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To believe I shouldn't be accosted about where I leave my shopping trolley?

213 replies

ExquisiteCake · 12/11/2011 12:24

Has just returned from the hell hole that is Tesco. I parked in Parent & Baby as I am a parent, with a baby (20 mo) and am due another in 2 weeks. In this particular Tesco, the P&B spaces are no where near the entry door but are near the shelter, so you can get out and walk under the shelter to the door, retrieve a trolley and go shopping. However on your way out, you can use the exit door right next to the P&B parking, so you don't have to wheel a heavy trolley the 2 mile stretch across the car park. However, you have to put the trolley back near the front door, as there is no trolley park within 50 yards of the P&B section. Not happy leaving my son strapped in the car alone, nor loving the idea of lugging him on my hip in the pouring rain, I pushed my trolley (once emptied) near to the exit door, under the shelter as the woman next to me had parked and was getting out, and I figured she could retrieve it as the seat was dry etc.

Some absolute knob head walked past with his trolley in his fucking cheese cloth suit and said;

"Oh just going to LEAVE it there are you?".

I was half in the car, and I said,

"Excuse me?"

Him: "You. Leaving that there."

Me: "It is not my fault that Tesco do not provide a trolley park near enough the parenting spaces so I don't have to leave my baby in the car alone while I dance across the car park".

Him: "You have legs, you CAN walk, don't just leave it there".

Me: "It isn't upside down in the sea, is it? I don't see it has anything to do with you, if it offends you so much, get a job here and see if they'll let you collect the trollies".

Got in my car and drove off doing the wanker gesture as I went past him.

I'd like to add, he was parked 2 spaces over from me WITHOUT A CHILD. Which I know is not a legal right blah blah, but he had the bloody audacity to quiz me on supermarket etiquette. What a dick.

Don't tell me he was right, I may hang myself.

OP posts:
McQueasy · 12/11/2011 15:30

The answer to ur problems is on line shopping. Cuts wankers like him right out the equation ;)

Hissy · 12/11/2011 15:39

Yes, but the baby is 2m off being TWO! You can tell a child of that age I'm just taking the trolley back and they will understand.

You may not have been U in leaving the trolley, but IMHO, starting an AIBU about it, when your child is actually of WALKING age is BU. Grin

The bloke was an arse, it's NONE of his business. you only had to deal with him for a second, pity the poor cow married to him! Grin

MrsVoltar · 12/11/2011 15:54

Best reply Constance

Or Cake "pinned his head to the floor & parked my trolley there" Grin

I had a run-in with a moany faced cow woman in Tesco's when pregnant with DS. Do you think the people who accost/annoy pregnant women don't have children or never been close to anyone who's pregnant?

Do they not realise they are actually risking their lives by messing with an extremely hormonal woman Grin

Tortington · 12/11/2011 16:09

i know you have replied to this accusation - however i still want to reiterate it

there is no reason you couldnt have locked your kid in the car to put your trolley back - seriously - at most could only be a 7 minute round trip

anything else is just convenience.

so yes, would be nice if tesco had a trolley bay close - perhaps you should tell em - but doesn't excuse you just leaving your trolley

yes you can leave your kid in car dont be ridiculous ffs

yes the man was a complete tool

i have realised that rcently society thinks it is ok to comment on other peoples behaviour, i think this isn't british at all and that the british thing to do is to pretend it isn't happening and walk on

nowadays every fucker and his dog comments on this that and the other, haveing been on the recieving ends of two such instances recently, and spending days thinking about these confrontational events as they really upset me, i have decided my pithy witty response to any such comments in future will be 'fuck off'

FanjoString · 12/11/2011 16:34

The vast breadth of supermarket annoyances posted about on AIBU reassures me that the online shopping delivery fee is well worth it.

Pendeen · 12/11/2011 16:50

Coin trollies are the best solution, then everyone has to park their trolley properly.

Or forfeit a pound, which couls go towards the cost of reimbursing those of us who have had their cars damaged by a trolley abandoned by some selfish, lazy idiot.

iggi999 · 12/11/2011 16:53

Not every trolley left out of a trolley park automatically rolls into someone's 4x4 you know.
Supermarkets employ people to deal with trolleys - presumably before the coin ones came along they employed more staff to collect them. So if we leave our trolleys out we are actually generating employment.

nordiccamper · 12/11/2011 17:00

YANBU, what a sanctimonious prick.

