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Original poster

to give 2yr old dd our bedroom?

118 replies

JjandtheBeanlovesUnicorns · 29/09/2011 23:49

Well, nearly 3yr old dd.

We have a lovely 3bed house (atlast) decent sized bedrooms, we have the biggest, ds in middled sized (only because psl have carpets down and his room happened to have road map carpet) dd then has the smallest.

It just doesn't work as a kids room at all, the only way a single bed will fit takes over the whole room and she's left with no space at all. I have a lovely handmade carved with flowers pine bed that was mine as a child, I really want dd to have it but its huge. Also we can only fit a teeny wardrobe in and she needs a bigger one.

My room has a built in wardroble and room for this bed, she also has all the girly huge toys. Dressing table, rocking horse, prams, dolls house (all grandma) and has just been given that fucking great huge butterscotch fureal pony.

Me and dp decided since she plays in her room and has a lot of stuff we don't want all over the living room wed swap, our kingsize fits in her room and our chest of drawers, only one of us can have a bedside cabinet but neither of us is bothered and we have two huge build in cupboard in the hall we'll use as wardrobes.

Our plan is for her birthday instead of toys we'd decorate our room peppa pig as she's not had a 'theme' so to speak and switch rooms.

We've been told its over indulgent and ridiculous.

Is it. Are we being indulgent? Aibu? Me and dp see it as we have a whole house and simply require our room to sleep etc, also when family stay the dcs share and this would be far easier.

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AnyoneforTurps · 29/09/2011 23:51

If your king-size bed will fit in her room, surely it can't be that small?

worraliberty · 29/09/2011 23:53

I waited my whole life to have the 'master bedroom'...my kids would have to drag me kicking and screaming from it Grin

There again I grew up as the youngest of five in a tiny house and it was never a problem. I didn't even give it a thought that my room was so small we could only fit mine and my sister's beds in.

cat64 · 29/09/2011 23:54

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RosemaryandThyme · 29/09/2011 23:57

YANBU

I think its' a lovely idea, children do gets lots of use out of their rooms when their is space to play in them.

Am thinking though that she'd propably like things to unwrap for birthday ? probably wouldn't really understand that decorating was a present.

There are some lovely non-themed ideas for decorating childrens rooms - PPig will just need re-doing in 12months time, honestly, move away from the pig, move away.....

cjbartlett · 30/09/2011 00:03

This is such a load of crap
Her room is obviously huge with it's in built wardrobes
And all her massive toys
It's stealth boasting
Get a grip

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JjandtheBeanlovesUnicorns · 30/09/2011 00:04

It will work for us as we will squidge our divan into the back iyswim so three sides touch walls.

She will be getting baby all gone awful thing as she's harped on for one for 9mnths to unwrap and bits and bobs, she nearly had a fit with the excitement a peppa pig fleece blanket brought at easter so I have no worries at the reaction! We aren't going mad on the theme, she has the bedding so just lampshade, stick arounds and maybe some canvases (sp) since wilko do them cheap. Oh and on her 'list' she's asked for the goglow thingmy jig.

Re. Moving away from the pig, been trying to for years. Its relentless, ds is four and loved it from 1 and still does dd fell in love at 6mo!!! First frigging word was peppa..

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AuntiePickleBottom · 30/09/2011 00:04

I would have the middle size bedroom and the dc share a bedroom then with the small room make it into a toy room.

If I had the money I would get a loft converted

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JjandtheBeanlovesUnicorns · 30/09/2011 00:05

Cj- read the post properly. MY room has the built in wardrobes. She was given the toys by older cousins. Christsake!

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cjbartlett · 30/09/2011 00:05

She's two and she's harped on about a toy for 9 months?

AnnieLobeseder · 30/09/2011 00:07

I wish I could give our bedroom to the DDs - they have a tiny room while ours id a good size. Because theirs is so small, there's no room for toys so they have to have them all in the living room, which I hate! I'd love to move them and their crap toys into our room and reclaim the living room.

Sadly, the tiny room isn't big enough for a double. Their single bunks barely fit. So things must stay at they are.

So, YANBU, give your DD enough space to play and you can have a clutter toy-free rest of house. Bliss!!

BluddyMoFo · 30/09/2011 00:08

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JjandtheBeanlovesUnicorns · 30/09/2011 00:08

Ds doesn't sleep well at all sharing or that's what I'd do, plus it was brilliant getting a private let with road map carpet in his room and I don't fancy that in my room :)

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AnnieLobeseder · 30/09/2011 00:09

cj - why the aggressive attitude? As my mum used to say, if you haven't got anything nice to say, don't say anything at all.

squeakytoy · 30/09/2011 00:09

Sorry but what a load of bollocks.

If you can fit your king size bed into that room, then it is more than adequate for a toddler.

Childrens bedrooms should be for them to sleep in, nothing more. When they are teens it is different, but at 2 all she needs is a bed.

Nihilisticbunny · 30/09/2011 00:09

I have contemplated this myself, tbh I'd quite like a cosy little bedroom, only sleep in there anyway, we would be swapping for the middle room though, to let 2 boys share the largest room.

My sister did this too, swapped her large room with her only dd (2 bed house) makes sense.

cjbartlett · 30/09/2011 00:11

Not aggressive at all

Yabu

Op asked the question and I answered

AuntiePickleBottom · 30/09/2011 00:12

Another idea.

My dd has a play house( which is a shed)out the garden with the plastic pink crap in a she goes in there to play, even when raining as it is warm and water proof

AuntiePickleBottom · 30/09/2011 00:15

I also have an arm chair in there so I read books or go on MN with the laptop

cjbartlett · 30/09/2011 00:15

Also if you make your home too comfy, give your dd the best room etc where's the incentive to leave home at 18?!
I know you all think im nuts but 60 yr colleague just moved house, made extra special care to buy a house with huge room for 30 year old dd

Just saying Wink

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JjandtheBeanlovesUnicorns · 30/09/2011 00:17

Gardens the size of a postage stamp, which is a pita! But you can't have everything.

Considering chatting to LL about laying new carpets but that's a lot more pricey than putting all her junk belongings in my room and mine in hers, all we have is bed, bedside cabinet and some drawers. No tv or anything like that.

Tbh is being indulgent of me and dp not her as we can't stand the chaos downstairs anymore.

And also family from 200miles away staying would then sleep in her room as my old bed has a trundle one underneath iyswim

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JjandtheBeanlovesUnicorns · 30/09/2011 00:19

Cj you make a good point there! She's adorable now but in 18yrs ill have had enough!

Not a permanant plan anyway just until she's 5/6 and I can get a high sleeper, didn't want a 3yo in one really!

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worraliberty · 30/09/2011 00:22

A TV can go on a wall bracket

I think you've made up your mind OP so you may as well get on with it.

Personally I wouldn't do it and I have a 3 bed house, a DH and 3 sons.

I can't put my finger on why, but there's something odd about parents not having the biggest bedroom.

I realise it makes no sense and kids do need more room...but none the less it's how I feel?

You do whatever suits you and yours.

AnyoneforTurps · 30/09/2011 00:22

Swap rooms but refuse to change the Peppa theme ever - should ensure she moves out prompty at 18 Wink

cjbartlett · 30/09/2011 00:23

Phew Thanks for not getting arsey with me!! Was getting worried I'd pit me foot in it!!

AnyoneforTurps · 30/09/2011 00:23

or promptly even

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