to feel resentment over cliquey parents at school

[MothInMyKecks]

Just left a kiddie's party, 4-5, where my little one was the only one to turn up. , and he had a broken wrist so couldn't exactly join in on the bouncy castle. Birthday boy is 5 today and his little face broke my heart. He bounced madly for the best part of half the party whilst me and his Mum made small talk.

I know, I just fucking know that the clique of parents in this class made a decision to not go, because the child is a bit messy, doesn't speak (elective mute), his mother is a bit of a loner, he has no Dad, they're a bit skint. FFS, it was a party and no other kid turned up. I know some parents had to work etc, but I know this class and their parents and many fuckers decided to not go because he's not in the clique. Twating parents. If they could only have seen his face. I never imagined a 5 year old could be humiliated, but I saw it written all over his little face.

And his mother is brassick, totally skint, yet she'd paid out good money to pay for this. Table was laden with food and no fucker turned up.

Sorry - no doubt will get a flaming by some, but I don't feel the need to don a flame proof coat or hat because I'm boiling with anger already

I think StewieGriffinsMom's idea is really very good. Schools suppposed to be all about inclusion, isn't it? It would be a lesson well learned in a non-judgemental setting, and all the children together.

My DS is Autistic and he never ever get's invited to parties :-( And only family and close friends turn up for his.

My eldest DD has invites coming out of her ears and everyone wants to come to her parties.

On a positive note my dd 4.5 has (SN) developmental delay of 2 years, and AS traits. She was invited to 7 parties, yes 7 parties at pre school and everyone that i invited to her 4th party turned up with great enthusiasm

Cunts. Utter utter cunts the lot of them.

Just read your post Hecate. Bloody hell. Did you say anything to anyone at the time?

Don't know about this year at foundation, but as long as she is happy at her MS school I am not fussed

I don't get this

If the parents felt that way...why did they accept the invitations and confirm their kids would be attending?

Tell them.

Start some smalltalk and then mention it. Then say what you have said in your op. Shame them.

northenrock i would not have a class party for him, but just invite a few that he is friends with, thats what i did for dd

seriously, do people actually think like this? wow

Well... my DD often doesn't want to go to parties she is invited to because she doesn't like the child in question, and I don't make her go because she has plenty of parties of friends to go to as it is! I think it's a bit silly to put on a party and invite a lot of children that your DC isn't friends with. You are setting yourself and your DC up for humiliation. The mother in the OP needs to learn a few social skills IMO.

Poor child and poor mum.

This has made me feel quite sick. At 5 he would have known exactly what happened, this will knock his confidence so much. Wankers.

I hope one of the parents comes across this thread and feels deeply ashamed.

If they do I will say :you must feel wonderful knowing you made a 5 year old feel like crap. Bravo.

bonsoir that's very harsh, there is no excuse for that behaviour of the mothers. Mabey she wanted all the class to have a fantastic time at her ds party.

:( i would make a point of saying in front of all the others to the mum & child (loudly)thank you for a lovely party x loved it ;) maybe say to mum once your ds has his cast off that maybe you could all go out somewhere?

unbelievably sad!

the poor mite!

guilt trip the bastards and talk to the school

how cruel!

That is dreadful - what total arseholes.

I think I'd just have to say something to them.

What sort of example does this exclusion set, to the children of these parents?

Poor, poor little boy.

OP name and shame, what's the school and the area.

No child has to attend another child's party. You cannot make children come to your DC's party.

Unfortunately this might out you in RL: but you could print off this thread - put in envelopes and distribute via book bag.

They'll round on you (do you care?) but if any of them have any humanity, it'll bring them up short. Those with a brain, conscience and compassion might examine their actions, mend their ways and apologise and make amends.

Those that don't - well (lack of) actions speak louder than words, and everyone is better off without people capable of such nastiness in their lives.

(Copy to teacher and HT too - strictly speaking it's none if their business and cannot intervene, but they perhaps should be made aware of something so vile in case it does have an impact during the school day).

Bonsoir it is not individual children saying they don't want to go, it sounds like a group of ADULTS snubbing a CHILD

Bonsoir - so you think 30 children have been able to decide that they don't like this child for completely objective and valid reasons in the space of three or four weeks at school? These children are in reception.

I don't think the birthday child's parents are the ones needing to learn social skills tbh.

No you don;t bonsoir but can't believe all 30 children would not want to go to a party

That's right is it Bonsoir? Wow.