to feel shocked that my 4 year old was slated on 1st parents evening

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without using the word 'slow' my dd's ability to concentrate, obey simple instructions, even write her name correctly were all mentioned...a snigger also at the fact she struggled writing, recognising the number 9. i was also told "i'm here to tell it like it is" - now, i hadn't asked "does my bum look big in this"? but was there to discuss my child... i am thoroughly worried as i was also told she'd be 'left behind'...i did say i felt the child discussed isn't the girl i recognise. she's been writing her name for a year...could it be that her teacher lacks rapport with her charges, looks like an unmade bed (cords and cotton traders t's + trainers) and has a lady beard...in fact after a week off school with a virus the teacher in question did not even mention my child's return to class - to welcome or to reassure...all that aside, don't you think the school should perhaps have called me in pre parents evening and not deliver such worrying news in an alloted 10 minute slot within earshot of other parents... what would you do?

and when you assume, you make an ass of u and me both

jamie... so you have steeped into ze pathologust's lab to solve zis mystery...

You are hercule poirot and I claim my £10!

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Oui, mon chere. All ze evidence is zere - ze fact zat ze muzzer clearly gives not a teensy leetle shit about education, ze gobs of froth from the screaming berzerkers at ze crime scene. And, enfin, ze small chin 'airs .......

I'm a teaching assistant with a biology a-level and much prefer kids to stay at home until they are fully recovered and able to work to the best of their abilities.

But what do I know?

Looks like you've got this one sussed Poirot old chap.

The reason so many of you think I am bonkers is because you are reasonable parents who assume everyone else is too. You don't realise how many children are held off school how often and for no reason.

No of course you cannot predict how a 4 year old will grow up ( or a 14 year old) butt you can sure as hell predict how they are going to be parented!

Some children (say one in ten) disadvantaged in this way do manage to turn things arouns for themselves in their teens, in spite of their parents.

Well, I'm using my teaching experience and my experience working in an EWD to say you are bonkers. So I'm not at all just coming from the pov of a reasonable parent.

Crab - she's done it once. She's 4 years old and has just started school. She's probably knackered. You are making an unwarranted "thin end of the wedge" argument. Get off your soap box

I do have a good giggle at people who claim to do certain jobs for a living and then automatically expect that to give their posts more credence.

This is the internet...people can claim to be anyone or anything.

It's best to take these things with a pinch of salt and just read their posts for what they are...not what the person claims to be.

Love Worra - supermodel

id go back in and ask for another meeting either with class teacher or head teacher remind them that she is only 4 yr old and ask why she / school hasn't had a word earlier if your child was as bad as she described at parents night

my daughter is now in p3 and teaching staff dismissed my worries in p1 & 2 that my daughter was struggling with her work if i asked if they had any concens they kept saying she's doing fine ...

I am Spartacus

Oh come on, who refers to themselves as a "a qualified pathologust'

I am a size 8 with a Mensa IQ and work for MI6 in my spare time.

good point, I would not want to meet an unqualified pathologist

I'm now wondering if Crabapple is the OP. It's funny how this thread has flipped over from everyone slating the OP for complaining about the teacher's cords and facial hair to everyone defending the OP for keeping her DD at home with a virus!
You've gotta love the internet!

Jamie come home, this is a "one week off with a virus " mother expressing apparant "shock"and amazement at being told her child is behind and not making progress.

Can you really not wrap your head around the idea of a child being off for a week with a virus?

This is a 4 year old child. In a lot of countries around the world she would not even be in school at 4.

Albert Einstein started school at age 5, dropped out at 15, failed his first university entrance exam, returned to school and passed the second time round.
Thomas Edison's teacher called him 'addled' and he spent a total of three months in formal education.
Bill Gates dropped out of college (Harvard).
Richard Branson is dyslexic and left school very disillusioned at 16.
Charles Dickens left school at age 12 and went to work.
Pretty much every single American who was born up to the 1980s started school at age 6 -- I think there are plenty of Americans famous for all sorts of achievements in all sorts of areas who spent the year they turned 4 at home with 'Mom'.

I really hope you are making it all up Crabapple, because the idea of you actually being anywhere near little children is quite quite worrying.

Her remarks sound unprofessional - can you go to the head?

As someone whose friends have a child with a severely damaged immune sustem I would also prefer chidren who are ill be kept at home.

There is zero point sending them back early anyway as I have found to my cost as the school just sends them back, necessitating someone to sit with them whilst you get there and wasting time.

At 4 we have a play curriculum. but at 8, 12 etc they will still get ill. Teachers know this; it is time off to go to Benidorm or sit in the aprk with a bottle of scrumpy that is problematic not genuine illness.

Runningwilde I wonder how much school Crabapple missed if her spelling is this bad

Actually our Head is great, he thinks it's absolutely NOT the school's place to tell parents when they can book their holiday - I have a lot of respect for him for saying that!