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to want to scratch the cars of ppl in parent / toddler bays with NO kids!!

224 replies

mummy22gorgeousboys · 26/09/2011 20:13

And it's ALWAYS old people or business men.

I want to scratch all their cars and kick their tyres!

OP posts:
Kladdkaka · 27/09/2011 10:02

No problem Andrew, I already confessed to being delibrately ambiguous as the poster I was responding to was annoying me.

Riveninabingle · 27/09/2011 10:03

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Kladdkaka · 27/09/2011 10:05

Bit shocked at pp who wouldnt get up for a pg lady. You dont have to have a disabliity to feel knackerd and have achy legs and a bad back.

I think that was only me MrsD.

thefirstMrsDeVere · 27/09/2011 10:06

You are very norty kladdkaka

TandB · 27/09/2011 10:07

Nightkitchen - I generally think it is courteous to include the word 'sorry' when conceding that you have blatantly mis-quoted someone.

Banana87 - I think you are stirring Grin

Klad - just a thought. How would you feel about a pass (like a bus pass type thing), not a badge or anything like that, that you could show to someone hassling you? Or would that make you feel more scrutinised? It just occurs to me that there are blue badges for cars to prove the owner's entitlement to a parking space. Would it not make sense for someone to be issued with a credit card sized pass that they could use in any situation where it would help for someone to see that they are 'official'? People tend (not always) to have more respect for something official looking than they do for someone's word alone. Perhaps it could be used to allow access to first class on trains where all other seats are full, or for priority boarding on planes and similar.

TandB · 27/09/2011 10:09

Riven - that is a very good idea.

[resolves to track Riven down on local buses and plonk pregnant arse on her lap]

Remember I live in hour neck of the woods these days!

thefirstMrsDeVere · 27/09/2011 10:14

Klad having read properly - of course you shouldnt have to stand up for someone who is pg if your need is greater than theirs.

In fact the time when I most need a seat is when I am about 7 weeks pg and feeling like crap so that is very unlikely to happen.

Morloth · 27/09/2011 10:15

WHY do people get so excited about these places? WHY? I have searched my soul and I just can't begin to give a fuck who parks in them.

I have kids, I have had babies, I have been heavily pregnant, I have had toddlers who try to scarper, I drive a big fat 4WD and I still just don't get it.

Why? Why? Why?

Riveninabingle · 27/09/2011 10:17

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thefirstMrsDeVere · 27/09/2011 10:19

Because they can morloth

Because they can.

sigh

Kladdkaka · 27/09/2011 10:20

Kungfupannda, I did think about that myself, but I would hate it. I would feel subordinate to the other passengers and it would make me feel like I have to explain my medical condition to complete strangers with no right to know. I would be happy to prove it to a member of staff if necessary because they would feel safe and also like they have some level of authority.

I don't get any aggro on public transport anymore as I now have to use a walking frame, so I'm no longer invisible. I do get aggro when I park though, despite having a blue badge, because I don't use the frame for short errands, the effort involved in getting it in and out of the car is too much. For some people no amount of proof is good enough unless you're very visible disabled.

Kladdkaka · 27/09/2011 10:22

Forgot, if when in 'rabbit in headlights' mode I were approached and asked by a member of staff, I would be able to talk and explain. All down to whether that person is 'safe' or not.

thefirstMrsDeVere · 27/09/2011 10:26

The idea of cards sounds sensible.

But I am with Kladdkaka on this one. Its handing the responsiblity over to the person with the disability to prove to some idiot that they are disabled.

Because it does tend to be idiots rather than those really concerned about misuse of spaces/seats etc who tut and abuse.

TandB · 27/09/2011 10:32

I think, unfortunately, klad that people in your situation are rather hostage to fortune in terms of the attitudes of those around you. Not sure what the answer is really. Just continued efforts to raise awareness and perhaps the introduction of optional 'aids' such as passes etc. Whatever might help, really.

Riven - they would clearly be tutting at you for daring to inconvenience a poor mummy-to-be with your huge riven-mobile. [snooty look]

Kladdkaka · 27/09/2011 11:05

I find public humilation a useful tool in raising awareness. I've mentioned a few times how once someone beat my car with their brolly, here's the full story in all its glory:

I was assisting someone in an education appeal at the civic offices. I pulled into the disabled bay outside, next to a bus stop where there was a big queue of people. I was rummaging around in all my gumph trying to find my blue badge when the woman at the end of the queue approached my car and rather angrily pointed to the disabled sign. I ignored her, as you do. She then came round to my window and started banging on, shouting at me to move my car.

I confess, at this point I had found my badge and could have shown her, but I didn't. I'm contrary like that. I have to prove myself to the traffic warden, not some aggressive stranger who just happened to be at the bus stop. So I ignored her. She got completely enraged and started smashing her brolly on my bonnet and windscreen. I was very frightened but still didn't show her my badge. Nobody does stubborn like an aspie does.

At this point everyone was watching. She then made a point of noting my registration and taking photos of my car. I ignored her and was now too scared to get out of my car.

Then she saw a policeman approaching. She went rushing off, jumping up and down in her glee at being able to tell on me. He came over to my car and opened my passenger door. She stood behind him looking all smug like as everyone else watched the drama unfold.

The policeman picked up the pile of papers on my passenger seat, thanked me for coming, stuck the blue badge (which was on the papers) on my dashboard and we skipped off happily into the civic offices together. Regrettably I didn't see angry woman's face, but I could hear lots of sniggering from the spectators.

madam52 · 27/09/2011 11:09

Love it Klad

mayorquimby · 27/09/2011 11:19

I won't go out of my way to ark in them, but if it's the only space available I will.

mayorquimby · 27/09/2011 11:19

*park

TandB · 27/09/2011 11:20

Pity he didn't come out and arrest her for a public order offence!

Andrewofgg · 27/09/2011 11:42

Oh Klad it's not often you catch them at it . . .

EricNorthmansMistress · 27/09/2011 11:49

I parked in a P&C space this morning when I nipped into Asda for coffee and soup on my way to work. I kept my eyes peeled for marauding mothers brandishing car keys.

I am a hypocrite as I shouted at a very smug business man who parked in the P&C space at Tesco once and called him ignorant

InTheNightK1tchen · 27/09/2011 13:44

You responded to my comment which was to the OP kungfupanda. I didn't misquote you, and I wasn't rude to you. Not sure what you want me to say sorry for?

ZonkedOut · 27/09/2011 14:27

Klad, sorry for my comment earlier too, I didn't realise you were disabled. I thought you were another wind up merchant.

TandB · 27/09/2011 15:41

InTheNightK1tchen Tue 27-Sep-11 09:50:44
I did misread you kungfupanda, at least I mistook you for the OP, who did say it is always businessmen and old people. HTH.

Er, if you were talking to the OP then why did you say the above?

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