To believe I shouldn't be accosted about where I leave my shopping trolley?

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Has just returned from the hell hole that is Tesco. I parked in Parent & Baby as I am a parent, with a baby (20 mo) and am due another in 2 weeks. In this particular Tesco, the P&B spaces are no where near the entry door but are near the shelter, so you can get out and walk under the shelter to the door, retrieve a trolley and go shopping. However on your way out, you can use the exit door right next to the P&B parking, so you don't have to wheel a heavy trolley the 2 mile stretch across the car park. However, you have to put the trolley back near the front door, as there is no trolley park within 50 yards of the P&B section. Not happy leaving my son strapped in the car alone, nor loving the idea of lugging him on my hip in the pouring rain, I pushed my trolley (once emptied) near to the exit door, under the shelter as the woman next to me had parked and was getting out, and I figured she could retrieve it as the seat was dry etc.

Some absolute knob head walked past with his trolley in his fucking cheese cloth suit and said;

"Oh just going to LEAVE it there are you?".

I was half in the car, and I said,

"Excuse me?"

Him: "You. Leaving that there."

Me: "It is not my fault that Tesco do not provide a trolley park near enough the parenting spaces so I don't have to leave my baby in the car alone while I dance across the car park".

Him: "You have legs, you CAN walk, don't just leave it there".

Me: "It isn't upside down in the sea, is it? I don't see it has anything to do with you, if it offends you so much, get a job here and see if they'll let you collect the trollies".

Got in my car and drove off doing the wanker gesture as I went past him.

I'd like to add, he was parked 2 spaces over from me WITHOUT A CHILD. Which I know is not a legal right blah blah, but he had the bloody audacity to quiz me on supermarket etiquette. What a dick.

Don't tell me he was right, I may hang myself.

Is it really that important to put the trolley back? I always make sure that I leave mine in an appropriate place but I don't always return it to the trolley bay, there are no signs stating that they must be returned to the bay and there are two trolley collectors employed at my local supermarket.

Waving from the compound.

Am learning a lot.

My access to the www is restricted so I do come and go on here - this weekend the men-folk are off at nature ceremony - so I have been enjoying my freedom !

Does that apply to my throwing up in the train example, Katie ? It certainly wasn't intentional and if I'd known it was going to happen, I would have stayed home! It was terribly uncivilised though and I expect a very major problem..

I'm not really sure what's happening on this thread, to be honest. I don't like the way the OP did the wanker sign and it all seemed a bit much, but then again I have no time for people passing remarks to strangers in car parks either when they have no idea of the circumstances governing someone's behaviour at that point in time. My mother once went running out of a shop and dropped all her shopping at the till because she'd had a call to say her father had died. I'm sure there were people tutting about her lack of consideration but it was an unusual behaviour.

On the other hand, it seems that suggesting that it would be good for pregnant women to be treated a little more gently by the people around them is some sort of 1950's 'need to get out more' piped dream, which doesn't make sense either. Most people I know are very considerate of the people around them, whether that's taking into consideration that a woman is pregnant, a man has a limp, a child is a bit afraid of something, a colleague is recovering from an illness etc. It seems like common decency to me, part of being civilised. There is so much anger and judgement on MN, it surprises me that so many people are seething quite as much as they are. I don't really find myself seething at people I don't know ever, do people really get this het up about this sort of stuff? Or is it just an MN thing?

Waving back Rosemary....
Have a good day.
Nature ceremony sounds interesting...

I didn't post this before because there were a couple of similar stories on the thread already, but when I was a child I saw a toddler knocked over by a blown trolley that also crashed into the car he was standing next to. It was a really nasty blow to the head. I don't know what happened afterwards (we were ushered away very quickly) but that child was hurt because someone did not put a trolley away safely.

No, because you had the good grace to be embarrassed and it wasn't deliberate rocks.

If you'd known you were going to be sick but got on the train any way then that would be weird. If you knew it was likely you might be sick without warning then I'd expect you'd do what I and others did and try to mitigate it as best you can (SIL used to chuck up in a carrier bag, I used to take the bus instead of train so I could sit which helped and get off quickly if I felt nauseous) and probably try to clean it up.

I actually agree with all of your other points as I posted further up the thread.

I don't agree with you katie sorry. Some people expect the world to revolve around them whether they are pregnant or not like Denise off Royal Family as was mentioned upthread. I don't think people have a personality transplant generally when they get knocked up, but your experience may be different to mine.

The people that have used my pregnancy to belittle me have done that whether I have been pushing myself to the limit and doing more than usual or whether I have stepped back and done things like take a lunch break or leave work on time. I don't think they will have based their reasoning on what they were seeing me do tbh.

Lots of people leave their trollies wherever in the supermarket, again I'd cut the heavily pregnant woman with a toddler a bit of slack, it's not like she left the trolley wafting round the car park. And sometimes when you're pregnant you might not know that you can't do something until you try and I can see (though perhaps not in this specific example) that you might start a supermarket trip and be in so much pain by the end of it the last thing you can manage is a walk to and from a trolley bay.

I'm sorry I don't understand your point handbagCrab or how it relates to any of mine. Maybe it's because the thread's moved on.

She said it was safe and in a 'non rolling environment'. Far more people get knocked down by bad driving than runaway trolleys. Can we please get a grip?

He was a guy who felt he could tell a unknown woman what to do, despite him actually breaking the rules and parking in a P&B space without children. He obviously doesn't respect the parking etiquette and has issue with women (who use P&B spaces more than men as they are more commonly the primary care giver). To me he sounds like he is on a one man mission to bring spoilt, unruly women under control.

He should have just posted your details on here and let the MNers do his dirty work for him.

fit2drop I thought the same when she mentioned Waitrose and ready meals!

YABU. Park nearer the trolley bays if you can't be bothered to return the trolley. You may as well throw litter on the floor and say Tesco should provide more bins.

Not buying the "had to park there because of my bump" line either.

nordiccamper There's no evidence that he would not have behaved the same way to a man - in which case he's an equal-opps arsehole.

Wholly irrelevant but I will say it anyway because I am so pleased - while I was typing the last para DW's cousin phoned to say that she (cousin, not DW!) is a grandmother again. Another baby to buy things for! As you may gather I am in RL a hopelessly sentimental old softie.

Later, of course, another child to buy annoying, noisy, piss-off-the-parents toys for :o