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to give 2yr old dd our bedroom?

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JjandtheBeanlovesUnicorns · 29/09/2011 23:49

Well, nearly 3yr old dd.

We have a lovely 3bed house (atlast) decent sized bedrooms, we have the biggest, ds in middled sized (only because psl have carpets down and his room happened to have road map carpet) dd then has the smallest.

It just doesn't work as a kids room at all, the only way a single bed will fit takes over the whole room and she's left with no space at all. I have a lovely handmade carved with flowers pine bed that was mine as a child, I really want dd to have it but its huge. Also we can only fit a teeny wardrobe in and she needs a bigger one.

My room has a built in wardroble and room for this bed, she also has all the girly huge toys. Dressing table, rocking horse, prams, dolls house (all grandma) and has just been given that fucking great huge butterscotch fureal pony.

Me and dp decided since she plays in her room and has a lot of stuff we don't want all over the living room wed swap, our kingsize fits in her room and our chest of drawers, only one of us can have a bedside cabinet but neither of us is bothered and we have two huge build in cupboard in the hall we'll use as wardrobes.

Our plan is for her birthday instead of toys we'd decorate our room peppa pig as she's not had a 'theme' so to speak and switch rooms.

We've been told its over indulgent and ridiculous.

Is it. Are we being indulgent? Aibu? Me and dp see it as we have a whole house and simply require our room to sleep etc, also when family stay the dcs share and this would be far easier.

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Icancancatchbabies · 02/10/2011 16:11

Fab idea. My 6 and 9 year old have the master and we have the 2nd bedroom because we only sleep in there.

youarekidding · 02/10/2011 16:27

FFS cj what is your problem?

jj YANBU. I'm so glad you finally have somewhere for you all to live.

I think as long as you and DP don't mind being swished into a corner of a room then it's fine. Only thing is how will DS feel about his 'little' sister stealing the bigger room! High sleepers are a great space saver (DS was £40 off ebay!).

Another idea - would you be able to use the 2 cupboards to store DD's stuff. If you can fit a kingsize, drawers and bedside table in her current room then you could fit her bad and a wardrobe and sore other stuff in the 2 cupboards. My fitted wardrobe is big enough to fit a drawer unit in.

TruthSweet · 02/10/2011 16:38

We swapped rooms with DD1 & DD2 (very large double to mid sized double) then about a year later we moved DD1 & DD2 into DD3's room (good sized single/small double) into bunk beds and turned their old bedroom into a playroom.

This means they have a room for sleeping/reading/quiet play and a room to charge around in/spread out and make a mess.

When they are much older I imagine we will move back into the playroom and DH will give up his study/computer cable graveyard so that the DDs can have a room each but as that won't be for another 10 years or so, I think a sleeping/quiet play room and a noisy/messy play room is the best way to deal with 3 DDs with only 3.5 years between the eldest & youngest.

Nothing wrong with children sharing rooms or having the biggest room for their use IMO.

abendbrot · 02/10/2011 16:43

If the grownups have the living room all to themselves then dcs should have the big bedrooms. Makes sense to me.

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JjandtheBeanlovesUnicorns · 04/10/2011 22:08

Well over the weekend dp comverted the large tall cupboard into a wardobe for me and him, finally unpacked all our clothes now :)

Ds was at school, dd at my mums to play so we decided to see how things worked in either room, since in our room all we had was bed, bedside cabinets and draw unit it was a quick job, our bed fitted with a bedside cabinet beside it, and the chest or drawers fits nicely at the end of our bed with room, now I can sit on the end of the bed to do makeup instead of hogging the bathroom, never get dressed In our room anyway, always done it in the bathroom, no reason just habbit.

Also something wasn't keen to mention is since a child I've had awful night terrors so cannot sleep unless I'm against the wall, so in my larger room our bed was in a corner anyway main reason our room seemed a waste iyswim

Me and dp are very happy and as its only got an extra 1.5ft in length ds can't see the difference and was really excited for his sister, helped put all the toys away etc and played with her for ages, then proudly went to his room for 'boy time' lol.

