to have no idea what to say to PG friend who is having her third boy?

[LittleOneMum]

One of my very best friends has two boys, aged 1 and 4. I have two DCs too, same ages, but a DS (4) and DD (1). It was really nice being pg at the same time, our kids are close and until now, all well.
However, when we were both pg with DC2, she was desperate for a girl. Had a name all picked out, often spoke of organising her wedding day, etc. I was very relaxed and in my heart of hearts probably wanted another boy (but never said this).
Of course, scans showed she was having a boy and I was having a girl and she was pretty upset for a while. But she got over it and she loves her two boys and tbh my DD is pretty tomboy like so far...
Anyway, we've decided to stick with 2, and she decided to have a 3rd DC and this afternoon she rang me in tears to say that her scan showed it was a 3rd boy. She was beside herself with pain. I was totally rubbish, I didn't know what to say and although she is too nice to say so, I could so feel she was thinking "it's OK for you, you have a DD".
bloody blinking turnips what am I going to do? AIBU just to say nothing? I know that long term she will love her son, but she is in pain now and I am her friend. AAAAAARGH.

I meant "believe the number of opposing views" not that I don't believe anyone!

I agree with Pinot

some people (me included) were a tad harsh
some people got quite upset as they have been through this, and they found comments hurtful

but never did this descend into a bun fight

whilst I understand tethers and her reaction to this thread, I dont think you can discount the vast numbers of people with direct and indirect experience of fertility/stillbirth and iother such horros who are bound to have a knee jerk angry reaction towards the Ops friend

and the nature of a MN talk board means that can express this anger in a safe fashion, as after all it want the OP, it was her mate

sometimes MN annoys nme, but in this case I think its been open and honest discussion

and as for OPs friend, if she is in a dark place well thats very sad. But I am angry , why the FUCK did she get pregnant knowing there was a 50% change of having a boy? so so unfair, so so sad

You seem to have judged that perfectly, OP, and she's very lucky to have you. Very lucky indeed. And she's lucky to have her boys, which she'll realise soon enough (one hopes, for her DS3's sake at least)