To wonder if anyone else has character traits they try to control because they feel are "not very nice"?

[Salmotrutta]

I have the following character traits which I am not very proud of - and consequently try to squash them:

a) Very intolerant of annoying people - sometimes I have to sit on my hands to avoid slapping them.
b) Can become enraged over trivial domestic issues (e.g. jars I cannot open/electrical items that stop working) .
c) Impatient - I am often to be caught out drumming my fingers with irritation when DH (or anyone else for that matter) causes a delay by faffing about or chatting to people for aaaaaages.
d) I have to be "right" - even when I'm wrong. And I hate admitting I'm wrong

I find I'm getting better with age - I'm maybe mellowing ?

I am super intolerant of stupid people. People that believe everything they hear despite being told by reliable sources that they are wrong.

"OMG, YOU CAN'T SAY CHRISTMAS NOW INCASE IT OFFENDS ETHNIC MINORITIES!" errr grow a brain.

I got really annoyed a few years ago when our 11 year olds were due to change to secondary school:

"If you name the same school 3 times on your sheet you definitely get a place, even if you're miles away from the catchment and the school is ridiculously over-subscribed - I know because my friend's sister's boyfriend's cousin did it and they got a place" - ok so the big warning on the letter stating that naming the same school more than once does not increase your chances of getting in that school is bullshit then? again - grow a brain.

I really don't understand how people can be so thick.

I'm also intolerant of slow people and faffers

Same as Rhubarbgarden I am very critical- of myself and of others. I find I have to practise CBT-type thinking to rationalise myself out of those types of thoughts.

I can also tend to dominate conversations but I consciously try not to.

Also, I'm really really really irritating to live with because I get words/phrases/quotes stuck in my head and just repeat them for days on end. It feels involuntary- very hard to stop. Currently, I can't stop doing the Brian Badonde 'Bwwwwwwaaaaaaahhhhh' noise which both my husband and myself are finding very trying.

Oh dear just marking place for the full confession later.

where i work some of the parents can be really up there own arses and will say things that really piss me off , but i do rein it in honest although i did snap when the same parent asks the same question about the food every week and the parent gets the same answer , I couldnt help it ,

I also try and not tut at people when they are chattering about nothing ,

Greedy.

I do mean greed & not gluttony, btw.
DD & DS2 have the same trait, not nice to think I've passed it on! :(

I'm arrogant, quick to lose my rag, unreasonable, fiery, stubborn, easily distracted, rude, swear too much, have a general dislike of people, high maintenance, bitchy, massive gossip, controlling...all these things I rather admire about myself

I am quite gregarious and sociable. Dh always wants me to go on his nights out cos I get people talking and can chat to anyone.

However, I do find it hard to feign interest in boring people and, as I don't sleep well, often find it impossible not to yawn.

I am not very patient with shy or nervous people.

Actually, I am not very patient.

I am quick witted and can make a group of people laugh. The down side of this is that I am cutting and make it clear that I think I am always right

I am clever and I secretly look down on people who aren't. I am a good listener and people tell me stuff, but I don't open up myself very often.

I am shit at keeping in touch with people - this is one of my greatest regrets.

I'm not very nice, and I know it.

I spent most of my adult life trying to squash traits of my personality I know aren't particularly charming, especially when I was younger I spent lots oof time analysing my behaviour etc.

However, nowadays, I speak my mind much more easily than I did once. I know it is not always the best thing to do, but I am fed up of hearing stances I don'agree with without challenging them. Why do I have to swallow other people's unpalatable ideas?

I have low self esteem so tend to quickly decide everything is my fault and beat myself up about any problems that have occurred.

This is so annoying to people (especially my bf and DH who are very positive and upbeat people) and I really have to stop myself being a total drag. Tis hard when you are a natural eeyore though.

Acanthus - I think I am you

As well as my nose tingling neck pulsing temper I'm also guilty of the following:

• hate slow people/faffing/repeating myself
• can not let any injustice go - not just to me but to the world I rant for ages over something quite minor.
• black and white no grey frustrates the hell out of DP
• my tendancy to assume people are making out Im thick when talking to me. I hate this and just walk awar mid convo.

• i also have an inability to put the lid back on anything at all.

Marking place

I cant take a compliment, I'm always suspicisous of the person who have given me the compliment.

I appear shallow but I really am not.

I get hurt easily and it stays with me for a long time.

I hate confrontations and will avoid them to the point of actually agreeing with people about my faults and stuff I was supposed to have done wrong just to end it. Then hate myself for not sticking up for myself and standing my ground.

I have a very large lazy streak

I can be very selfish and am working on that step by step.

I'm far too hard on myself and critical

I tend to "jump the gun" a lot

I think I know what to do when shown something once, but when it comes to it I nearly always get it wrong and will have to be reminded and then feel like an idiot (also goes hand in hand with being too hard on myself and impatience)

I'm a prat, and really should only open my mouth to change feet.

I'm trying hard to recognise when I am doing these things and change or act on them before it's too late. I'm getting better at it but it's going to take time and wont be easy.

I hold a grudge. Literally I am like a frigging elephant I never, ever forget. I'd feel sorry for DP but if he just stopped fucking up there would be less for me to remember...

I am very shouty. When I get particularly gobby I sound like Tracey off Birds of a Feather not good. I'm not actually angry about anything I just get lairy.

Swear too much.

I am ALWAYS RIGHT

I interrupt

I don't read the whole thread, but having not read the whole thread, I am all of you. No I'm an individual

I'm a bit of a control freak, but only re things that really need sorting out.

There are lots of worthy things I'm not at all interested in, eg I throw begging letters charity circulars away without reading them.

A) I have "issues with guilt" (the counsellor's words, not mine - my sister got "you tend to overthink your own power. You are not omnipotent" which I think trumps "guilty about stuff you can't affect")

B) I am a total control freak

C) I need lots of attention

D) When I don't get enough attention from DP (or generally feel a bit neglected) I pick fights. He never rises to it, so I get even angrier.

E) When I get angry that DP did something and didn't apologise, DP looks so hurt that I end up apologising to him. It's not an offensive character trait, but I make myself so cross.

F) I have a very short temper

G) I find it hard to laugh at myself. DP is trying to train me by gently poking fun, but sometimes he doesn't leave a big enough gap and I haven't calmed down enough - see (F) above

My worst one is probably my inability to laugh at myself. I'm trying really hard to improve it though.

I'm selfish and controlling.

I hold grudges. Sometimes for years.

I get bored and impatient when people take too long to tell me something and they won't shut up even when it's obvious what the end of their story is.

I will lie to get out of doing something I don't want to do.

To be honest if you took away all my bad points I wouldn't have a personality at all ...

Its intereting how some people seem regretfull about their negative traits and others seem very proud of them. Mine are very short tempered, impatient, can say nasty thing in the heat of an argument and am also a bit of an interruptor which I actually think comes from previous shyness when younger