The peppa themes been subdued a lot. She has the duvet and I'm getting some stick a rounds and a poster well ds is he asked to buy her a poster as he has a 'buzz year one' and lola should have the same but one he likes.

Its really working for us and now I've seen my bed in the small room its not at all bad. I'm very happy.

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Trills · 04/10/2011 22:12

I see you have decided anyway but if a room is big enough for a king size bed and two chests of drawers then it is plenty big enough for a child to have as their bedroom.

If you want to squish to adults into the smallest room then it's your choice I guess...

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JjandtheBeanlovesUnicorns · 04/10/2011 22:30

Only one chest of drawers and a small bedside cabinet.

Anyway. Me and dp don't feel the urge to have tea partys and do jigsaws on our floor, we simply stand on it. So imo don't need it.

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thisisyesterday · 04/10/2011 22:35

yanbu

we swapped and gave the kids the biggest of our 3 bedrooms too.
we have the middle-size room, ds1 has the small room and ds2 and ds3 share the biggest one.

so nice to not have downstairs flooded with toys

spiderslegs · 04/10/2011 23:06

Mmmm, I am a little lost for words but I think it's madness, MADNESS to give the youngest child in the house the largest bedroom.

As many posters have said if it's large enough for a kingsize it's large enough for a three year old.

We have seven bedrooms, 2 DCs, DD(3) is in the smallest bedroom, it's big enough for a bed, a chest of drawers a few toys & that's it.

I would no sooner give her my bedroom than I'd let her wear my clothes.

Who's the boss in my house?

ME.

MillyR · 04/10/2011 23:58

OP, we have done this. DD (10) wanted a bigger room because she said that her room was not big enough to hold a cocktail party in! She now has the big bedroom (old house, used to be the weaving room so is large for the house size) with a sofa bed in for sleepovers and plenty of space for dancing etc. We now have a tiny single bedroom with a double bed in, me, DH and two springer spaniels.

I used to say that our bedroom was like sleeping in my parents' touring caravan, but I went in the caravan recently and their sleeping area is larger than our bedroom!

I think it is a good idea to swap bedrooms and wish we had done it when DD was much younger.

halcyondays · 05/10/2011 00:11

The only children I've ever known who had the master bedroom all to themselves were only children, it doesn't seem fair if they have a sibling.

MillyR · 05/10/2011 00:21

HD, we have an attic room for DS, so they both have large bedrooms.

lucyhoneybee · 05/10/2011 00:25

Hmm.. i gave our bedroom to my son as I have more children than bedrooms.. No, I think it's probably fine to do this if you BOTH want to. It does sound like you have it under control. Kids need space to play. Unless you also have a massive playroom somewhere.

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JjandtheBeanlovesUnicorns · 05/10/2011 08:55

Dd and ds room aren't that different size wise, ds being the eldest would have had the bigger room however his current room has a road map carpet and hed be far more upset loosing that than his sister having the slightly bigger room.

Also means we now have room for dps family to stay who live over 100miles away.

I don't see how allowing them more space to play knocks us down the pecking order, the whole house is ours they have a room each, and they CANT do what ever they like in them, same rules apply in smaller bedroom to bigger one!

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abendbrot · 10/10/2011 22:47

spiderslegs you have seven bedrooms and you give one of your two children the smallest? Any reason why?

MumblingAndBloodyRagDoll · 11/10/2011 01:07

Yanbu at all....but yabu for decorating the room "PeppaPig" sh will grow out of it by the time she is 3 nd a half....they all do....then you'll be stuck.

Go for a a pretty colours theme which you can add touches to. A Peppa Pig Picturend duvet for instance. Dont' put that awful character wallpaper up. Choose a nice pink candy stripe for one wall and cream for the others.

pandorasbox21 · 11/10/2011 14:49

We did this and swapped the rooms for my then 2 year old DD. In our bedroom now we dont have a wardrobe we have our clothes in one of those plastic storage drawer things from wilkos. My husband hangs up a couple of things in her room but I just fold everything of mine. It makes sense for the children to have the extra space as I dont need it or use it.

whoneedssleepanyway · 11/10/2011 15:34

is your LL on board with you redecorating the master bedroom with Peppa Pig?

Think you are a bit nuts...but each to their own.

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