To wonder if anyone else has character traits they try to control because they feel are "not very nice"?

[Salmotrutta]

I have the following character traits which I am not very proud of - and consequently try to squash them:

a) Very intolerant of annoying people - sometimes I have to sit on my hands to avoid slapping them.
b) Can become enraged over trivial domestic issues (e.g. jars I cannot open/electrical items that stop working) .
c) Impatient - I am often to be caught out drumming my fingers with irritation when DH (or anyone else for that matter) causes a delay by faffing about or chatting to people for aaaaaages.
d) I have to be "right" - even when I'm wrong. And I hate admitting I'm wrong

I find I'm getting better with age - I'm maybe mellowing ?

Uncharitable in my judgements. Not very nice.

I am another unable to control her rage when inanimate objects won't do as they are told.

I am also a bit of a control freak about certain things.

I get ENRAGED by ill people, which is really unfair. Not by people with non-infectious illnesses, I should hastily add, I'm not quite evil enough to be irritated by those suffering from something long term and/or life threatening. But I can't stand it when someone turns up/comes home with a stinking cold or a vomiting thing. I think it's basically because I'm angry that it's going to run through everyone in my house, and that when I get it, I will be ILLER than everyone else was (I have a rubbish constitution). But when it happens it feels very irrational and I really struggle to be civil to the ill person, and on the worst occasions, get the urge to subject them to a slap.

I have never actually slapped anyone in my whole life ever, though. And I try REALLY HARD to be nice.

I am very very ambitious, but I try to keep this quiet in RL. I love that I can admit it here on MN. So freeing.

I am an utter Pollyanna and thus find whingers very hard to deal with. I try to smile and nod, but sometimes I want to shake tem and scream...'for gods sake do somehting about it.'

I have very high expectations of my DC. Again I keep this quiet in RL.

I'm an interrupter. I wish I wouldnt do it, and I do try to button my lip but I just cant stop myself. As someone said upthread, put me in a conversation with a 'holding court' person, which is what several of my dear friends are, and its hilarious!

Also hideously competitive about small things - thrashing the kids at draughts or Othello is a particular pleasure, and I never let them win (well I did a couple of times when I was teaching them the games). So they wont play with me anymore. Which is a shame really, because if they were to observe a Master At Work (that'll be me) they would learn and then they might win. But I'd hate that.

I also hate the fact that I am the only person in the house who can spell, and I feel superior about this. This is WRONG on so many levels; DD1 is dyslexic and I think DH probably is as well; and DD2 is only 12. I do conceal my superiority about it, while obviously spelling the word out for whichever one is asking at the time. Although when it gets to the third time of saying "no, its H-O-U-S-E" I think my tetchiness might become obvious.

OP - are you me?!

Yes, one does mellow with age. I'm still a bit, errr, proud and scary but I tone it down, I think of others' feelings, I remember I can come across more aggressively than I intend to, I practice tolerance, I give people the benefit of the doubt. I am quite a nice person really

Boschy - you sound pretty fabulous to me!

God yes, I am often nearly overcome with the urge to punch people in the face.

I tend to imagine actually doing it to help me calm down.

Stupid people piss me off. I sometimes harbour thoughts of rooftops and machine guns...

I'm an accent snob- I refuse to move to many places including DH home county as I hate the accent.
I can't tolerate stupidity, particularly people who believe things which are undoubtidly bollocks - ie mil who insists you can catch a cold from being cold (temprature wise) and when pointed out this is wrong says "I can believe what I like" yes you can, but you are still being a fool.

I also hate professional forumites who have no real opinion on anything but go from forum to forum simply googling things and presenting them as fact to back up their hastily decided opinion (usually based on whatever google throws up) this annoys me so Much i develope a hate of such people and fe the rage before I've even read their post, even if it's quite reasonable.

proudnscary thank you how very kind! I think I have mellowed externally with the passing of the years

Oh I am so with you, boschy. But seriously, the board game aggression and spelling obsession would fit in extremely well in the Proud household!

Hmm..............

Nope.

Perfect here.

I am a know it all.

I'm a real snob . I find it really hard to go and talk to new people, to the point of making DH go instead. I get snappy and impatient when tired. I'm crap at being ill.
On the plus side, I laugh a lot, which seems to please most people. I try to be nice to everyone but sometimes I just can't bear to listen to them moaning. Oh and DH can take an AGE to say a sentence with all the umms and aahs. I do ask him sometimes if he's going to finish that sentence/story before I die if old age what a cow I am!

I'm selfish and lazy, mainly in that I get selfishly pissed off when someone asks me to do something with no benefit to myself when I'm sat lazily mumsneting. How dare the dcs actually want feeding and watering .

I am a bit snobby and judgemental (inside my head, I really try not to be on the outside)

Another interrupter (someone pointed it out to me and now I notice when I've done it and it drives me mad! trying to stop this, shut up and listen but...)

Sometimes if someone's talking and I'm not finding it riveting I find it difficult to keep listening, especially if in a group I just stop focusing and listen to my own thoughts instead or say something completely off topic. How rude!

I AM a nice person though and I am trying to change. The snobby judgingness is only about strangers, really; once I know somebody I am very openminded and appreciate others viewpoints.

Oh, another bad trait is trying to justify my bad points and paint myself as a perfect person!

(and a competitive game player)

Hully, Mary Poppins always did piss me off with her "Practically perfect in every way"

jealousy is another most unattractive trait, wimba

or do I mean envy?

I believe I do

Yes you mean envy Hully

, who, me? Never.

I tend to let people walk all over me and let certain people blame me for mistakes they have made which I have no say/power over

I have however recognized this and felt very embarrassed and quite pissed off with myself and am getting much better at telling certain people to either STFU or to fuck off and grow up and take responsibility for themselves and their actions
I have found people are much nicer to me as a result (weather true niceness or not I really don't care anymore) and I like myself a bit more than I used to.

I sometimes have a very bad temper, I can hide things that have upset me or annoy me for a few weeks then just blow my top. It is something I do not like and am working very hard to deal with things that upset me and annoy me as and when they arise so I don't have the 'top blowing' incidents. So far it seems to be working.

annoyed

I am awful :(

Yes. I am pedantic, literal, braggadocious and vain, unsympathetic, impatient and touchy.

It's a problem. :/

i am so tightly bound in my skin that i struggle to see the bigger picture, self obsorbed.
i obsess over things
i think i am funnier than what i am.
i take things far too personaly.
i run conversations through in my head for hours and imagine different arguements i should have said.
i believe that no one likes me. despite strong evidence to the contrary.
i hate my body yet am too stupid to change it.
i do like a pity party.
i hold grudges.
i am super nice to people even when i hate them and have little interest in what they are saying.
i am painfully afraid of confrontation.