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To think my DH won't actually need 24 hours "bedrest" after a vasectomy

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libbyssister · 24/11/2011 23:22

I mean, REALLY?! I don't remember bedrest after the birth of any of our 3 DC. Is there any medical reason for this? He's shown me the letter from the clinic and it's there in black and white. But I find it hard to believe....

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BadTasteFlump · 25/11/2011 16:28

Is this what he told you then?

Haven't read the whole thread but sounds like bollocks to me

My DH had a vasectomy - he said the only bad bit was the needle for the anaesthetic and the smell whilst it was happening (like bacon apparently ). He was told to 'take it easy' for the next 24 hours - so he had the afternoon off work and sat in front of the tv. The next day it all looked a bit bruised and he said it was sore, but not hideously, and he definitely didn't need bed rest.

Is he winding you up?

BadTasteFlump · 25/11/2011 16:30

Just read some other horror stories replies - either DH is superman or was very lucky

Maryz · 25/11/2011 17:11

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GobblersKnob · 25/11/2011 17:25

Christ on a bike, I would want my dp to rest and recover after an op, I would want to look after him and give him some tlc.

Just like he wanted to care for me after I gave birth, I certainly wasn't straight back on my feet and even if I had been up to it, I wouldn't have been allowed.

You sound like a lovely couple, good luck.

Malificence · 25/11/2011 17:58

Wibble, you are incredibly ignorant and ill informed if you think that's all that happens during a vasectomy. It's quite invasive, the scrotum is a little more than just 2 balls in a sack of skin, if you'd done even 5 minutes research before making your proclamations, you would know that.

bemybebe · 25/11/2011 18:04

wibble is probably keen to start offering vasectomies herself. armed with a cleaver and dressed in a butcher's apron.

Whatmeworry · 25/11/2011 18:11

wibble is probably keen to start offering vasectomies herself. armed with a cleaver and dressed in a butcher's apron

Not sure I'd trust her with Circumcision. "Ah, that'll be the Bobbitt cut you want...." :o

effingwotsits · 25/11/2011 18:19

Dh had a vasectomy last Thursday. He asked the doctor how long I had to wait on him for. The doctor laughed.

Dirtydishesmakemesad · 25/11/2011 18:20

I would tuck dh up and pamper him. But then i had alot more than 24 hours rest after my dcs were born. I had easy labours and probably didnt technically need that much rest and pampering but i got it because it was nice. Today i had a headache i probably didnt need to go lie down while dh took over the kids stuff but i did. Its just nice to look after people sometimes surely.

DigOfTheNordicFirStump · 25/11/2011 18:25

Lol while he MAY end up ill, why on earth is he assuming he will be?

My DH had his vasectomy at 7pm, day surgery. he woke me at 5am the next morning to try out his bits to be sure they still worked. they worked fine, and so was he!

FabbyChic · 25/11/2011 18:35

How nasty is the OP?

TheOriginalFAB · 25/11/2011 18:44

YABU as you don't know how he will recover.

DH had the op a few years ago and was very sore. He rested as much as he could, with my blessing, but still ended up aching and sore .

maybenow · 25/11/2011 18:59

i have absolutely NO intention of being 'up and about' or 'back to normal' less than 24hrs after i give birth. i will be feeding a newborn yes, and doing some nappy changes (but not all) and hopefully transferring from hospital to home but that is IT. and if my DH didn't assist with that then i would not have married him. what IS the point of martyrdom??

ouryve · 25/11/2011 19:03

YANBU. DH wasn't told to take bedrest, but he was signed off work for a week, as obviously driving and sitting for long periods were rather uncomfortable.

ouryve · 25/11/2011 19:11

By the way, he did take it easy that week, but had a pretty smooth recovery. I was glad when we could bin the jock strap they provided, though - even after regular laundering it was ewwww.

ShellyBoobs · 25/11/2011 19:12

OP, it sounds like you don't actually like your OH and are looking forward to him being in pain while you ensure he's made to feel he shouldn't follow the medical advice he's been given.

If I was him and knew your opinion, I'd be seriously considering my options re: telling you to fuck off not going through with it.

My OH had the snip a few years ago. He was in agony the day after the op having felt perfectly ok immediately after the procedure. The surgeon put this down to the additional damage he'd caused himself by not resting.

This is a man who was a Royal Marine's officer for 16 years; played half a rugby match on a broken ankle and broke his collarbone in a motorcyle accident and didn't bother going to hospital even when the bruising had reached his waist 4 days later because, "it's only a collarbone, it'll sort itself out". I believe him when he says the vasectomy hurt and that he wishes he'd taken it easy afterwards.

standupguy · 25/11/2011 19:17

I only hope the doctor involved is reading this thread so he alter the official recommended rest time! I think he probably is. Not only that, he'll be scouring others threads immediately afterwards to find out how else he can improve things!

starsintheireyes · 25/11/2011 19:36

I think yabvu. exp had one after dc3 and he sat around for the rest of the day and then went back to work the following day = bollocks that went completely black, then purple,blue,green and then yellow as the bruishing calmed down! he also ejaculated blood for the first few tommy tanks!

If i was you, id give him a break and let him do not alot for a day or two, far better than hearing him moan constantly for 2 weeks whilst his balls look like theyve down a round with tyson!

Oblomov · 25/11/2011 20:53

Op sounds like a really nasty piece of work. Glad she's not caring for me!!

smartyparts · 25/11/2011 20:56

You can't compare a vasectomy to giving birth, that makes no sense.

However, it is a trauma to a very sensitive area, so it needs a bit of downtime.

As I said earlier, my dh became Buster Gonad, his balls went black and he had a haematoma.

But all was fine within a week!

mrslaughan · 25/11/2011 20:59

Ummmm - DH was feeling very sorry for himself, and his balls were spectacularly marbled in purple and black, so I can have a little sympathy for him....he said it was like being kicked by a horse....

Whatmeworry · 25/11/2011 21:00

Speaking of the OP, we haven't seen her awhile, am increasingly thinking this is a wind up

altinkum · 25/11/2011 21:02

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AnxiousElephant · 25/11/2011 21:22

I do have a funny story about DH and the vasectomy. Friends had it done and my DF bought her DH a shed. When my DH went for his I couldn't get the day off work so our nanny took him and then he had to carry his bag and walk down the road to meet her after because he couldn't drive! We always have a joke about how uncaring and unwifely I was He always brings this up saying his DF got a shed and what did he get I say 'no more kids' and he is happy with that . That said he did rest for a while and had discomfort on and off for weeks, especially while trying to clear the tubes doing the tango . I also get teased about not telling him to get supportive pants and said nanny had to go looking for some lol

jumpyjan · 25/11/2011 21:41

OK admit i have not read the whole thread but am totally shocked YABU.

He is having an operation - its a big deal.

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