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To believe I shouldn't be accosted about where I leave my shopping trolley?

213 replies

ExquisiteCake · 12/11/2011 12:24

Has just returned from the hell hole that is Tesco. I parked in Parent & Baby as I am a parent, with a baby (20 mo) and am due another in 2 weeks. In this particular Tesco, the P&B spaces are no where near the entry door but are near the shelter, so you can get out and walk under the shelter to the door, retrieve a trolley and go shopping. However on your way out, you can use the exit door right next to the P&B parking, so you don't have to wheel a heavy trolley the 2 mile stretch across the car park. However, you have to put the trolley back near the front door, as there is no trolley park within 50 yards of the P&B section. Not happy leaving my son strapped in the car alone, nor loving the idea of lugging him on my hip in the pouring rain, I pushed my trolley (once emptied) near to the exit door, under the shelter as the woman next to me had parked and was getting out, and I figured she could retrieve it as the seat was dry etc.

Some absolute knob head walked past with his trolley in his fucking cheese cloth suit and said;

"Oh just going to LEAVE it there are you?".

I was half in the car, and I said,

"Excuse me?"

Him: "You. Leaving that there."

Me: "It is not my fault that Tesco do not provide a trolley park near enough the parenting spaces so I don't have to leave my baby in the car alone while I dance across the car park".

Him: "You have legs, you CAN walk, don't just leave it there".

Me: "It isn't upside down in the sea, is it? I don't see it has anything to do with you, if it offends you so much, get a job here and see if they'll let you collect the trollies".

Got in my car and drove off doing the wanker gesture as I went past him.

I'd like to add, he was parked 2 spaces over from me WITHOUT A CHILD. Which I know is not a legal right blah blah, but he had the bloody audacity to quiz me on supermarket etiquette. What a dick.

Don't tell me he was right, I may hang myself.

OP posts:
troisgarcons · 12/11/2011 13:34

Your car might blow up?

Dear God.

I dunno about hormonal but you have a very vivid imagination.

SoupDragon · 12/11/2011 13:35

Oh, so this is an AIBU where the OP will not accept any opinions contrary to her own.

I do wish people would make that clear in their original post.

Flanelle · 12/11/2011 13:37

HugosGoatee - we can but hope.

Thumbwitch · 12/11/2011 13:37

Oh i think the clues were there in the OP soupy - she's pregnant! Grin

Thumbwitch · 12/11/2011 13:38

(FULLY tongue in cheek, just in case anyone was about to take me seriously there)

Feminine · 12/11/2011 13:38

I am scared to come back home to the UK, don't get any of this hassle in US.Grin

Workers actually come and take your trolley from you sometimes...

op sorry you encountered such a plum.

SamWidgiz · 12/11/2011 13:50

YANBU

I don't get why people feel the need to pick fights in supermarkets. It just seems a bit... petty...

Ticklemonster2 · 12/11/2011 13:52

If he was a gent with an ounce of humanity he would have seen your predicament and offered to take it back for you as I assume he was on his way to the store.
I shop at sainsburys where the parking v trolley park is more mum and baby friendly.
As long as you put the brake on so it doesn't roll into anyone's car, then it's totally reasonable.

ConstanceNoring · 12/11/2011 14:00

I love squeaky's idea about transferring to another trolley, I just had a 'Doh" moment having never thought of it.

OP YANBU, and he was a meany.

If you can't play your "heavily pregnant with toddler" card now, when can you?

Be prepared next time with this:-

"Oh just going to LEAVE it there are you?".

I was half in the car, and I said,

"Excuse me?"

Him: "You. Leaving that there."

You: "Oh you are a love offering to take it back for me.."

I also love the idea of offering your 'phone to call about his missing children Grin

Catslikehats · 12/11/2011 14:07

I couldn't care less where you leave a trolly as long as it is not behind my parked car but seriously why engage?

Not wanting to leave your DS for the time it takes to return the trolly to where it should go is a bit precious.

Andrewofgg · 12/11/2011 14:09

Gwendoline if you have to use a deep trolley and can't fish things out of it do what a heavily pregnant woman did in my Tesco this morning - collar a healthy and non-pg shopper - not necessarily male - and ask for help to put your things on the belt. Choose right and they will, if only out of shame. It wasn't me this morning, it was a younger bloke, but of course I would have done.

And if necessary collar another one to put them back in the trolley when you've paid.

And to load them in the boot.

There are plenty of people around who will help a heavily pregnant women if asked politely.

StrandedBear · 12/11/2011 14:14

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heleninahandcart · 12/11/2011 14:17

He was wearing cheesecloth
He parked in the parents section
It is non of his business where you shove your trolley
He was a tool and YANBU

somedayma · 12/11/2011 14:21

Yabu. You used the trolley, you should have Put it back in the right place. Rain won't hurt your kid

PenguinArmy · 12/11/2011 14:25

Someone I know complained about lack of trolley bays near parent and parking, and one was consequently installed

KatieMiddIeton · 12/11/2011 14:27

YABU. Honestly you couldn't have left your child in the car for one minute? So what if it spontainiously burst into flames? Makes no odds if you're in it or not. Only difference is you'd both be toast.

Your behaviour afterwards was disgraceful and the fact he was an officious, badly dressed arse makes not a jot of difference.

BoffinMum · 12/11/2011 14:32

I think taking things literally can be helpful with knobs.

"Are you going to leave that there?"
"Yes"
Drive off.
Forget conversation.
Grin

PenguinArmy · 12/11/2011 14:34

where I am we need parent parking for the space. For some reason (I assume historical) spaces are very tight all over our town. I had to do some complicated maneuvering to get into a position to enable me to put DD back in the car yesterday which meant asking a stranger to keep an eye on her in her buggy while I did so.

ExquisiteCake · 12/11/2011 14:41
Grin
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ExquisiteCake · 12/11/2011 14:45

and for the trolley police on here...I was asking if I was BU about being accosted not about where I left my trolley.

OP posts:
StealthPenguin · 12/11/2011 14:46

Did everyone miss the part where she says she was putting the trolley to one side for the woman who just pulled up to use? Or did I hallucinate that line of text.

At the end of the day, it's exactly what I would have done in your position. The choices were
a) Park in P&C and then leave the trolley there
b) Park in P&C and then take the trolley back, carrying her child all the way back to her car while heavily pregnant.
c) Park somewhere else and get her and her DS soaking wet whilst simultaneously trying to get him out of the car because there isn't enough room.

Out of all of them, I'd go with a).

And since he's a douchebag who decided to lecture you on "the rules" when he was flouting a rule that's, in my opinion, more important than where you put a trolley! Provided you put the trolley somewhere safe, where it can't blow away and where it doesn't obstruct a parking space then I fail to see what the issue is.

KatieMiddIeton · 12/11/2011 14:51

Or
d) Strap child into car and take back trolley under the covered walk way

OP you do sound a tad highly strung. Maybe a nice lie down would do you the world of good? Smile

PenguinArmy · 12/11/2011 14:54

and if you do d) and start a AIBU everyone will tell you how UR you are as anything could happen.

You know it's true (e.g. all leaving baby in car while paying for petrol threads)

KatieMiddIeton · 12/11/2011 15:21

Grin PenguinArmy you're probably right.

mumeeee · 12/11/2011 15:23

I usually get annoyed at people not taking trolleys back. But in this case OP YANBU.