to think other mums are shit at teaching sharing

[tifflins]

My children are no angels. My parenting is far from perfect, but I do try (really hard) to teach my 3 year old DS to share his toys, not only with friends who visit our home, but strangers in the park or whatever. He finds the whole sharing concept pretty annoying tbh but I persevere. Situation today whereby my son 'borrowed' another little boys' bucket at the splash pool. The other little boy got upset and just as I was telling my DS to give the bucket back, the little boy ran off and told his grandma that a nasty monster had 'stolen' his bucket. The grandma came over at the exact time my DS was (finally) giving back the bucket and said to me in an exasperating tone and heavy sarcastic sigh 'thank you' (as if I was colluding with my DS to steal another boys toy). The boy took his bucket back and promptly dismissed and didnt play with it. Another situation on holiday with friends showed me that my friends' sons toys belonged to him and him alone, but my DS toys were supposed to be shared with this other little boy. At no point on the holiday did she encourage her son to share his toys, despite me bending over backwards to get my DS to share. I mean, for fucks sake, whats wrong with some people?! Anybody elses thoughts on this would be great.

I like you Sexual.
Despite some of your harsh words.

I like you too tifflins

Stick around - in a month or so you'll be telling the newbies to fuck off with the best of them.

:) am learning a lot today! My only problem with MN now is that it's distracting me from my work...

Oh yes, work, better get back to running the department.

lightroom joining MN is a life choice - and it's dangerous to take up anything addictive! Stick around you'll be grateful of it one day, like when you should be doing housework or the DC's are arguing.

I STILL don't see how you can say that a 3yo should 'know how to share ', if a 3yo isn't 'old enough' to remember to ask permission to play with the toy? My DS2 has SN and was non-verbal at 3yo - but if he wanted to play with someone else's toy - he still signed 'please'. OK I had to be there to 'translate' as I don't expect many 3yo's to know sign language. If a 3yo with SN is old enough to know to say please - then why isn't an NT (Neurotypical) 3yo able to do the same?

I do not, and will never class 'sharing' between children as being allowed to play with someone else's belongings without ASKING. That's not WRONG, it's just a different parenting choice to yours.

No, all my dc are not 'super-intelligent', 2 out of four have multiple SN. Doesn't mean I don't teach them to ask before touching something that belongs to someone else. If they pick up something that's not their's, I tell them to put it down please. If they don't, they get told to put it down or we leave. If they still don't put it down - we LEAVE wherever we are. It's usually at about 2yo I have ended up doing this with each of them. I've only ever had to do that once per dc, and after that they have ALWAYS asked first - and accepted that NO means NO.

But he did steal it. He took something that wasn't his without asking. I do not think that anyone here is calling your child a hardened criminal lol.

but it is not sharing when you take someones property without asking.

I'd like to say to all you OLD mumsnetters, that this is not YOUR forum to own and that new people come along all the time who have just as much right to say what they want on AIBU - stop getting on your high horses cos you think you're experts!

What's all that shite about?

Oh, just recently learnt that if you do post on AIBU and the majority of replies think you are, you should bow down submissively and humbly confess to being totally and utterly in the wrong - I think this is to make other posters feel better, even if, deep down, you actually know you're right

WTF is the point in asking AIBU if you don't want opinions that may vary to your own?? If you just want to rant, post in CHAT.