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Original poster

to find some people attitudes, such as "i work hard i deserve it" really sickening

747 replies

carriedababi · 06/10/2011 11:08

was reading some magazine in the dentist, there was a woman from dragons den iin the mag.
saying how she had a wardrode worth 3 million.

and she went onto say well i work hard for it.
so ideserve it.
and something todo with she sees her expensive clothes as a symbol of how sucessful she is.

really made me feel sick, how a horrible nasty attitude to have in life.

i'm sure even if i was a millionaire, i would not be proud about spending that much on clothes.

i don't know its just the arrogant im entitled to this that got me.
and dont they think people how have less also work hard. probably alot of them work alot harder

what do you think

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troisgarcons · 06/10/2011 11:11

I think she worked for her money and is entitled to spend it how she ses fit.

Im sure if she shopped in Primanii some people would be moaning about how cheap she looks.

bibbitybobbityhat · 06/10/2011 11:11

Yanbu. Conspicuous consumption (or being flash with your cash) really makes me shudder. Saw an article about Ellen Degeneres yesterday, selling her $49 million dollar home. I was nearly sick there and then into my lap and was enormously disappointed in her, I'd always thought she was a good sort before.

Georgimama · 06/10/2011 11:12

I think if she didn't steal the money or the clothes she has a point. To extrapolate from "I work hard, I deserve it" to "other people don't work hard, they don't deserve it" or even "other people may work hard but tough titties they don't earn as much as me" is a common error on MN.

Peachy · 06/10/2011 11:13

Conspicuous consumption isn;t my thang but tbh as an economic life saver it's pretty damned useful atm

Is this DM or the otehr one? Becuase if it's the other one DH worked in her industry and I think anyone surviving it for more than a decade deserves a fucking medal

Of course the I worked ahrd bit is going to annoy people, DH worked hard and got his P45 along with everyone else; but it is ehrs to spend as she sees fit

OneHandFlapping · 06/10/2011 11:13

What do you think she should spend her money on Carriedababi?

If she's got that much, she's way beyond needing it for necessities, so anything she spends it on is by definition going to be non-necessities - trivia even.

She'd earned it, she's entitled to spend it on whatever she likes.

planetpotty · 06/10/2011 11:14

I think they live in a completely different world to the rest of us and as long as she is giving a hefty percentage of her money to charities then I think its ok for her to have an expensive wardrobe, but I take your point.

ShatnersBassoon · 06/10/2011 11:14

I think 'Good for her'. I'd love to have millions to spend on clothes, or whatever else I fancied buying.

I don't think it matters how hard she works in comparison to other people.

I'm jealous of anyone with loads of money, especially those who can say they worked for all of it. I'm too lazy, unimaginative and afraid of risk to be a successful entrepreneur.

Georgimama · 06/10/2011 11:15

I struggle to see why it is surprising that Ellen Degeneres has a 49 million dollar house. How much money do you think she has? She is mega loaded and so is her partner.

aldiwhore · 06/10/2011 11:16

She worked for it, clothes are her 'thing' she deserves them.

Don't see the problem really. Its not unlike saying 'I've earned every nice thing I have' - it should be admired, not scorned.

True there are people who work bloody hard and have little to show for it, but I think many of us are guilty of pouring scorn of those who've done well for themselves. We admire those who work hard, better themselves, and once they have and are successful we say they have a nasty attitude and are shallow. I don't get it.

When I go out on my ocassional night's out with my friends I bloody well deserve it, I've earned it, I enjoy it... what's wrong withthat?

Original poster
carriedababi · 06/10/2011 11:17

in a way i felt kind of sorry for her that she actually sees her clothes as her sucess.

i haven't watched dragins den for years, but it was the brown haired one.
not debra.

i don't really mind what she spends her money on, but i thought the way she was sayign she had 3 millioons punds worth of clothes in her wardrobe was vulgar and her attitude about how she derserves it was sickening.

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yippeekaiyay · 06/10/2011 11:17

YABU

If she has earned it then she can spend it on what she wants.

Do you expect people wh have worked hard and earned millions to be frugal. What do you expect them to actually 'do' with their money instead?

bibbitybobbityhat · 06/10/2011 11:18

I am surprised she is worth that much, tbh. But my nausea is to do with an individual feeling the need to spend that much money on themselves.

whoneedssleepanyway · 06/10/2011 11:18

I don't think spending money on expensive clothes if you can afford it is particularly sickening. She has worked hard to make a lot of money so what is wrong with spending it how she chooses. Same with buying an expensive property.

I find senseless waste and treating things as being disposable just because you can afford it more sickening. I think it is more upsetting to see money being frittered on gambling, drink and drugs.

To be honest we should be glad that there are people spending money on things, what would you rather they did with it OP?

I don't think that is arrogance or a sense of entitlement, she can afford it where is the problem.

This smacks a bit of green eyed monster...

whoneedssleepanyway · 06/10/2011 11:19

I agree with you about it being vulgar OP, spend your money on what you want but I agree no need to brag about it.

Georgimama · 06/10/2011 11:22

Got to be aware though that she is unlikely to have said to the journo "look at me I have a three million pound wardrobe aren't I fabulous and worth it!"

CogitoErgoSometimes · 06/10/2011 11:22

YABU. Don't you have anything in your life that you like so much you indulge yourself from time to time?

whoneedssleepanyway · 06/10/2011 11:23

To be honest if either of those women in Dragons Den spent £3m on their wardrobe they should be asking for their money back.... Grin

Peachy · 06/10/2011 11:24

Oh I dunno HGeorgi, seems that's the attitude one needs to survive in her industry!

But she made it in a very male very hard very demanding world, good on her I say. Anda ctuallY Dh says she ahs a rep of being one of the few decent employers in the field so... yay her

Original poster
carriedababi · 06/10/2011 11:24

yes the journo may have put a twist onto how she said things, perhaps shes seen the interview in the magazine and is horrified how it comes across.
[well to some]

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wannaBe · 06/10/2011 11:24

Peoples' begrudging attitudes annoy me far more than peoples' wealth.

So she's earned enough to have a £3m wardrobe - good luck to her.

It's all relative really. You spend a percentage of your income on clothes, so does she.

aldiwhore · 06/10/2011 11:25

Its all relative though, if you're worth 100million, then £3million on clothes isn't THAT much if you love clothes.

I think bloody NEXT is expensive, if I was richer, I wouldn't.

I think I'm with you as regards people who (without being asked by an interviewer) use every possible method to say "I'm considerably richer than you" - that IS vulgar.

Original poster
carriedababi · 06/10/2011 11:26

i also think this attitude of i work hard i derseve it, has caused alot of the debt in the world!
and caused alot of people to get into trouble.

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slavetofilofax · 06/10/2011 11:28

YABU

Presumably she was in the magazine because she was doing an interview and they asked her about her clothes.

And she does work hard, so she does deserve to spend her money how she wants.

That doesn't mean that other people don't deserve nice things as well, but she was talking about herself not other people.

CogitoErgoSometimes · 06/10/2011 11:28

Rubbish... The attitude that causes people to get into trouble is 'I want the same lifestyle as the person that can afford to spend £3m on clothes, even though I don't have anything like their income" Delusional stupidity, in other words.

Camerondiazepam · 06/10/2011 11:28

What's in there, seven and a half thousand ill-fitting white jackets?