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erm.. chocolate finger for 10 month old at nursery?

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DuelingFanjo · 31/10/2011 18:31

I didn't put anything on his form saying that I didn't want him to have cakes/biscuits/chocolate so maybe I am being unreasonable but I was a bit Shock to be told that the nursery had given DS a chocolate finger today. I said 'oh, really?' but now I am home I think that actually I am stupid for not saying something and now I feel annoyed with them and annoyed with myself.

What to do Sad? I have to say something. I was told that they feed the babies healthy food, no juice and so on so I thought they might know that chocoloate fingers for a baby that old is not normal? Or is it? Am I the weird one?

It's a good nursery, highly recommended and they haven't done anything I don't like before.

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DuelingFanjo · 31/10/2011 22:16

Olivetti, slightly off topic, how did you get your baby to hoover up large wuantities of fruit snd veg? At the moment DS is not eating much and I'd love it if he would eat more of the good stuff alongside the odd chocolate finger.

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brdgrl · 31/10/2011 22:20

I am finding it hard to believe that this OP is actually serious.

why? plenty of parents do not give sugar or salt to 10-month babies!!!

and plenty of kids have food issues or undiscovered allergies, so it is not a silly thing to be irate about.

the only reason the OP should think twice about ripping their heads off is that she may not have communicated her feeding preferences as clearly as she could have - and even given that, it is reasonable to expect a professional childcare facility to err on the side of prudence.

exoticfruits · 31/10/2011 22:22

I agree wholeheartedly with Olivetti's common sense approach. I remember back to baby/toddler coffeee mornings and the mothers who treated a bit of sugar as if it was poison were the ones who had toddlers who were an utter menace-their one aim was to grab a biscuit. The rest could take it or leave it and were far more interested in playing. It is a huge fuss about a small, one off, biscuit (can you get a smaller biscuit than a choc finger?)

Kayano · 31/10/2011 22:22

Brdgirl... Really? REALLY?
Ripping their heads off?
Over a chocolate finger?!

My god that's crazy!
And op clearly did not inform anyone that she had an issue with this so I just can have no sympathy to this

brdgrl · 31/10/2011 22:25

sorry that you think it's crazy.

RitaMorgan · 31/10/2011 22:25

If you send your child to nursery you have to let go a little bit - you can't control every morsel that passes their lips. Most nurseries serve puddings with custard, occasional cakes etc - there must be very few that don't do any sweet puddings.

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DuelingFanjo · 31/10/2011 22:26

thanks brdgrl, I did wonder part way through this thread if I had neglected to mention that the baby is 10 months old and that the nursery had talked to me about their healthy menu but, no, I did actually mention both in my OP.

I am breastfeeding my baby because I feel it is the best thing nutritionally and so I wonder if it is really that odd and unusual that I want him to have healthy food too?

Seems that it is though, and I am in the minority. I can totally understand that things like Halloween and Christmas may involve celebration, dressing up and so on but really didn't realise that it's also seen as an excuse to substitute the usual healthy snacks with chocolate biscuits!

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RitaMorgan · 31/10/2011 22:27

You didn't realise that celebrations involve treat food?

Kayano · 31/10/2011 22:27

Yeah, thinking about ripping Someone's HEAD off over a choc finger is crazy.

Of course if the child had been 2 months older it would magically have been all ok Hmm

Or... Or.... She could have thought about this when filling the form out specifically asking about this sort of thing... Thus avoiding the need for such
Nonsense

ChippingInAutumnLover · 31/10/2011 22:31

Dueling (& others jumping on the band wagon) - is your comprehension level really that low? I did not call you a twat. I didn't even say that your opinion on the chocolate biscuit business was 'twattery' ... what I said was...

... and all of this I was brought up on a really healthy diet and I think it's been a good foundation for me and would like to do the same for my son just makes you look like a sanctimonious prat. Implying that the rest of us who think that one chocolate finger is not the end of the world are all terrible people & aren't giving our children 'a good foundation' is just twattery

A huge difference if you had bothered to read it properly.

exoticfruits · 31/10/2011 22:32

What are you going to do when a DC has a birthday and the parent brings in treats? It is quite possible to factor them into a healthy diet. Eating is supposed to be sociable and pleasurable. If they have a wide range of foods they understand this. It isn't just a fuel. There seems to be an automatic assumption that once the DC has tasted chocolate they won't want anything else-they can still enjoy a healthy diet!

