To wonder if anyone else has character traits they try to control because they feel are "not very nice"?

[Salmotrutta]

I have the following character traits which I am not very proud of - and consequently try to squash them:

a) Very intolerant of annoying people - sometimes I have to sit on my hands to avoid slapping them.
b) Can become enraged over trivial domestic issues (e.g. jars I cannot open/electrical items that stop working) .
c) Impatient - I am often to be caught out drumming my fingers with irritation when DH (or anyone else for that matter) causes a delay by faffing about or chatting to people for aaaaaages.
d) I have to be "right" - even when I'm wrong. And I hate admitting I'm wrong

I find I'm getting better with age - I'm maybe mellowing ?

I am also bitchy, snobby, (although I have no right whatsoever to be) short-tempered and very very easily irritated.
Oh I'm quite selfish too.

I sound lovely don't I?

swearing, and farting and interrupting like Redblanket.

Hahaha - is farting a character trait though???

I'm the same as Agent ZigZag. Shy introvert. Not antisocial but people have to spend about 5 years / 24 hours a day with me to get to know me properly.

Alice - I'm sure you are lovely. We all like a bitch-fest I'll bet.

I am a really really sore loser. So I try to avoid playing Monopoly or Trivial Pursuit because I am really unbearable if I don't win. I hardly ever don't win but on the rare occasions when I have lost I am really horrid.

I hate so many things about myself that I can't even think of a specific one. I will try tomorrow, it'll be like free therapy :)

I will say a lot of it is getting better since starting a lovely new job.

Aww - I want to enfold all the shy people!

I'm convinced I use my "holding-court" attitude to hide the fact that I actually don't have as much confidence as it seems. 'Tis a skill that has taken about 40 years of practice!

I'm also a big worrier. I'd like to be free and easy but I worry about family issues etc. all the time.

Can I ask you if you grew up in a house where 'things changed' when other people were round Pop?

And if you were out there were very regimented ways of behaving, ie not showing any emotion etc?

My mum was a a 'telephone voice' type of person, very formal and judgemental interacting with other people and I wonder if a lot of mine stems from that.

She did have a parlour of sorts now I come to think of it

Interrupting like redblanket

I'm like RedBlanket with interrupting. I got really miserable about it once after I completely unintentionally upset someone, and DH offered to help. He has nearly trained me out of it - he stepped on my toes under the table or coughed whenever he saw me straining to jump into a conversation, and it works, now I can spot the impulse myself and nip it in the bud (usually!)

I've got most of my many unpleasant traits under control but the one I find hardest to keep in check is a superiority complex that I'm pretty sure gets on people's nerves.

I'm also regularly accused of bossiness but thats tough tits because on the whole I do know best. Drat, there's that pesky superiority complex again

Actually - sometimes you can have a "holding-court" person like me and an interrupter trying to have a conversation and it can be quite funny.

Oh, I've just thought about a childhood incident where a girl in our street said her Mum told her not to play with me because I was bossy

My Mum is very, very, very non-demonstrative. Very tight-lipped and not chatty or girly or affectionate or any of those qualities. She's aware of those shortcomings and I think she's a bit better now. I try really hard to embrace emotions in my own household.

Great thread, Salmotrutta! It is like free therapy!

All of your main points OP but they are just getting worse as I get older

I find I have no tolerance or patience for certain people/ things, and find I voice my opinions much more these days because I feel I would just explode if I didn't. I makes me feel much better though as I'm sure in my teens/20's I used to spend half my life wishing I had said something there and then rather than sweating about it at home for the next few days...

I interrupt people constantly as I just seem to want to get my point across otherwise I will forget....I really have had to reign this in over the last few years as I realise it's so rude!

I'm a crap loser as well, I actually went out and cried in the kitchen last year in the middle of a scrabble game as I was getting so frustrated what a twat!

Today was a great example of one of my many bad traits.
I totally over react to minor incidents, cause a huge fuss with everyone around me, then sit back and think ............and regret it, if only I could turn the clock back
I am telling myself now 'next time take it easy and think before you act/speak' and more importantly get all the facts, but I after all these years I just go and do it again - WHY?!
Oh and thats only 1 of my bad traits, i have all the same ones as alice and then some!

Knock knock
Who's there?
Interrupting cow
Interrupt. . .
Moooooooo!

That's from South Park. In response to all you interrupters.

Ah Popbiscuit - free therapy is good.

BillCompton'strousers - I love your name. And I hate losing too.
... yet another thing to add to my list.

I sound awful - but I do have many good qualities, honest.

And you all have them too - they shine through on here

I can't accept that having a different point of view from the one I hold is valid.

I become infuruated and won't let it go when someone persists in holding their opinion even after Ive ranted explained to them in 25 different ways why they are wrong and I am right.

Why do they persist even when Ive explained why they are wrong?!?!?! It makes me want to explode!!!

I am in a book club and before the meeting I have a mantra ' it's OK to have a different opinion.'

and also 'you can still be friends even if they liked the shit book.' not sure I believe it though.

Why can't they see it's shit?? When I've explained it too them?!?!?

I'm a control freak, I hate, hate, hate it when I can't control what's going on around me. I have got a tiny bit better as I've got older.
I say things that maybe I should put in a more subtle way, I have told people who smell where the bathroom and soap is!
I told dd1s neurologist that she was a patronising cow on Friday, but she did deserve that!
I am better than I used to be.

I hate socialising, I do it when I have to but end up with drinking far too many wines. So then I feel a prat.

I just can't seem to not drink too much at an event.

I can't go to DH's works events because for some reason, after I have drunk too much, I want to snog everyone. And I do mean snog, everyone.

I hate that about me.

The fact that my blood boils instantly when someone mentions BT is slightly different, failed attempted murder must be less serious than snogging.

Oooh now Mordechai - I can totally get your ire at shit books. Totally.

Dawndonna - did you really tell your DDs neurologist she was a patronising cow?? OMG [blimey]. Well, if she was being patronising I can see why you would.