That my DC's are not invited to my brothers wedding

[Siszilla]

yes another childfree wedding thread....
We have attended a few child-free weddings and it was lovely to leave my DCs(4and2) with relatives at home to enjoy them. But, my DB is getting married and as most of his friends are already married with children, inviting all would mean 30+ kids at the wedding, which I do get. So friends babies are invited but not my DC's.

I am the only sibling and we live in London and their wedding is in Devon, so that means 3 days away and childcare needed for duration ( available childcare will more than likely be at the wedding) apart from elderly MIL who I wouldn't dream of leaving my DC's for 3 days with. What do I do, declining an invite is not an option. I have spoken to my DB but he is firm ' i have enough notice to get it sorted!'

There is no way they would be getting their cake from me in the circumstances.

I think you should tell them to collect the cake from you beforehand - since to deliver it early is more time away from your children.

One day you DB will have children and he'll realise what a dick he's been.

Have you considered Ex-lax icing on that cake

We had this when BIL got married. He proposed the day I had DD-said it clarified things for him-aah, fab thinks we.

9months later, the wedding, big do. We live in north America at the time-flyback for the wedding. Told no children allowed-not even the child who made it all happen so to speak, respected their wishes, so had to leave DD with me DSis. Got to wedding, to find 3 of their friends had been allowed to bring their babies, toddlers Was well fecked off, and left early-TBH was v jet lagged to, but it still bristles a bit.

Unless he changes his mind I would say that no you don't have someone to look after your kids for 3 days. That either:

1. Only you go and your DH stays at home with kids.
2. He organises his own wedding cake or collects it from your house and you and DH drive down in the morning, sort out childcare at hotel for kids during service and evening. And your DH spends the middle bit looking after your kids. Go home next day missing out lunch - unless kids are invited.

Ask him to choose basically whether he gets the cake and just you or he doesn't get the cake and he gets you for all the day and DH for some of it.

no bloody way, they are his nephew/nieces I would go to the actual ceremony, photos etc, then make excuse that Dc could not be left and then go and leave him to his party, weddings are family affairs and if my family were not welcome then I would not be inclined to hang around for his 'adult only' party. fair enough that they would not want every guests kids there but ffs you are his family.

I suspect OP won't be told of any alteration to the no kid rule ad she us already obliging, but will be deeply pissed off to find that those who couldn't attend will now do so with their DCs.

as she is

ooo an update!

I think it is a lot to ask dmil. it is very kind of her to offer. think about it carefully before you accept because it sounds expensive.

I wonder whether it would be as expensive as getting a wedding cake made? perhaps you need to rethink your ability to do that

Any more news on the children attending the wedding?