To have a baby at 45?

[Hope88]

I am thinking about having another child. But I would like to have a bigger gap between children which means I would be getting near 45. If it all goes well. Do you think it's selfish to have a child at 45? I just think I would be a better mother if I wait opposed to rushing into it and being really stressed out. Your thoughts please.

Sadly he is only three and not able to read. Apart from Biff Chip and Kipper................Which, weirdly, seem to be as long-standing as Janet and John were in my day.

Ah the exuberance of youth and ..

trails off.

creaky, i must follow your example for baby DD. or maybe i should just start planning her wedding now, in case i am not around for it (she was around for mine, so surely that must count for something?). i will begin immediately on an ice sculpture. and i will sew her a bee-yoo-tee-ful gown from my lady tena liners and support hose.

Hahahahahahahahahahahahaah

My eldest boy is 17. I am in my mid 40s so had him dead on average age for that time - 27.

There is no starter home or car or subs for uni in his future.

Having children younger doesnt make you suddenly upper middle class with a large annual sum (as they say in costume dramas) when your children reach their teens.

I suppose we could start a debate fight about whether people who cant afford to send their kids to university and buy them a house should be allowed to have children at all.

I warn you - this could lead to a shortage of staff at some point in the future and its hard enough to find a decent cook as it is.

haha at thefirst. Now that I am so old and arthritic I only do boil in the bag in the microwave. Fortunately I have taught ds to count to 150 which, at 3, will stand him in good stead for when I die of old age in six minutes from now.

At least he will be able to remove the bag and eat it while waiting for someone young and vibrant with much older children, to find my decomposing body and rusting zimmer.

Women in their 40s have always had kids - just in the past they were usually numbers10, 11 and 12! In the past it was very, very normal to keep on having kids right up to the menopause.

my dad was 42 when i was born, now at 77 he ( with the help of my 70 year old mum) looks after my 20 month old twins 3 times a fortnight. My father in law is 5 years younger and house bound. Age is a state of mind! Liz hurley, is 46, Julianne Moore is 50 , Madonna is in her 50's. I really believe 50 is the new 40! Good luck!