To wonder why anyone with school-aged children would want to be a SAHM?

[Badtasteflump]

And what they do all day?

I have my flame-proof hard-hat ready

In the spirit of the general shit-stirring on here today I though I would ask this - as I do really wonder. Fair enough when you have pre-school aged children, I can understand wanting to be a SAHM. But once your children are at school full-time, what is there to do all day?

I work PT (school hours, basically). I manage (jointly with DH) to get all the housework, cooking, diy, etc) done in the evenings & weekends, no problem. If I were at home all day I really think I would go a bit mad - either that or I fear I would gradually become relegated to the role of house-slave, doing all the housework and childcare myself because I wouldn't have the excuse of a 'proper' job. . .

Well put Morloth

I'm a SAHM mostly (pt job 8hrs at the weekend) and I bloody love it. Any cleaning etc done it the morning, meet friends for lunch, eat mints before the school pick up . Non luncheon afternoons are spent learning lines, shopping, anything I please. We can afford it, I'm thankful to be able to do it and once the "wondering" is done, would ask that even if people don't "understand" it, that they acknowledge that they accept it :)

Thanks Klad. Yes that could be a problem for us, dh finding work (London-centric type stuff). Dh has bookmarked the properties and we will think about how we could do it.Even as a holiday home perhaps. Could be a good way to get loads of space during the school holidays. So glad you linked.

Given the choice I would love to be a SAHM and would have plenty to do, I would love to look after the house and keep it spick and span, have time to cook and garden and go to the gym, run errands and walk the dog, my days would be full of joy knowing I dont have to go to work and miss out on being at home for my family.
I would love to have the option and time to do all the housework and childcare myself and not have to constantly worry about how I can make my working week fit around school hours so I dont have to use breakfast or after school clubs as I want desperatley to be the one who takes my children to school every day and picks them up.
Bored I would not be - happy I would be so for those that can do it why the hell shouldnt they, they are extremely lucky!!!

I'm a teacher, so I look after your children while you do yogalates all fecking day long...

Sarahstratton thank you for replying, I missed your previous post. Your situation must be fairly unique, do you think you would feel differently if you were financially dependent?

No-one has answered anyone who has queried re tge fairness of it- dh works an 80hr week while DW files nails and goes for coffee? Surely not fair?!

Would it make the cross people happier if I invoiced DH?

wamster 'How can it be good for mental health to do what you want day-in-day out?' Well it is rough but I feel able to cope, your concern is appreciated though.

People really seem to get get angry about other people being happy for some reason. How odd.