to feel shocked that my 4 year old was slated on 1st parents evening

[prettyontheinside]

without using the word 'slow' my dd's ability to concentrate, obey simple instructions, even write her name correctly were all mentioned...a snigger also at the fact she struggled writing, recognising the number 9. i was also told "i'm here to tell it like it is" - now, i hadn't asked "does my bum look big in this"? but was there to discuss my child... i am thoroughly worried as i was also told she'd be 'left behind'...i did say i felt the child discussed isn't the girl i recognise. she's been writing her name for a year...could it be that her teacher lacks rapport with her charges, looks like an unmade bed (cords and cotton traders t's + trainers) and has a lady beard...in fact after a week off school with a virus the teacher in question did not even mention my child's return to class - to welcome or to reassure...all that aside, don't you think the school should perhaps have called me in pre parents evening and not deliver such worrying news in an alloted 10 minute slot within earshot of other parents... what would you do?

I see I am not the only one entertaining a suspician about this pathologust who care's so much about education.

She could be an EWO, though. The last EWO dd's bonkers headteacher sent round to check up on us lectured me for 15 minutes on the importance of education and then had to ask for help to fill in her own forms; her spelling was on a par with Crabapple's.

Of course this does not preclude the possibility that the OP is also bonkers

Vallium- ours is the same, sadly LEA have changed their guidelines and truancy officers now follow up a single day's absence if non authorised. When the boys went to participate in a competitive event the schools (one each, we are nothing if not complex!) had to be quite creative to get around that.

:o at pathologust!

Crab - sorry - there is nothing that happens in the first half term of Reception which could not be caught up on very quickly.

Whilst I don't think missing a week off school is ideal for social and emotional reasons, it does happen. Mostly with no consequences. It will not have been the cause of her apparent inability to write her name (which, I've already argued, is a vastly over-rated necessity for a 4 year old).

Went to DD's parent's evening tonight and despite missing school due to a virus last week her teacher does not feel she is worth giving up on yet She does however think she is the class teacher and tells off the other children if they don't hang their coats on the peg . I think she gets her control freak tendencies from her father

Most normal healthy children should have 100% attendance most school terms. If yours don't then you need to be looking at your parenting.

Hmmm. Crab, you're talking rubbish.

Ever heard of D&V (noroVIRUS or rotaVIRUS)? DS has an episode of one or the other a couple of times a year. DD's speciality is ear infections accopanied by spikes in temperature. Both usually have a 'really nasty cold with a high fever' once each winter. I'd say they're normal healthy kids, but they probably only manage 1 term a year each when they are in school every day).

I was a sickly child - weeks and weeks off in primary school for asthma, bronchitus, pneumonia, pleurisy, asthma again, asthma again, chicken pox, mumps, asthma again, pneumonia again, normal tummy bugs and an exciting bout of food poisoning that the whole family got. Probably missed a month's school each winter, in bouts of a few days or a week at a time. I am exceptionally highly educated, and my parents are widely admired for their parenting.....

Oh that's garbage, Crabapple. Do you actually have any children?

A child who starts in a Reception with no nursery attached is very likely to catch bloody EVERYTHING in the first year - I am a teacher, and obviously attendance concerns me, but my normal healthy ds finished Reception with 90% attendance last year because of this. I was horrified - but there wasn't a damn thing I could have done about it.

Ahem - will try that again.

I should be looking at my parenting?

Patholgust, my eye.

Feenie

my DD2 has 92% - down to DH's parenting (him and GF took them away for 4 days in Sept)

but mainly because she had dysentery - would I have sent her in Crab - is this bad parenting ??????

I work with schols, pastoral care staff, out of school support services, SS, YISP teams, Youth Services, EWO's, YOT's and Ed Psycs - I think you are talking out of your buttim :)

hahaha schools! - my lack of education showing through - since I once missed RE due to a splinter :(

crap - crab

I have five normal, healthy children and not a single one of them has ever gone a year with 100% attendance. The oldest is now 21 so that's a lot of school years.

Maybe I should have looked into providing them each a germ-free bubble to live in?

Well said mathanxiety!

As a teacher I find successful children come from parents who have respect for teachers, a mature attitude and do not resort to playground snide bullying comments when they don't hear what they want to.

You sound awful OP.

pink - i said in this post earlier i was brought up to respect those in authority. she lacked respect with her "i'm here to tell it like it is" attitude. we are talking about a 4 year old that she had already written off. instead of offering helpful soloutions, she was mocking and cruel. but hey, she's a teacher so i should respect her. bs.