To be sick to death of every single person I know describing their toddler as advanced?

[Bethshine82]

Honestly. Everyone I know with small children go on and on and on about how advanced their child is. They can't all be advanced. I was a teacher before being a SAHM and in my years of teaching only met one child that I would consider "advanced." Sure, some were more able than others but by and large they fell under the bracket of what was expected for their age group. What happens to all these advanced two and three year olds?!

I saw a friend yesterday with a ten month old baby and yes, her baby is "advanced." WTF? It was not talking. It was not walking. It was doing what every ten month old baby I've ever seen does. What is advanced in a ten month old baby? For that matter what is advanced in a two or three year old? As far as I can see they all have things they are good at and less good at, just like adults.

It absolutely drives me mad. It's great to be proud of your kid but why is it that most (all my friends it would appear) people don't realise that while you think your own child is brilliant and special to everyone else they're just a regular kid? Argh! I overheard a conversation between two mothers recently and their babies could not have been more than five months old. One was saying "When I went in this morning he was reaching, actually reaching, for his mobile. I couldn't believe it. He's so clever, he's really advanced."

This is what makes me avoid mother and toddler groups. And Babycentre.

AIBU??

tomverlaine you talk a lot of sense.

dd2 is the eldest in her year (if she had been born 8 hrs earlier she would be in the year above)

she is also very clever, but some of the other chidlren do try and keep up with her and they are almost a whole year younger than her. but dd2 doesnt mind, and the other prents know that dd2 is the eldest in the class as well. we do remind the younger ones that dd2 is practically a whole year older. some of them have caught up in some areas, which is great. dd2 still steaming ahead regardless.

but as i said lower down, dd4 is very short for her age. her clothes are for 12-18month olds, she is 3years old. so at toddler groups when she is chattering away in full sentences which is age apprioate for her, other parents look at their 1-2year olds and think that dd4 is advanced. she isnt.