MrBloomsNursery · 31/10/2011 22:33

I'm going to give DD a chocolate finger jam sandwich tomorrow for lunch. She deserves it.

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DuelingFanjo · 31/10/2011 22:33

"You didn't realise that celebrations involve treat food?"

oh yes I did, but I did mention that my DS is only 10 months old, didn't I?

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maristellathewitch · 31/10/2011 22:33

I was expecting this to be a poo finger thread Confused

brdgrl · 31/10/2011 22:34

Of course if the child had been 2 months older it would magically have been all ok

um, no? how on earth did you get that out of my posts?

and i did say that the OP should refrain from ripping heads off, to be fair.

OP's annoyance entirely justified. You wouldn't be annoyed - good for you.

exoticfruits · 31/10/2011 22:34

What do you do when your 10 month old goes to a 1st birthday party? Ban anything with sugar?

Kayano · 31/10/2011 22:36

It's not justified though because she didn't actually tell the nursery not to give the child sweets.

In fact she noticed the tick box with the option and did not actually tick it

So any annoyance in my opinion is not justified here

CurrySpice · 31/10/2011 22:38

I can understand you saying that you want him to have a healthy diet and being a bit miffed

But chocolate in moderation is part of a healthy balanced diet

Your DC has no conception of what is healthy or unhealthy and does not have the hang ups about chocolate that we adults have

and brdgrl of course your DD had sugar - I assume she had fruit? Packed with sugar!

RitaMorgan · 31/10/2011 22:38

Yes, you've mentioned he is 10 months old. A chocolate finger seems like a perfectly normal thing to give to a 10 month old as an occasional treat Confused

Most people wouldn't be bothered about this. You should have let the nursery know that you have particular dietary requirements.

exoticfruits · 31/10/2011 22:41

Your DC has no conception of what is healthy or unhealthy and does not have the hang ups about chocolate that we adults have

It is a sure way to give them.

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DuelingFanjo · 31/10/2011 22:42

"Yeah, thinking about ripping Someone's HEAD off over a choc finger is crazy.

Of course if the child had been 2 months older it would magically have been all ok"

I don't know if someone else has said they want to rip someones head off but I definitely didn't!

And, no, imo it still wouldn't have been ok if he was 12 months. I suspect you are talking about someone else though?

"is your comprehension level really that low?"

fuck me, you really are a determined little bugger aren't you. Sticks fingers in ears and shouts 'la la la' over persistant internet person trying to start a fight. here for you Smile

and what I said was I was brought up on a really healthy diet and I think it's been a good foundation for me and would like to do the same for my son. if you read it again you will be able to see that I really wasn't making any judgement about your decision for your child Smile. It's true... I was raised as a small child on a healthy diet (self sufficient farming parents), I do think it has been a good foundation for me allowed me to over-indulge later on when I could by my own snacks with my newspaper round money and I would like to do the same for my son (I am still a fairly healthy eater and I think that's a nice thing for me to attempt to promote for my son's life). You might think I was making a sanctimonious judgement about other people but I wasn't, I was just stating a fact about the way I was raised.

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Kayano · 31/10/2011 22:45

Duelling I was mentioning brdgirls posts not yours. Because she said no sugar passed her kids lips til it was a year old... And that the only reason you should refrain from 'ripping their heads off' was the form.

I found both a bit odd

The rest... Wasn't me Grin

Woodlands · 31/10/2011 22:45

At my DS's nursery they asked me to go through the 4-weekly menu and let them know if there were any foods my DS hadn't had yet, so that he wouldn't be trying them for the first time at nursery in case of allergic reaction. They even erred on the side of caution and didn't give him Eton mess for pudding in his first week just in case he hadn't had strawberries before (though he had). I really can't see them giving chocolate to an under-1 who is unlikely to have tried it before. So YANBU, OP, if only for the allergy potential risk!

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DuelingFanjo · 31/10/2011 22:46

"In fact she noticed the tick box with the option and did not actually tick it"

now you are putting words into my mouth. Was there a tick bo? No there wasn't.

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brdgrl · 31/10/2011 22:48

and brdgrl of course your DD had sugar - I assume she had fruit? Packed with sugar!

Hmm if you truly don't understand the difference, nutritionally, between natural sugars such as those found in fruit, and refined sugars, you should. i apologise if i should have worded my post to say 'added' sugar.