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Original poster

erm.. chocolate finger for 10 month old at nursery?

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DuelingFanjo · 31/10/2011 18:31

I didn't put anything on his form saying that I didn't want him to have cakes/biscuits/chocolate so maybe I am being unreasonable but I was a bit Shock to be told that the nursery had given DS a chocolate finger today. I said 'oh, really?' but now I am home I think that actually I am stupid for not saying something and now I feel annoyed with them and annoyed with myself.

What to do Sad? I have to say something. I was told that they feed the babies healthy food, no juice and so on so I thought they might know that chocoloate fingers for a baby that old is not normal? Or is it? Am I the weird one?

It's a good nursery, highly recommended and they haven't done anything I don't like before.

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mjlovesscareypants · 31/10/2011 19:15

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exoticfruits · 31/10/2011 19:16

I think that is what you call BLW threeisthemagicnumber. Grin

catwalker · 31/10/2011 19:17

Just be careful with the nursery. I have a vague recollection of complaining to ds1's nursery about him getting too much sugar and the next day, when I went to pick him up, I was told, (quite triumphantly I thought) by his key worker that he'd screamed and cried all the way through a birthday tea for another child because he wanted some cake and I'd made it clear I didn't want him to have stuff like that so they hadn't given him any .....

I also remember making him a lovely cake on his 2nd birthday and taking it into nursery. The nursery manager looked at it and made some disparaging comment about birthday cakes being so expensive to buy and made me feel like I was depriving ds because I hadn't bought him something laden with additives and covered in dayglo green icing.

Oh, and I remember catching MIL rubbing a chocolate biscuit on ds's lips when he was 6 weeks old ...... I was absolutely furious. But I guess it didn't do him any harm - he's a hulking 17 year old currently working his way through a bowl of sugary treats before the halloween mob get them.....

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DuelingFanjo · 31/10/2011 19:18

"when they asked you if there was any food he couldn't have"

they didn't ask me. They do ask about dietry requirements and allergies. I was silly for believing that babies don't need chocolate and that a nursery who said that their snacks were healthy wouldn't feed a 10 month old chocolate.

You live and learn, today I learned that I am in a minority which believes that there is no need for a baby to have chocolate. who knew!

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NormanTebbit · 31/10/2011 19:18

Grin magicnumber

DD3 started weaning at 4 months when the girls gave her orange squash Shock

mjlovesscareypants · 31/10/2011 19:19

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NormanTebbit · 31/10/2011 19:19

Christ it's not that he needed it - they thought it was a treat! Get over it.

LadyMontdore · 31/10/2011 19:20

Lem - totally with your baby on the broad beans -

OP - I'd be more worried about choking on the choc finger the fact it was chocolate. But then I have never understood why people give babies bread sticks! Or whole grapes! Also please don't think that because your baby is blw'd he's 'beyond the choking stage' I'm afraid they can choke at any age regardless of weaning method.

I can see why you are annoyed, I would have been. But now have DD2 and she would have been difficult to keep apart from the cakes etc that her sister likes!

exoticfruits · 31/10/2011 19:21

There is no need for a baby to have chocolate and there is no need for an adult to have chocolate, but it doesn't do any harm for either to have a small amount once in a while.

exoticfruits · 31/10/2011 19:23

I think it might be more harmful for every DC to have a chocolate finger and one has to just watch-I don't think you need 3 guesses to say which will have a chocolate problem when older.

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DuelingFanjo · 31/10/2011 19:23

ok, thanks all. I am still going over to the nursery to breastfeed him and so think I am already an oddity so feel a bit unsure about how to approach the subject but I think I will just say I am fine with the odd celebratory cake but would rather he not have this kind of thing with every meal, though I doubt he is to be fair.

I didn't put it in the form because I didn't think, having spoken to the manager, that they would be handing out chocolate fingers to 10 month old babies! Like I said - it's not normal for me but who knew I would be in the minority! I was brought up on a really healthy diet and I think it's been a good foundation for me and would like to do the same for my son.