On the subject of shopping trolleys. Supermarkets have people hoodwinked and are relying on people loving to follow a rule. Unless there's a bay for trolleys within 30 cars of me, i'd leave it in a non car parking area, especially in the rain. My rationale is that it's cost cutting to not provide more bays which inconveniences me, the customer, who chose to give you my hard earned. Make it easy for me and i'll give you more.

GwendolineMaryLacey · 12/11/2011 17:08

Nice idea Pendeen when there's a good sprinkling of trolley bays that all take coin trolleys. Not so much fun when you're at the far far end of the car park (advised by mnetters for when the p&c are full) and the only coin bays are by the doors.

MissBeehiving · 12/11/2011 17:08

I think you did well not ramming the trolley corner into his nuts Grin

alemci · 12/11/2011 17:19

wouldn't it have been nice if he had offered to take the trolley back for you. I don't blame you for leaving it there as long as it wasn't in a parking space or able to roll away and damage a car.

not sure about the wanky jesture as sometimes that can make things worse and make him more inflamed and just make you more upset that you have descended to his level.

diddl · 12/11/2011 18:11

Oh yes, when I once left a trolley, I did make sure it couldn´t roll into cars.

The chap also asked why I wasn´t going to take it back-told him it was because I was too lazyBlushGrin

Is it only men who ask about this?

I´m only 5ft & the guy who asked me about a trolley was over 6ft!

VivaLeBeaver · 12/11/2011 18:16

I think you lost any moral highground when you started making wanker gestures.

nordiccamper · 12/11/2011 18:29

Or Viva was she just giving honest feedback?

Neuromantic · 12/11/2011 18:29

Four months, not two. Twenty plus four months equals two years.
Hth.

ExquisiteCake · 12/11/2011 20:05

I was just catching up. Yes he's 20 months in a fortnights time. The issue isn't my sons age....or having to justify to some random busy body why I'm not prepared to leave him in the car alone. I was wearing crocs so obviously not only was it far with my giant stomach but my socks would get wet. I would have sacrificed a pound in this instance. I never swear at people but he made me so mad I had to do the gesture. Apologies for no apostrophes on new iPhone and don't have a clue where they are unless added for me.

OP posts:
southeastastra · 12/11/2011 21:17

don't underestimate the wanker gesture, it's pretty succinct

StealthPenguin · 12/11/2011 21:23

But... but... he WAS a wanker lol!

auntiepicklebottom2 · 12/11/2011 21:29

I live the new tesco they just builted where I live, all under ground parking with every space is wider than the average parking spot

AyeBelieve · 12/11/2011 21:32

You're a bit odd to post such a minor exchange on here. But not as odd as the ones who responded.

Oh.

RosemaryandThyme · 12/11/2011 21:57

You are pregnant you should not be pushing trolly's at all, you should be being nurtured and cared for.
I regularly asked Tesco staff to push my trolly to the car when I was pregnant and they we're always really helpful, in the later stages I even asked for, and got, a member of staff to walk round pushing the trolly for me as I loaded it up.
Eventually I discovered on-line shopping - I would happily send you the delivery charges for your weekly shop for the rest of your pregnancy.
Take care of yourself and take it easy, being pregnant is difficult and you deserve lots of extra care.
Very best of luck to you and your family.

worraliberty · 12/11/2011 22:01

Can I just check Rosemary....you are joking aren't you? Shock

Pregnant women shouldn't push trollies, why??

Fucking hell, so Tesco supply personal servants to people who choose to have kids? Do they give them free cleaners and cooks too? You know, so when they get home they can continue to be nurtured and cared for? Grin

fit2drop · 12/11/2011 22:09

You are pregnant you should not be pushing trolly's at all WTactual F !!?Shock

Rosemary you have done what my 11 kids and years of working in MH have never been able to do, you have rendered me speechless

mumblecrumble · 12/11/2011 22:09

Er.... there is no way I;d leave my now 4 year old in the car alone for 7 minutes in a carpark let alone a baby/toddler. Does your toddler walk? I ask becasuue if your baby could walk I would take him./her to trolley park and then walk them back. If baby could not walk I would chuck the trolley in the nearest safest place and tell that interfeering dude to naff off.

SoupDragon · 12/11/2011 22:10

"Pregnant women shouldn't push trollies, why??"

Because they are delicate little flowers who may melt in the rain or get wet feet