To not wash my DH's clothes?

[CailinDana]

I thought I'd start a thread on this as I mentioned it within another thread and got some responses. I have never washed my DH's clothes and I never will unless he becomes ill or incapacitated. I'm a SAHM and I do wash DS's clothes. As far as I'm concerned clothes washing is part of personal hygiene, it's a person's own business to ensure they have clean underwear and I'm not getting involved. There is no way on earth I would pick up DH's dirty underpants and socks (usually from the floor where they reside) and I just don't have time to hang it all out and take it all in. Once DS is old enough (about 10 is reasonable I think) he will become responsible for his own washing. Doing washing for someone else strikes me as a bit servile to be honest.

I don't iron anything ever. DH has his own wash basket. He has never complained about this situation. AIBU?

i am a stay at home mum and my dp goes to works and supports us. this arrangement was his choice but as he goes out to work everyday i see it as my job it raise his child keep a clean home do his washing and i cook his meals.
that may sound very old fashioned but we take turns in washing up and cleaning the animals. he does all DIY around the house and if i don't cook he pays for takeaway. i don't do ironing and he helps putting washing away ect.
we are a partnership and he does stuff i hate doing like taking the bins out he also cant cook to save his life. family life is about doing things to help each other. i agree in not picking up his dirty washing from the floor because i don't but wouldn't it make life easier to do the washing all together.

Who really gives a toss about how other people's domestic lives work?
The OP said she is happy and he Dh is happy so who really cares?

Fair enough maybells - I am pretty much a SAHM myself since my TA contract at son's school finished last term ( just doing a few hours there as lunch time supervisor ATM )

• But please, is it just his child and his meals you're cooking ?

How about our child ( if that is the case, which even if DSS I would certainly say ) and our meals

jugglingwiththreeshoes - it's not just men, it could apply to anyone! I'm 'rubbish' at ironing, loading the dishwasher and putting the bins out. So I leave those things to dh. He's rubbish at cooking. So I do it.

I think it's a very sad state of affairs if you are constantly on the look out who's doing what. In a family you all just muck in together. I teach my children not just to pick up after themselves but if something needs putting away or doing, then you do it regardless of whose it is!

That's fine as long as not everyone claims to be rubbish at the same things !

i dont do him his own dinners if i cant be bothered to cook we are quite relaxed with most stuff. when i worked he had to chip in with all the choirs. i get frowned upon because he changes ds nappies, people still think its only a womens job!

I think that in any household there are communal chores/errands and personal chores/errands. For me, laundry comes under the heading of "communal" chores/errands and I wash all our clothes together (albeit in a highly maniacal colour-coded way). But there is an argument for laundry being a personal chore.