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Original poster

erm.. chocolate finger for 10 month old at nursery?

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DuelingFanjo · 31/10/2011 18:31

I didn't put anything on his form saying that I didn't want him to have cakes/biscuits/chocolate so maybe I am being unreasonable but I was a bit Shock to be told that the nursery had given DS a chocolate finger today. I said 'oh, really?' but now I am home I think that actually I am stupid for not saying something and now I feel annoyed with them and annoyed with myself.

What to do Sad? I have to say something. I was told that they feed the babies healthy food, no juice and so on so I thought they might know that chocoloate fingers for a baby that old is not normal? Or is it? Am I the weird one?

It's a good nursery, highly recommended and they haven't done anything I don't like before.

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baabaapinksheep · 31/10/2011 18:34

YANBU - next time you go in just mention to whoever is in charge that you do not want him having chocolate/cake/biscuits or whatever it is you don't want him to have. Obviously a chocolate finger isn't going to do him any harm, but they need to respect your wishes.

cjbartlett · 31/10/2011 18:35

It's normal
If you've got an older children and it has a 2nd or 3rd birthday party would you stop a 10 month old eating a chocolate finger?

Really?!! [hgrin]

ScaredBear · 31/10/2011 18:35

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cjbartlett · 31/10/2011 18:36

Unless they forced it down his throat I honestly don't see the harm
As a treat ?
Is he there every day? Are you worrying every day he would have a chocolate finger?

grumplestilskin · 31/10/2011 18:36

is it a regular thing?

mumatron · 31/10/2011 18:37

Was it just a halloween treat?

The nurseries I have used would do treats for halloween, christmas, easter etc.

Was he not covered in chocolate though? When I gave dd2 one of those heinz choc biscotti fingers she was covered in it!

comedycentral · 31/10/2011 18:37

A chocolate finger OHMYWORD will somebody please think of the children?
YABU, it's Halloween, is he your pfb?

SocialButterfly · 31/10/2011 18:38

Really?? Just tell them for future reference that you don't what him to have them from now on and forget about it, one chocolate finger will not do any harm geez!

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DuelingFanjo · 31/10/2011 18:38

ok, I KNEW I would get these kind of replies. You all thinking I am being precious becaus he's my first. Sigh.

I just haven't given him anything with chocolate and wasn't planning on doing so for a while, until at least one.

I don't see the point of feeding a baby empty calories, sweet things they don't need. I was trying to feed him a healthy diet and don't like the idea that 4 days a week he may be fed sugary snacks in nursery. Maybe it's odd to think that healthy food is better for small people? I must be in a minority.

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susiedaisy · 31/10/2011 18:40

I don't have a prob with the chocolate but I would be slightly concerned with the finger snapping off and possibly choking the baby!

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DuelingFanjo · 31/10/2011 18:40

Ps - I know one chocolate finger won't do any harm, it would have been nice if I could have made the decision about when he had chocolate for the first time but I guess they must have assumed that he had had chocolate by 10 months or something.

I will just talk to them and ask them not to give him any more.

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cjbartlett · 31/10/2011 18:40

If he's getting sugary snacks four days a week then yes I wouldn't be happy
You need to ascertain if it was a one off

comedycentral · 31/10/2011 18:40

I'm only half joking btw. If it was a regular thing I would be very annoyed, they will probably do this again at Christmas so if you are not happy with it I think you need to have a word with them.

MilkNoSugarPlease · 31/10/2011 18:41

I don't think you are being u tbh...regardless of wether people think a chocolate finger is ok for a baby or not, you don't and I'd be bloody pissed off if the nursery didn't respect what I had asked them

reastie · 31/10/2011 18:41

IMO YANBU and I would be exactly the same with my dd, who is 8mo and I consider giving her rusks as being a naughty mummy Blush can you tell she's my pfb

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DuelingFanjo · 31/10/2011 18:41

susie, we've been doing BLW so he is beyond the chocking stage. Lately he's not been eating well, is going through a phase where he's refusing food. I really don't want him to start getting a preference for sweet sugary processed foods instead of eating the 'good' stuff.

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BeaHededd · 31/10/2011 18:42

If you haven't registered your wishes for him not to have any biscuits,cakes or sweet things ten yabu.
It was probably a halloween treat and I wouldn't think it an abnormal thing to give a 10 month old.

durhambound · 31/10/2011 18:42

YANBU. Ds didn't have anything chocolate until he was one. It was on his birthday. They should have checked with you first.

gamerwidow · 31/10/2011 18:43

If it bothers you that much then yes talk to the nursery. The odd bit of chocolate even at that age really isn't a big deal so it's hardly surprising they didn't ask you first.

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DuelingFanjo · 31/10/2011 18:43

Milknosugar, I don't think I did ask them specifically not to, I just didn't realise it was the 'norm' for nurseries to gie babies this small things like chocolate fingers. I was also given the impression that their snacks were healthy ones.

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blackoutthesun · 31/10/2011 18:44

if you haven't told the nursery then you can't really complain

just let them know for next time

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DuelingFanjo · 31/10/2011 18:44

OK, I will ask if it was a Halloween thing and then ask that it not be a regular thing. I don't want to single him out but I do want to have some control over his diet. I personally don't think there is any need to give babies chocolate. He would have been happy with a ppieceof fruit.

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bigkidsdidit · 31/10/2011 18:45

my CM asked this morning if DS (10 months nearly too) could have a fairy cake at their Halloween party. I said yes - his first sweet thing. Once in a while fine for me - every day I would certainly say no. I don't think that's precious.

I'd confirm with them tomorrow how often he has that sort of thing.

bigkidsdidit · 31/10/2011 18:45

x post op

givemushypeasachance · 31/10/2011 18:46

"it would have been nice if I could have made the decision about when he had chocolate for the first time"

If you have a child that is not in your sole care 24/7, 365 days a year, then the chances are that they will have some "firsts" while you are not there - whether it's with a partner, grandparents, friends babysitting or in childcare. You should figure out which firsts are important to you - such as first taste of chocolate or first viewing of a non-vetted disney film or first go at climbing to the top of the monkey bars, whatever, and make sure that everyone else is aware of your feelings in advance.

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