculous and there is no reason why dog and children can't be together.

They will be at inlaws from Xmas day lunchtime until boxing day evening. The kennels have said that dog would need to go in Xmas eve before lunch until day after boxing day, totalling 4 days of kennel fees.

AIBU to ask them to foot the bill for this? Part of me knows that I am, but they show no degree of compromise to find a situation that works.

Dogs just wipe their arse on the grass. Or your carpets

Semi seriously, if dogs could have indoor pants, and maybe booties, it would be more hygienic and I'd maybe even let them on the beds. Why don't we this??

Because they's look like this.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with hounds wearing jammies. Nothing at all.

Oh God I want to get my dog a dressing gown. If you look on my profile, you will see my dog in a flying jacket. Ignore his look of embarassment, he doesn't have good taste.

No, children always welcome at weddings etc although Sil did tell my 4 year old niece that she hadn't quite spelt her name properly. Lily spells Lily in my book! Anyway, we are now dressing....dog pants it is!

Have to admit have not waded through any of this thread so forgive me if these points are raised already.

Your PIL, are OK with the dog coming? they invited you KNOWING the dog would come too? You accepted on that basis?

I'd say if SIL has an ISHOO with this, she can choose to come or not, stay there with the family and the dog, or not.

Digressing!

There's a lot of people here being racist against Staffies . I think we need to see a photo of her to judge if she's truly evil - we'll be able to tell just by looking at her eyes.

Pets at home have all-in-one doggy reindeer outfits with antlers and everything. Husband wouldn't let me get one. :(

my dogs have 2 fancy dress parties to attend this year, does that justify me buying them a reindeer outfit?

Briedog - this technophobe can't work out how to add a photo.

If your dog looks a bit like this sil might have a point.

If it looks like this sil is barking.

Which one is your dog most like?

Woah, Dooin. That first dog would make one hell of a mess of your carpets.

Laminate is the way forward Chickens. Everyone should invest in it before the Zombies arrive.

It's your PiLs' call as to whether or not the dog is welcome, not your SiL's.

But, equally, kennel fees are your responsibility, and not your SiL's.

I wouldn't feel comfortable bringing my dog into a home where it wasn't truly welcome, so unless your PiLs are adamant that the dog is welcome, I would kennel the dog (at my own expense).

I wish I could work out how to add a photo! She is girly like the second photo but a little less dainty!

Anyway, it seems PiL have made their call. They are going to tell SiL that the dog will be there. They want to see DS for his first Xmas above all else. They also see the kennel fees as being a bit steep. So, all sorted! Thanks for your input.

Anyway, it seems PiL have made their call. They are going to tell SiL that the dog will be there

Do let us know what SIL does :)

OP I must know - did you play the "hmmm....we may not come" card at all?

bex2011 Well, I hope you are proud of yourself, making Xmas all about your dog and denying your DH's brother's family the opportunity to spend xmas with his parents. Well done you.

Well done PIL for standing up to selfish SIL

Oh yes, bebe, someone's being selfish here. You're dead right about that!

I'll say it again: why do some assume that not liking dogs trumps liking dogs??

Neither are more 'right' and neither should be given higher priority over the other.

Both need to compromise.

OP is willing to compromise is SIL??

she is not denying SIL anything, she is still totally welcome and allowed to come.

Thetasigmamum - PiL's final decision, not mine and it seems to go with the majority vote on here.

Whatmeworry - not really. I said that they have Xmas with BiL and the older grandchildren who will be really excited about Xmas and for us to go up boxing day eve, but MiL really wants to spend Xmas with DS. They will stand by their compromise of baby gates, children not being in same room etc. I'll let you know what happens.