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screamingbohemian · 31/10/2011 19:23

YANBU

I don't get the idea of giving a 10 month old chocolate 'as a treat'. He doesn't know it's halloween, doesn't know it's a treat and would probably like something healthy just as much. So why bother?

I'm not overly fussed about what my DS eats but I don't do sweets or crisps -- he'll be eating loads of it when he's older, I know, but I don't see the point in giving it to him when he doesn't need it and isn't old enough to ask for it.

hocuspontas · 31/10/2011 19:26

Chocolate is good for your health. You feel much better after snaffling a few bars.

umf · 31/10/2011 19:26

I'd also be surprised. IME nurseries are hysterically opposed to sweet treats in any form, except possibly a dried apricot. DS isn't even allowed diluted fruit juice, cos Ofsted moaned. They can only have milk or water.

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DuelingFanjo · 31/10/2011 19:26

you may now spend the next 10 pagees telling me to get a fucking grip... as you were. Grin fucking mumsnet, grumble grumble Wink

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MollyintheMoon · 31/10/2011 19:29

YANBU -I would be a bit peeved if my 10 month old was given this as a snack. I haven't yet introduced her to chocolate or sweets and see no harm in holding off on this as long as I can.

It seems from reading this thread that quite a lot of people have no issue feeding their babies with the occasional sweet and of course this is fine, but for the nursery to do it without asking beforehand is wrong imo.

MotherOfHobbit · 31/10/2011 19:30

I wouldn't be too impressed either if DS was given chocolate at nursery. I think the thing to do is find out the circumstances. If it's the once off Halloween treat, then not worth worrying about but if it's a regular occurrence then I'd question it especially if they do claim to have a healthy menu.

Kayano · 31/10/2011 19:41

But Molly they did ask on the form that op didn't bother to fill in properly

NoobyNoob · 31/10/2011 19:43

Christ, they don't give him jam sandwiches as well do they?

QuickLookBusy · 31/10/2011 19:43

I'm with you OP, I would be annoyed and would go in and check that it was a one off/rare occurance.

A baby does not need to be given chocolate.

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DuelingFanjo · 31/10/2011 19:55

I shall go back quick smart and write a list of things I don't want him to have

Chocolate fingers
Chocolate coated crickets
Wine
Beer
Greggs sausage rolls
Fruitshoots
Prawn Crackers
Sausages
bread an butter pudding (the devil's work)
Toffee Apples

and so on. Just in case, like!

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DeWe · 31/10/2011 20:03

He probably didn't get to eat much chocolate. it will all have been spread round his hands, his face, the floor, the person who tried to clean him up.... Hmm

beachholiday · 31/10/2011 20:06

God, I really want a chocolate finger now

lilolilmanchester · 31/10/2011 20:14

I'd be annoyed too... I know that the odd chocolate finger won't hurt him but, PFB or not, at 10 months, it's really not necessary. OK, at some point they will have chocolate/sweet treats, parties, Christmas etc - but at 10 months? Wouldn't be happy with a nursery for that, especially as he's way too young to know it's Halloween or whatever. Maybe would be less concerned as a treat for an older child. YADNBU.

Wingdingdong · 31/10/2011 20:14

I'm with you on this one too, OP. I just don't think chocolate biscuits are appropriate for under-ones and am surprised a nursery thinks so. Nothing to do with birth order, everything to do with their age. If DD's nursery gave her a chocolate biscuit (she's 2.3) I'd think nothing of it. They may well do for all I know or care [actually, that's a lie - she has reflux-related allergies and they're scrupulous about recording her food intake, I'm just less scrupulous about reading it unless she has an allergic reaction or the gastroenterologist asks whether she's had a certain food!]. If they gave her a glass of Coca-Cola I'd be furious. No way for under-fives and in strict moderation thereafter!

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