To wonder if anyone else has character traits they try to control because they feel are "not very nice"?

[Salmotrutta]

I have the following character traits which I am not very proud of - and consequently try to squash them:

a) Very intolerant of annoying people - sometimes I have to sit on my hands to avoid slapping them.
b) Can become enraged over trivial domestic issues (e.g. jars I cannot open/electrical items that stop working) .
c) Impatient - I am often to be caught out drumming my fingers with irritation when DH (or anyone else for that matter) causes a delay by faffing about or chatting to people for aaaaaages.
d) I have to be "right" - even when I'm wrong. And I hate admitting I'm wrong

I find I'm getting better with age - I'm maybe mellowing ?

Ah, lots of familiar traits surfacing - wonder if there's an MN type!

I try to keep a lid on the fact that i'm a stubborn, judgemental know it all with a strong desire to problem solve, a blunt manner and tendency to interrupt (thanks for reminding me of that one redblanket

Hmm - I have just been told by DS (who was relaying an anecdote - and I may have interjected) that generally if you let someone get to the end of a sentence there might be something worth listening to.
OMG, I'm an interrupter too!!

Interesting Salmotrutta

You sound lovely to me.

I like to be the centre of attention when with my siblings. I have to fight the urge to scream 'look at me, look a me' quite often.

I got very impatient with someone at work earlier, because they didn't understand me and I got frustrated. I also found their accent very annoying.
I am worried that I came across as a bit racist, all because of me being impatient and snappy rather than calmly empathetic.

I dont like places that are loud or busy i tend to get really on edge and i come across as really rude and unfriendly. My sil keeps trying to get me to go ti some club she goes to but i cant think of much i would hate more so im constantly saying no.

I get so extraordinarily frustrated when I feel like I'm being kept waiting longer than I deem reasonable that I don't think the word "impatient" quite cuts it. I can feel every fibre of my being twitching with fury. It's really very unpleasant and I'm trying hard to curb it. Especially as I live with the worlds most dithery man. Its like mother nature flung us together by way of some kind of evolutionary experiment.

YULE - do you have lots of siblings?
That would explain it I think? I am the only daughter amongst several brothers so I had a "place" in the pecking order that no-one else had.
Even the calmest person on the planet loses patience sometimes thesmallclanger - I'm not a christain but even Jesus threw the moneychangers out of the temple.
Dirtydishes - You'd never catch me in a nightclub either. All that noise and your feet sticking to the floor? No thanks.

I have two. It only seems to happen when we are all at my mum's house. I think I regress.

ViviPru - I soooo understand the "twitching with fury" reference!!

Impatient
Intolerant of some threads!

Ah YULE - are you the middle one?

runningwilde - I do hope you are not intolerant of this thread?

ha ha, yes I am the middle best one

I am selfish. And I am so ashamed of being selfish that I perform acts of great altruism to hide my selfishness from the world.

It doesn't work though. It is still all about me.

I am a good liar and can do so with ease about things that are not even worth lying about.

I veer between being a perfectionist control freak and really very lazy.

I am hugely competitive but do normally manage to channel it to positive ends.

OtterHumbug - I think you will find it's all about me - Ha!

Interrupting and talking too much generally. I annoy myself so much when I do it and I'm amazed so many people put up with me.

Short fuse

Being a sulky-pants PA nightmare

I guess at least I realise I have these tendencies. What worries me is that I have others I am yet to recognise.

Yeah? You think?

Well, maybe. This being your thread, and all.

@ Otter and @ RealLife being a "sulky-pants".

Oh god, I have so many...
I am a massive control freak and feel anxious when I can't control something.
I can be jealous, moody, go from screaming mad to very pleasant and back again within 5 minutes.
I am intolerant, impatient, unsociable (again makes me anxious) and can't ever explain myself properly, even simple things!
These are just for starters, there are more but I feel I have probably exposed myself enough already.

MordechaiVanunu - you are hilarious!! Am laughing at the image of you completely baffled by people CLEARLY NOT LISTENING properly to you! I can relate, when it is clear that I am definitely right, it really irritates me that anyone can ever have a contrary view.
I interrupt constantly, my first response is a sarcastic comment, and I am another canceller - I am a bit anti-social, I like about four close friends, my family, my DH and beyond that, I just can't be bothered.... I am also moody and can be passive aggressive
On the other hand, I am very loyal, soft hearted, hardworking and kind...

Interesting the number of people here who admit to impatience/not suffering fools gladly/ too quick to judge. Who would have guessed :)

IMO peoples bad points arevoften the flipsidevof good points, eg the above implies intelligence/ thoughtfulness / decisiveness.

I of course am perfect :o

I'm incredibly socially awkward, especially around men.

I've learned how to deal with women from copying other people and am far more successful with women nowadays than I ever have been previously. At least now, some women seem to like me at least! I feel like I've learned some of the rules!

However, I grew up believing that my worth was directly related to how attractive I was to men. That was fine when I was younger and felt attractive, but now I'm mid 30s and clearly not in the first flush of youth, I almost feel that I have no right to even be talking to them!

That ultimately results in my blushing, stumbling over my words, getting all anxious and talky-quickly which just makes me look like I fancy them (when I absolutely don't) and feeling awful and embarrassed.

So I generally just avoid people in the main and am happiest in the company of my DH and children!

Too defensive

Snappy when hungry/tired/ill

Find it hard to give eye contact when having conversations but force myself to

Sensitive