To wonder why anyone with school-aged children would want to be a SAHM?

[Badtasteflump]

And what they do all day?

I have my flame-proof hard-hat ready

In the spirit of the general shit-stirring on here today I though I would ask this - as I do really wonder. Fair enough when you have pre-school aged children, I can understand wanting to be a SAHM. But once your children are at school full-time, what is there to do all day?

I work PT (school hours, basically). I manage (jointly with DH) to get all the housework, cooking, diy, etc) done in the evenings & weekends, no problem. If I were at home all day I really think I would go a bit mad - either that or I fear I would gradually become relegated to the role of house-slave, doing all the housework and childcare myself because I wouldn't have the excuse of a 'proper' job. . .

floosie easy tiger.

It is your duty as a SAHM to dedicate hours every day to pissfarting.

Why not multitask and pissfart about town spending your DH's money?

To clarify, the maintenance is for the DDs, I do not get anything else from XH.

As for dysfunctional, I'll tell you what is dysfunctional: doing nothing constructive all day as your children are in school and you've no role as a carer for others and being happy about it.

Being actually happy that you are reliant on another human being for cash (if you haven't any yourself, of course).
Being content to have this happen without any career/job to fall back on should that relationship fail ( as relationships do) THAT'S dysfunctional.

sarahstratton

I am disappointed in you. You cannot call yourself a proper sponging leech

indeed if i was dependent upon a man id create a frame of reference to manipulate the realities of his wage being shared,equitable,and actually empowering to housewifes

Can you step back a bit, wamster, your frothing spittle is spoiling my Boden cardi.

Piss fart - i have worked out a rota, pissfart on tues/thurs and spend DHs money on a Mon/wed/fri. See how constructive i have been?

indeed if i was dependent upon a man id create a frame of reference to manipulate the realities of his wage being shared,equitable,and actually empowering to housewifes

Eh?

its financially prudent,and happy to do it.i pay a lot for dysfunctional daycare farm i will have you know

Thank god for that, floosie, I was worried then you were letting the sponging pissfarter side down.

What about weekends, though?

of course unwaged housewife will create a frame of reference that positively gushes about life loved on someone else money.they have to.

I do confess to a fleeting flicker of guilt at having spent so long pissfarting on this thread today that poor, neglected husband got home from a 3 day long meeting and had to cook his own dinner.

Boden cardigan!!!!! you mean you have been given your autumn allowance?

weekends are for pandering to my alpha male of course. And washing all his clothes...they do get terribly dirty at the coal face you know.

Can I just check, would it be ok if I worked full time in a care home and we as a family spent the same amount I earned each month on after school clubs, a cleaner and bus fares for me to go to work?

Would that make it alright? At least I wouldn't have to get my dh to pay for my sanitary protection!

Do you disbelieve us, then SM?

Do you think that thousands of highly educated, qualified and experienced women across the country are sobbing into their muesli and thinking how shit their lives are without actually changing them by, yunno, getting a job?

Do you really think so little of women?

for goodness sake, you have plenty of time......knit some sanitary protection

Klad! I showed dh. He was amazed. We are in discussions. Are you Swedish? (I may have missed what you said).

tbh i think the sahms flame too outsourcing,baby farm,abandoned kids,precious moments.they arent timorous about a sahm-wohm debate

Oh no wait a minute I would.

well housewife would say that.it suits.if you dont earn so you need it be be shared.as you have no other means to money

SM, outsourcing? Um. no, loads of us pissfarters do that, haven't you been reading?

Can you show us where, on this thread, the terms precious moments, abandoned kids and baby farm ( when NOT used tongue in cheek) have been used, please?