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AIBU?

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to think that this is an too much of an ask?

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Novemberworry · 29/11/2011 21:12

I have been asked (as a last resort) to have my DDs friend (Anna, say) back after school on friday just for 2ish hours as it's the only time my DF can squeeze in a hair appointment. This is absolutely fine - the girls' get on well together and I'm always happy to help a friend in need. In fact its lovely that they're getting together out of school as theres been a few friend issues - another litle girl (Bella) who had previously played nicely with DD and Anna, and had been welcomed at our house (where she was terribly badly behaved and I think some things of DDs went missing, but I try not to think the worst) has tried to drive a wedge between DD and Anna to the point where DD is constantly, nastily excluded by Bella. I understand Anna is not blameless in this, and I have spoken to DD about true friends and tried to encourage other friendships. She seems to have settled a bit now but it has taken a year.The nastiness that Bella displays is unbelievable when she thinks she isn't being watched, but she plays the game is a very likeable child when she wants (or needs) to be iyswim? Anna is lovely to DD when they are one to one.
So I was quite looking forward to friday and was certainly willing to extend the play time if it was all going swimmingly.
The problem now is - Anna's mom has just texted and said "Oh I forgot that Bella is coming for a sleepover on Friday - you don't mind picking one more of them up do you - I'll be back by 6 at the latest and grab them both and go?" Sad
So, now I have to endure Bella excluding my DD at her own house and having DD feel crap when they go off and have a sleepover at Anna's house, making her feel even more of the spare part.
AIBU to think that this is a bit of a mickeytake of my friend (who knows there have been issues - but not the extent of them)?

(PS - sorry have namechanged just in case)

OP posts:
MarthasHarbour · 30/11/2011 09:52

ladyinpink that threw me too

shineon i did giggle at the 'no nonsense' and totally agree with you - however that requires backbone, i dont think the OP would do it TBH.

And i would looooove to have a lovely hairdo for a night out, i went on a rare night out last Friday - had about 15 mins to do my hair. Was more grateful for the night out! Grin

MrsHankey · 30/11/2011 10:08

Well done OP, looks like you have done the right thing Smile

Came to this thread late & reading through, have reported a couple of posts which just seem mean/downright rude.

Realise this is AIBU, but it does state in the guidelines 'please be civil'

Why do people feel the need to be so insulting eg Dozer 'are you thick?'

What exectly does that add to the discussion or help the OP in any way?

Think we tolerate far too much of this & should challenge more often.

MarthasHarbour · 30/11/2011 11:11
MrsHankey · 30/11/2011 11:36

Puts on cool

Never did get one at school Grin

MarthasHarbour · 30/11/2011 11:39

Wink Grin

virgiltracey · 30/11/2011 11:48

You should definitely say no. Offer to have anna on thursday instead ao that your friend can go to get her hair done then. Alternatively she could get a mobile hairdresser to come to her home. You need to put your daughter fist and your friend is the one being unreasonable not you!!

" I'm really sorry but I can't have both girls. I am more than happy to have Anna either on Friday or another night. Let me know if you still want me to collect her."

virgiltracey · 30/11/2011 11:49

oops didn't read the rest of the thread IGNORE ME!!! Grin

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