To think that this boy's mother was wrong to let him go to school wearing a dress.

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Boy A is 4, in reception. Likes wearing dresses and skirts. I think that's fair enough and I have a tutu and several lovely swishy cloaks in the dressing up box for my DSs (Y2 and YR) too. Who doesn't?

But A's mum bought him a school dress, and let him go to school in it. While I think the world should be a caring, tolerant place where no-one bats an eyelid at this sort of thing, it's not. In reality, small children will laugh and tease. Other infants may look small to us, but to 4yo boys they are life-size and can be terrifying. And they will remember that A went to school in a dress and label him.

I can see that this is fine for a 10yo say, who feels that they're in the wrong gender body. At this age, peers can think things through, empathise and accept. But not a 4yo who likes dressing up. He's just meat for bullies now, surely?

A's mum is very nice, and I'm sure if the world was full of people like her, it would be a great place to live: she has a generous, open personality and is very kind and friendly. But she seems to have set her son up for bullying. He's seen as a bit of a loner by others in our kids' class and this hasn't made him more popular. Now she's marked her and her son out as odd in the eyes of the mothers at the school. I want to live in a world where it's ok to send your son to school in girl's uniform, but I don't think that's reality. AIBU?

It's because it's always non-uniform that they don't bother that much - it isn't a big deal.
In one of the groups of girls who are good friends, that I know well, one wears hijab and long skirts, one wears second hand Boden trousers in bright colours and faded T shirts, one wears a red gingham pretend uniform and the other wears I don't know...this morning she was wearing a sweatshirt, denim shorts, leggings, plimsolls. In another group one wears a lot of sparkly stuff, another wears a lot of sparkly stuff, another wears flowey cotton dresses and the other wears very fiunctional tomboy-ish get up.

It's year 6. no boy wears a dress, one boy has a pony tail, one wears a faux fur coat, several wear t shirts with football teams on.

Do you know for a fact that every DC is happy about it? You could have seen me without uniform and assumed that I was happy and at ease-I was not!

I would have been the one in the flowey cotton dress and loathing it!