To wonder why anyone with school-aged children would want to be a SAHM?

[Badtasteflump]

And what they do all day?

I have my flame-proof hard-hat ready

In the spirit of the general shit-stirring on here today I though I would ask this - as I do really wonder. Fair enough when you have pre-school aged children, I can understand wanting to be a SAHM. But once your children are at school full-time, what is there to do all day?

I work PT (school hours, basically). I manage (jointly with DH) to get all the housework, cooking, diy, etc) done in the evenings & weekends, no problem. If I were at home all day I really think I would go a bit mad - either that or I fear I would gradually become relegated to the role of house-slave, doing all the housework and childcare myself because I wouldn't have the excuse of a 'proper' job. . .

I am totally flabbergasted at the asking for tampon money scenario. How terribly decent of your dh though to spare you such embarrassment in the future...

SM, I'm sorry but could you stop calling us housewives, please? We're pissfarters.

Fanks.

Wamster and Scottish Mummy, what jobs do you do?

You're so determined to "cling to your independence" that you won't buy tampons rather than "ask" your husband? Seriously Wamster? I don't know where you got your views on marriage/independence but that is messed up.

I'm a SAHM. Sometimes I send my husband to the store to buy tampons. With his money.

HTH

go peruse mn,plenty precious moments mamas quips.
and outsourcing been done here
and no i wont traipse about on mn looking for the exact thread to substantiate what i read somewhere on mn

I work part time - a few days a week - so I'm not a SAHM. Now my DS has gone to school, I find that I spend the extra hours doing all the household chores. So I think that if you were a SAHM and were so inclined, you could easily spend the hours between school drop off and collection doing all the housework, shopping, preparing dinner etc and being the perfect housewife.

Having said that, my limited experience of SAHMs at our school is that most of them have cleaners and buy ready meals so I'm not sure what they do all day!!!

pissfarter i like.v onomatopoeic

DH once got a bonus that was 3x my annual income, at that point I did kinda wonder what the point of us all running around trying to manage two jobs were.

I don't feel even the tiniest twinge of guilt. Before getting married DH and I discussed children and what the plan was. DH was more keen on having kids than I was and really did a hard sell on me for DS2.

My life really is a bed of roses, I am not actually sorry about that, it is great. An abundance of time is good to me, I do all the stuff I need to then I get to do the fun stuff. No need to stretch it out for the week.

We have joint everything and I do not ask for money because it is as my money as his, we are a family unit, this setup works for DH as much as for anyone else.

My going back to work full time would have to mean a massive drop in income because DH would need to change jobs. Fuck that. We all enjoy the convenience of having one parent at home.

It works.

But we aren't talking about other MN threads SM, we are talking on this thread.

It's a bit , well lame, to have to think up comments from other threads to justify being a bit nasty about other women, isn't it?

Morloth....I'm right with you

Morloth.

Well said and I am exactly the same.

If your DH gets more in a day than you get in a month, you have to seriously question the sanity of working full time , you really do.

not at all.conversations flow and draw from sources immediate and recalled.same on mn people talk specifically and generally

and no im not being nasty or widdle bit mean to the housewife
it is a lively discussion,face it both sides are dishing it out

Brilliantly put, Morloth.

My DH calls me a woman of comfort and ease.

He's right, too. And he's very happy and actually, I'll say it, proud that I can be.

Ooo yes BeerTricks my DH uses loads more loo roll than me as I am a folder and he is a scruncher, the wastrel.

I think he probably owes me money.

What is your job scottish?

Marsha no, I'm English, as is my husband. He's a scientist on a long running international project. When the UK government cut the funding to university research, his contract came to an end. The project didn't want to lose him, there was a bit of a fight between Germany and Sweden as to who should steal him, Sweden won.

The downside for moving to Sweden, which didn't apply to us, is that finding work is incredibly difficult unless you are specialised in something in short supply. Lack of work is the biggest problem faced by expats who didn't have something lined up before they came. The lady I know who sold up and moved over without work was fine as her husband is a carpenter. In a country full of houses made entirely of wood, he hasn't stopped working since he stepped off the plane.

SM, I do think you should tell us what you do. Come on, dont be coy

Is he a wadder or a 2 sheets sort of man though Beer?

I'd also add that it's really difficult to find work during school hours only. For most mothers, it's a choice between full time work or nothing.

no sm, both sides are not dishing it out

We have been called/implied leeches, housewives, money grabbing, lazy, failed to contribute to society etc

Our answers have been structured around explaining what we do and why.

We havent been questionning your core values or ethics, neither have we been belittling your choices or lifestyle

i abandon my kids and pursue money obviously.profligate outsourcer

Can SM and Wamster tell us what your jobs are.

We SAHMs have been forthcoming about how we spend our time. It's only fair that you tell us how you spend your day at work.

look im not gong to trawl back to prove someone said summat mean.nor should you.both sides are slugging it out