aibu - other people feeding my child

[glub]

so my daughter's started nursery this term. this nursery feeds them a 'snack' at half ten in the morning. since when does a snack consist of a slice of toast, buttered presumably, three quarters of an apple, half a banana and a cup of milk? that's practically a meal ffs! and only a couple of hours after i feed her a good breakfast of porridge and fruit with a cup of milk. why why why?! and then i'm supposed to still feed her lunch at midday when her brother and i eat? she says herself that nursery feed her lunch it's weird why do they insist on feeding them? my daughter's perfectly healthy as is she does not need an extra meal forced upon her! she does not do more exercise at nursery than at home as is their excuse. and i know they encourage her to eat as they were a bit worried that she was not a good eater when she only was hungry enough for a few grapes on the first day. she's a perfectly good eater. not a skinny delicate child. and then she walks out of nursery with a chocolate bar in her hand! it was someone's birthday apparently. and then she cries as i tell her it's for after lunch not before even though all the other kids are stuffing their faces... :(
and then later she goes to dance class... they give them a single sweet at the end of the class. only once a week, they've just done 45 mins of dancing... it's not the end of the world right? but still not happy about it - who are they to introduce this crap to my kid!? but am allowing it. don't want her to be left out.
but then on top of that she says they had cake there as it was someone's birthday! why do they not inform the parents about this?

so now she's barely eaten any dinner. argh!

Is this thread for real??? Seriously??!!!

HoneyPablo - remembering back to when my dses were little, as well as the food that is squashed onto the table, dropped onto the floor or eaten by another child - there's the food that is squashed onto the table, then dropped onto the floor and finally eaten by another child. At least, that's what happened in my house!

Of course that was before we got the dog. Now the 5 second rule does not apply in our house, as the dog snaps up any dropped morsels within microseconds. I swear she can hear food falling from two rooms away.

It is for real MisWanksALot-people have no idea about children and nutrition. They are going the right way to set up eating problems in later life.

at ds's nursery the kids all served themselves from whatever was on offer at snack time i.e. they were not given a set amount as they put whatever thay wanted onto their plates/into bowls, etc. They were encouraged not to take too much of any one thing so that there was plenty for everyone.

Glub - have you spoken to the nursery or decided to let it lie?

Glub spelt backwards is bulg(e).